Posted on January 8, 2019
She was down, she was sad.
She felt lost, she felt mad.
The days were long, tiring and tough.
She held on though. Because, of love.
As the year went on and came to an end.
She finally realized it was time to shift, it was time to bend.
The moment had come when transforming was vital.
Change was happening and she was no longer idle.
She pushed on the gas and that’s all it took.
A shift in perspective to start a new book.
“Perspective is power”
This poem was literally off the top of my head and it signifies my last 12-16 months and the mental battles I have been dealing with. The war in my own head.
Suicidal thoughts, major anxiety which formed a depression that would just basically hold hands with my anxiousness all day long.
This battle will come to an end and my story ends with me winning either way.
Speak into yourself often. It’s more powerful then we are taught it is.
I hope you know and believe in yourself enough to know that whatever you are going through is not your end. It does not define your story and you can start a new page every single day that allows an ending YOU WANT.
Perspective has literally altered my mindset and it’s only getting sharper.
Someone once said, “Fear of what is coming in the future, is anxiety and fear of what has happened in the past, is depression.
Why do we not focus on the present?
Thank you for reading
Posted on December 10, 2018
Perhaps some would pat you on the back or tell you good job, but that is the open and close to the action or compliment if that is how it’s done nowadays?
Is that enough for you?
Should you keep that energy around?
These are valid and necessary questions to ask yourself sometimes.
Especially when you are trying to do something that is totally against the grain. Something that you are building from scratch. It is not just a clock in and clock out kinda lifestyle.
Most times you end up with people that understand nothing about what your doing or why you are doing it. Good thing you are not doing it for them. Because boy oh boy would that pressure be tough or what? Having to please everybody else, including you!
Worrying about how you do things or move your life around to fit people in.
People that are important but currently not more important than your immediate family and goals.
If this can’t be respected, encouraged or understood from the opposing party.
You my friend are in for a bit of a tougher road. Best way too put it.
Sometimes there comes a day when people want to do something for themselves and unfortunately there is no room for extra.
It’s strictly family and work until a goal is met and a break can be given.
For the first time your doing something for yourself.
Has this happened to you or happening?
Because I completely know how you feel.
In fact we could not be on more of the same wave link as we are with this.
You see, there are time frames on things in life.
Even life itself.
There are time frames in our teenage years, the mistakes we make and learn from.
Then the decade of our twenties which we end up enduring a lot of experience.
Then when you finish up with the end of your twenties you branch into your thirties.
Here is when you are thinking a lot more about the deeper things in life.
Not saying that this is everyone. But, you have to admit this explanation is pretty average.
Now thinking deeper could be encouraged from settling down for a long period of time with your spouse and creating a family.
Seeing the importance of so much we take for granted.
Understanding how quickly time goes by and the value we throw away by not utilizing the time more wisely.
You and everyone else, is not a qualified recipe.
You are your own ingredients and everyone else is their own formula.
It important to remember when you branch out and start following the path you want and life you deserve. That you simply go after it.
It’s vital to not allow anyone to devalue that or misunderstand the importance of it too you.
Do not rearrange your goals and priorities. This is the first mistake that so many make when they think they can do it all.
Don’t get me wrong, there are probably a lot of you reading this that manage all the things that life throws at you.
Let me ask you something, “How’s that going?”
It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to prioritize and completely cut people out.
It’s your life. Your terms.
Friends if you have people in your circle that don’t understand what your fighting for or what your dealing with in your life.
It’s okay. It’s not their responsibility to know or understand.
It is up to you if you want to share it.
It’s up to you if you want to include those that actually help you thrive and if they do.
Just be sure you keep your environment positive and encouraging for your path.
Because I know to well, it does not take much to break someone that is already feeling broken.
If you are someone that is reading this and dealing with an individual who might not be around much.
Show them love, show them grace, ask them what’s wrong.
Understand that if you know them, you’ll know they aren’t hiding for any reason other than a valid one.
God bless and thanks for reading my thoughts today friends.
Now go out and do that thing, for you.
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Posted on December 5, 2018
Perhaps there will be a negative number of friends left on my personal page once this is read.
Either way, truth is truth and it goes both ways.
Have you ever looked at your friends list on whatever platform you use daily and know for a fact that not even 1/3 of those people are your friends?
Now, I understand if you use social media as a hub for connecting and marketing your business or perhaps even yourself as a brand. This is justified in having a large amount of followers.
We just need to be sure we understand the difference between friends and followers. Because trust me, definition of friends can not be compared to followers. It just does not mix.
Okay, so I have roughly 400 friends on my personal Facebook page. Let me be really honest here, I only talk to maybe 15 of those people regularly.
Knowing over half of the people on my friends list are from my past or simply called friends because of a list on Facebook. Reality checks them off as, acquaintances or simply a name on my list.
Why do we want on our personal pages to have SO many friends?
I mean in reality, nobody can talk to that many people regularly.
When I say, “That many people.” I am referring to those that have personal pages with over 2k friends.
I mean, create a page following if you are looking for that. Right?
Are we trying to fool ourselves?
Is this coming off too brash or rude?
Not my intention but also not, not my intention.
Having the small but sorta big number of friends on my list, only maybe 1/10 will ever actually support me and my personal goals while following my personal page…
Why are you friends with me?
Why are we friends with people when we really are not?
Why do we try to alter the BEAUTIFUL and MEANINGFUL definition of a friend?
Currently with all transparency I am having a moment of clarity that I am also someone who is friends with people or follow people who have no relevance or purpose in my life.
Clear out time?
Sometimes I think the number we see on a screen is reality to us.
When really if you take away all the fake, all the likes and pretend friends. You end up with a bare feed of news and recipes. About a handful of friends and followers left. Usually about 1/3 is worth keeping around.
I suppose that depends on the number you currently have for your friends list.
I think it’s important to start being real with ourselves.
Mentally we all need clarification that social media with all that it creates and hides isn’t reality.
Emotionally it is vital and non negotiable to not allow numbers and media too make you feel less than anything outside of magical and capable of endless possibilities.
Physically social media has dumbed down society to believe we need to look like a Barbie or walk around like we own shit, or something like that. Tight bodies, flabby ones, skinny ones or just plain plump figures. We are all perfectly made!
I hope and encourage you to not allow social media to let you feel anything else.
I also want to add the most important thoughts I had meant to intentionally share here.
Stop pretending to be friends with someone if you’re not.
If you are not prioritizing or making effort to keep friendship or create it. Then you don’t want it as bad as you say. Stop hiding behind social media and calling that connection a friendship. We all know how friendship is created and it surely is not real, if its not real.
If you see a post on social media made by a friend or even a friend of a friend. LIKE IT. LOVE IT. Show support anyway you possibly can.
It means something to that person.
Your love and support no matter how close, means something.
So if you’re gonna follow people or be friends with them but never actually meet.
Heck most the time it’s just a friend add and that is as far as it goes.
If that is the case, show the love. Show support.
Social media can be a lot of bad, but it can also be a powerhouse for good.
Let’s spread more good. Let’s be more genuine. Let’s be more encouraging and supportive to our friends.
Because in the end isn’t social media all about spreading the word?
BY GRACE THROUGH FAITH
journey to the little things