When things took a turn

Perspective

She was down, she was sad.

She felt lost, she felt mad.

The days were long, tiring and tough.

She held on though. Because, of love.

As the year went on and came to an end.

She finally realized it was time to shift, it was time to bend.

The moment had come when transforming was vital.

Change was happening and she was no longer idle.

She pushed on the gas and that’s all it took.

A shift in perspective to start a new book.

-Ashley Roberts

“Perspective is power”

This poem was literally off the top of my head and it signifies my last 12-16 months and the mental battles I have been dealing with. The war in my own head.

Suicidal thoughts, major anxiety which formed a depression that would just basically hold hands with my anxiousness all day long.

This battle will come to an end and my story ends with me winning either way.

Speak into yourself often. It’s more powerful then we are taught it is.

I hope you know and believe in yourself enough to know that whatever you are going through is not your end. It does not define your story and you can start a new page every single day that allows an ending YOU WANT.

Perspective has literally altered my mindset and it’s only getting sharper.

Someone once said, “Fear of what is coming in the future, is anxiety and fear of what has happened in the past, is depression.

Why do we not focus on the present?

Thank you for reading

You and everyone else…

Have you ever done something in your life when you got no support from people actually present around you?

Perhaps some would pat you on the back or tell you good job, but that is the open and close to the action or compliment if that is how it’s done nowadays?

Is that enough for you?

Should you keep that energy around?

These are valid and necessary questions to ask yourself sometimes.

Especially when you are trying to do something that is totally against the grain. Something that you are building from scratch. It is not just a clock in and clock out kinda lifestyle.

Most times you end up with people that understand nothing about what your doing or why you are doing it. Good thing you are not doing it for them. Because boy oh boy would that pressure be tough or what? Having to please everybody else, including you!

Worrying about how you do things or move your life around to fit people in.

People that are important but currently not more important than your immediate family and goals.

If this can’t be respected, encouraged or understood from the opposing party.

You my friend are in for a bit of a tougher road. Best way too put it.

Sometimes there comes a day when people want to do something for themselves and unfortunately there is no room for extra.

It’s strictly family and work until a goal is met and a break can be given.

For the first time your doing something for yourself.

Go you!

Has this happened to you or happening?

Because I completely know how you feel.

In fact we could not be on more of the same wave link as we are with this.

You see, there are time frames on things in life.

Even life itself.

There are time frames in our teenage years, the mistakes we make and learn from.

Then the decade of our twenties which we end up enduring a lot of experience.

Then when you finish up with the end of your twenties you branch into your thirties.

Here is when you are thinking a lot more about the deeper things in life.

Not saying that this is everyone. But, you have to admit this explanation is pretty average.

Now thinking deeper could be encouraged from settling down for a long period of time with your spouse and creating a family.

Seeing the importance of so much we take for granted.

Understanding how quickly time goes by and the value we throw away by not utilizing the time more wisely.

You and everyone else, is not a qualified recipe.

You are your own ingredients and everyone else is their own formula.

It important to remember when you branch out and start following the path you want and life you deserve. That you simply go after it.

It’s vital to not allow anyone to devalue that or misunderstand the importance of it too you.

Do not rearrange your goals and priorities. This is the first mistake that so many make when they think they can do it all.

Don’t get me wrong, there are probably a lot of you reading this that manage all the things that life throws at you.

Let me ask you something, “How’s that going?”

It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to prioritize and completely cut people out.

It’s your life. Your terms.

Friends if you have people in your circle that don’t understand what your fighting for or what your dealing with in your life.

It’s okay. It’s not their responsibility to know or understand.

It is up to you if you want to share it.

It’s up to you if you want to include those that actually help you thrive and if they do.

Just be sure you keep your environment positive and encouraging for your path.

Because I know to well, it does not take much to break someone that is already feeling broken.

If you are someone that is reading this and dealing with an individual who might not be around much.

Show them love, show them grace, ask them what’s wrong.

Understand that if you know them, you’ll know they aren’t hiding for any reason other than a valid one.

God bless and thanks for reading my thoughts today friends.

Now go out and do that thing, for you.

Why do we do it?

Someone once told me that if you don’t believe in yourself, nobody else will either.

At that moment the comment was not invited nor reciprocated in a positive manner.

Even though looking back it was merely a wise piece of advice.

I now use that small sentence to motivate me at my low moments of seeking out belief from others. To turn around looking in the mirror, knowing it’s my responsibility to first have the belief in myself before it would ever be given.

Why do we demean ourselves and the conviction of what we believe in or do?

Why do we not stand tall when someone asks us simply, “what do you do?”

Why do we shy away from our paths even when no career is in place?

Why do we care so much about other people and their opinions?

Why?

Those are simply just a few questions that came to mind which I know have been questioned. (Personal experience)

Do you ever ask yourself why we seek out validation?

Knowing a few individuals who have personality types that are absolute on needing validation.

Yet, behind doors they have zero belief in themselves.

How can there be true fulfillment?

Behind doors they cry in fear of what others think.

Why do we do this to ourselves?

Last year, blogging came into my life and forever has changed it. Being a stay at home mom with no consistent income and a husband who was tired and supporting us with loads of love.

You see when I began the journey a lot of people questioned me and my choice of what the hell I was doing or trying to learn too do.

Of course being the odd duck and always being outside the box.

But, the pressure actually got to me and the hiatus happened.

I had allowed them and the opinions to win.

How dare I!

After the hiatus and hard realization of feeling something missing, blogging came back to my life and here I am.

My point to the short story is simply that if I would of listened, if I would not have believed in myself enough.

This would not be here right now.

The improvement and knowledge gained would not be here right now.

The important thing was, the thing that was missing and created that short break.

Was belief in myself.

Being so busy seeking out validation and belief from other people, I simply forgot to see it in myself.

Which lead me to writing this short but sweet message. In hopes to encourage or enlighten another.

Next time you feel like your doing something for you and something that lights you on fire.

Something that you can not let go of and forget.

Don’t. Do not stop fighting for it.

Believe in yourself. Believe that you are capable of literally anything you allow your mind to learn and do.

Remember how powerful you are and that belief in yourself, is some type of power on its own.

Oh what the Holiday‚Äôs Bring!

 


What type of person are you?


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Are you someone that prepares for holiday shopping 3 or more months ahead?

Do you budget out and save properly to ensure all the things for the holiday?

Can you count on 2 hands the number of things you need to accomplish?

Don’t worry if you said, “No.” Because it’s not about what you have been doing, it’s about what you can start doing!


Oh the weather outside is frightful


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Wrong! It’s white and glistening! It’s fresh and crisp! It’s cold but is prepping for a new beginning in Spring.

Perspective my friends.

Wherever you are in the world I hope you enjoy all the beauty this time of year brings.

Personally, the Pacific Northwest starts getting chilly in mid-October. By the end of November, it is really damn cold!

For instance, it is 33 degrees Fahrenheit currently outside. Christmas is only twenty-four days away and there are six gifts to still be picked out and purchased.

Now, even tho Christmas and this time of year should not be about gifts and spending money, it sure feels good to give.

When people tell me that we don’t need to buy them a gift or we don’t need to plan and ask too early.

My response is this, “We are spending money on something for you because we want to give to you. We also want to be sure we gift you with something you will love and use.”

Truly this season and all the giving it allows, Is truly beautiful.

So bundle up and get out there to give back to someone you love and cherish!


We always have to save!


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Now there is nothing wrong with not being able to whip out 500$ or more for gift buying during the season.

We simply budget properly per gift, per person and we make that happen.

Because in the end, it is the thought that counts.

Budgeting strategically can seriously save you hundreds of dollars. If you have never done it and just go with the flow. You should try it one year and see what you can achieve!

But, perhaps your a saver and an individual who takes gift buying to the extreme. Pricing out each gift and purchasing as sales happen. Go, you!

Simply we have over twenty gifts every year to pick and purchase.

Yes. You read the headline properly.

Between children, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, each other and our daughter we have a lot happening.

Also, there are roughly 8 birthdays that happen between the last week of October thru the last weekend of January.

The gift picking is the most stressful only because a lot of people have a difficult time giving ideas.

Something personally that has never been an issue for myself. Giving ideas is the easy part!

However, I would say only about 1/3 give ideas and the rest we wing it! Somehow we have been pretty successful over the last 10 years.

If you are somewhere warm and sunny with sand and blue waters. Please come and pick me up. Ha!

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I hope you all take the time to actually enjoy the gift buying this year. Even when it can be exhausting and the creativity gets low.

Think about the faces that happen and expressions retrieved when those gifts are given.

Thank you for reading! Have a beautiful week!img_0544

Mom Super Power?

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Oh my gosh. If someone ever handed me a Genie Bottle to make some ridiculous wish(es.) I would absolutely choose to have a Super Power and mine would be, “Flash!” Right?! I mean, as a Mom that only makes sense. For all you Moms that have more than one child. I want you to know I just clapped my hands for you. Ha Ha. I’m not even kidding, I did. You are impressive! I also want you to know, I think you are an alien from another planet. Because only something out of this world can handle double the amount of snot and feces. I mean don’t get me wrong, I don’t look down on it. I just think your nuts. Ha Ha. I have one and I feel like I run a zoo, that has landmines everywhere. Instead of Zoo Animal poop landmines. Its Plastic toys that jam into the bottom of your feet, or make you trip and fall. Like your one half of a fifth into some whiskey. Ha Ha. Hey, maybe you are. I won’t judge you but keep it out of the reach of children. Ha Ha!

So like I was saying, I would be Flash! I could literally always have a clean house, top too bottom organization, I mean I could even go to Paris and be back in time for dinner! That would seriously boost my Mom street credit. I mean think of the possibilities! Let us do it together.

Scenario, Mom of two little boys. Ages 6 and 8, they are both in public school and have after school activities they both attend. Mom also has a Full-time job that is rather demanding of her. The father is a pilot, and he is away for work a lot so he can support his family. While the mom is home working, and tending to the children. So let us imagine what her day looks like. Wake up, get ready. But don’t forget the boys need to be ready for school too. Which we ALL know, almost all boys, let alone kids take absolutely forever to just keep enough focus to dress themselves. So priorities are, yes mom will need a shower. But her first job is to feed the boys, ensure they are getting dressed, ready for their day before school, she needs to pack lunches, and be sure the boys have clean jeans on. Yeah, you know what I’m talking about.

Okay, so I am gonna stop there because I know you are getting the drift that this mom. Let alone a lot of moms out there that have a list of things to do in a short amount of time, and the paper isn’t long enough to write the list. Dads have a lot of responsibility, don’t get me wrong. But mom life, holy bananas. We are like bumble bees. Right? So my point is, that I would choose Flash. Simply for the purpose of knowing and ensuring that everything would be done with a breeze and not a skip of a breath. I like that. I like the sound of that a lot. Don’t you?

Or, am I the Alien?

 

(Feel free to share what Super Power you would choose, and why)

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