Posted on December 5, 2018
Perhaps there will be a negative number of friends left on my personal page once this is read.
Either way, truth is truth and it goes both ways.
Have you ever looked at your friends list on whatever platform you use daily and know for a fact that not even 1/3 of those people are your friends?
Now, I understand if you use social media as a hub for connecting and marketing your business or perhaps even yourself as a brand. This is justified in having a large amount of followers.
We just need to be sure we understand the difference between friends and followers. Because trust me, definition of friends can not be compared to followers. It just does not mix.
Okay, so I have roughly 400 friends on my personal Facebook page. Let me be really honest here, I only talk to maybe 15 of those people regularly.
Knowing over half of the people on my friends list are from my past or simply called friends because of a list on Facebook. Reality checks them off as, acquaintances or simply a name on my list.
Why do we want on our personal pages to have SO many friends?
I mean in reality, nobody can talk to that many people regularly.
When I say, “That many people.” I am referring to those that have personal pages with over 2k friends.
I mean, create a page following if you are looking for that. Right?
Are we trying to fool ourselves?
Is this coming off too brash or rude?
Not my intention but also not, not my intention.
Having the small but sorta big number of friends on my list, only maybe 1/10 will ever actually support me and my personal goals while following my personal page…
Why are you friends with me?
Why are we friends with people when we really are not?
Why do we try to alter the BEAUTIFUL and MEANINGFUL definition of a friend?
Currently with all transparency I am having a moment of clarity that I am also someone who is friends with people or follow people who have no relevance or purpose in my life.
Clear out time?
Sometimes I think the number we see on a screen is reality to us.
When really if you take away all the fake, all the likes and pretend friends. You end up with a bare feed of news and recipes. About a handful of friends and followers left. Usually about 1/3 is worth keeping around.
I suppose that depends on the number you currently have for your friends list.
I think it’s important to start being real with ourselves.
Mentally we all need clarification that social media with all that it creates and hides isn’t reality.
Emotionally it is vital and non negotiable to not allow numbers and media too make you feel less than anything outside of magical and capable of endless possibilities.
Physically social media has dumbed down society to believe we need to look like a Barbie or walk around like we own shit, or something like that. Tight bodies, flabby ones, skinny ones or just plain plump figures. We are all perfectly made!
I hope and encourage you to not allow social media to let you feel anything else.
I also want to add the most important thoughts I had meant to intentionally share here.
Stop pretending to be friends with someone if you’re not.
If you are not prioritizing or making effort to keep friendship or create it. Then you don’t want it as bad as you say. Stop hiding behind social media and calling that connection a friendship. We all know how friendship is created and it surely is not real, if its not real.
If you see a post on social media made by a friend or even a friend of a friend. LIKE IT. LOVE IT. Show support anyway you possibly can.
It means something to that person.
Your love and support no matter how close, means something.
So if you’re gonna follow people or be friends with them but never actually meet.
Heck most the time it’s just a friend add and that is as far as it goes.
If that is the case, show the love. Show support.
Social media can be a lot of bad, but it can also be a powerhouse for good.
Let’s spread more good. Let’s be more genuine. Let’s be more encouraging and supportive to our friends.
Because in the end isn’t social media all about spreading the word?
Posted on March 29, 2018
Dear Fellow Mom,
Today I was reading a letter from someone very dear to me. It brought tears of sadness, yet I was able to also share some tears with a smile. I share this with you today my fellow mom because while I was reading that letter. I took a moment to pay attention to how I was feeling so, that I could address how to feel better. While I came to the conclusion reading that letter I felt Empty, because I was missing the person that wrote it. Yet, I also felt a heart full of love for this person. For some reason, feeling those two things at that moment made me think about other Moms. How do you ask? I am really not 100 percent what actually led me to this analogy or thought process. Sometimes things just happen with absolutely no explanation. But let me try to explain the best I can.
Fellow mom you are not alone. That is where I would like to start. I know in the hustle and bustle of life we can forget the simplest of things such as remembering we are not alone. We as moms need the reminder every so often because our brains start to resemble what I like to refer too as “Tracers.” Can you relate? It can be tough juggling life and all that it throws at you. I know because, well I am alive too. I am not sure if you are a stay at home mom, a part-time working mom, full time working mom, or the OVER TIME career working mom. Either way in my eyes your on the same platform as me. You’re a Mom. No matter how busy or not busy you are, the feeling of emptiness happens. I just wanted to tell you, “It’s okay, to not be okay.” No one is going to judge you for feeling empty or alone. If someone ever was judgemental or mean to you for expressing that, I am so sorry. For me personally, all that validates is the person that judged you probably need a hug more than you do. I truly believe we need to stop the thought process that if someone is rude or cranky we automatically turn to sourness. That to me is the vicious circle I see happening with moms today. Yet here we are on facebook, blogs, tweets, Instagram and just internet in general. I see it everywhere. Moms complaining, crying, fighting and just plain being nasty to one another. Why? Why are we doing this when collectively if we all paid more attention we would see, that we ALL are saying the same thing. We just all deliver it differently. If only we could open our minds and be kind to one another. TRY and understand that we really all are fighting the same battle. Mom Life is hard. It does not make you weaker or less smart. Its just the way it is and there is absolutely no correcting the fact that raising a human is a lot of work. Feeling Empty sometimes is natural and normal. We as mothers give A lot out and we naturally do it with love. (Most the time) So I guess I wanted to just give you that little reminder that you are not alone, and its okay to feel empty sometimes. Just don’t forget you’re important and it is okay to give yourself grace. I encourage you to be easier on yourself and do more of reminding yourself how strong you are.
But, I suppose in the end if we only absolutely have to encounter feeling Empty, at least we can see the bright side that we have a Full Heart.
Another Fellow Mom
BY GRACE THROUGH FAITH
journey to the little things