Posted on January 1, 2019
Have you started your New Years Resolution?
Perhaps you were up late last night preparing frozen meals, organizing shelves, taking notes for the first day in 2019 or maybe you laid around and spent quality time laughing with your family.
Either way, we all have goals when we begin something new.
The trends and the repetitive repeats of the year before.
Aren’t you sick of setting the same goals every year? Either not reaching them, half reaching them or perhaps, you did actually achieve them.
Good for you!
For those of you, like myself, that start and stop frequently in life by overfilling your “perfection plate.”
Trust when I say, “You are not on that wagon alone.”
However, this year I was hoping to encourage others like myself. Too hop off that old wagon and hurdle onto the new one that is actually moving!
Did you know that this is the very last teen of our century? The last teen in your lifetime.
It may not seem like some huge ordeal and perhaps it really is not.
However, sometimes believing something is your last, somehow makes you want to reach for it a little bit more.
Kind of like the theory of, you want what you can’t have.
But, it is not here nor there.
What it is about is, you. This year, it is about kicking your own ass.
If that is physically for you, get on it!
If that is mentally for you, seek it!
If that is emotionally for you, dig for it!
You truly have the power inside of you even when you feel like you don’t.
You are human and it is absolutely normal and natural to simply just feel like you can’t.
But, what I am here to tell you is, you can!
I used to think, that putting a ton of shit on my plate was the best way to get all the things done.
I used to think, that by shooting for 10 things I was stronger or smarter somehow.
I used to…
But this year, this year we can change all we have ever known and done.
Because this year, there is belief like never before. There is passion and there is fire inside of you!
Can you feel it?!
Stop going against what you know your meant to do or be! Don’t worry about what everyone or even that one person will think.
The only persons opinion that matters about you, is yours!
You can never truly be your genuine self if all you do is hide behind a shadow of someone you are not.
Here are some personal tips on how to start and move towards your wanted direction.
I know this is tough. I’m aware it’s the hardest part. But dig deep, soul search and figure out what is burning inside of you. The thing you can not live without. You do not need to be great at this thing. You just have to have a big enough passion and hunger to go after it.
No, you do not need to be an architect to blue print your process. You simply need a pencil, some paper and a vision. What is the first step to getting your # 1? I’m not talking about taking the first step here. Simply just writing or drawing it out first. There is SERIOUS magic in writing things down.
Is it changing your attitude?
Is it changing your friends?
Is it adding more nutrition?
Is it implementing more self talk?
How will you get what you want? Figure this out and the next step comes easier.
The scariest part. At least for me personally.
Actually, following through with all the things that were just written down is freaky all by itself.
Probably asking yourself, “Am I seriously going to do this?” “Is this actually going to even work?”
Been there and guess what?
You will never know unless you TRY!
So stop allowing FEAR and DOUBT to stop you from everything you DESERVE!
Which takes me to my last tip.
Before you speak, think. Because our reality becomes what we create.
If we are constantly feeding ourselves doubt through thoughts.
Well my friends, I will just tell you now that you will spin your plates for a long time by doing so.
You disservice yourself and all those around you by speaking poorly. By thinking poorly.
We are what we feel and we become what we surround ourself with physically and mentally.
I know this might seem a bit deep and weird to wrap up my last tip this way.
But, it’s truth and if you don’t start taking the filter process more seriously. You will self destruct before you even flip the switch to try.
Believe in yourself. Believe in the power of you!
Always remember that being intentional with everything you do can be life altering.
A few things in 2019 I will personally be doing:
NUMBER ONE IS THE GOAL FOR 2019!
The rest are things I plan on working on and getting better at with application and time.
X O X O
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Posted on December 10, 2018
Perhaps some would pat you on the back or tell you good job, but that is the open and close to the action or compliment if that is how it’s done nowadays?
Is that enough for you?
Should you keep that energy around?
These are valid and necessary questions to ask yourself sometimes.
Especially when you are trying to do something that is totally against the grain. Something that you are building from scratch. It is not just a clock in and clock out kinda lifestyle.
Most times you end up with people that understand nothing about what your doing or why you are doing it. Good thing you are not doing it for them. Because boy oh boy would that pressure be tough or what? Having to please everybody else, including you!
Worrying about how you do things or move your life around to fit people in.
People that are important but currently not more important than your immediate family and goals.
If this can’t be respected, encouraged or understood from the opposing party.
You my friend are in for a bit of a tougher road. Best way too put it.
Sometimes there comes a day when people want to do something for themselves and unfortunately there is no room for extra.
It’s strictly family and work until a goal is met and a break can be given.
For the first time your doing something for yourself.
Has this happened to you or happening?
Because I completely know how you feel.
In fact we could not be on more of the same wave link as we are with this.
You see, there are time frames on things in life.
Even life itself.
There are time frames in our teenage years, the mistakes we make and learn from.
Then the decade of our twenties which we end up enduring a lot of experience.
Then when you finish up with the end of your twenties you branch into your thirties.
Here is when you are thinking a lot more about the deeper things in life.
Not saying that this is everyone. But, you have to admit this explanation is pretty average.
Now thinking deeper could be encouraged from settling down for a long period of time with your spouse and creating a family.
Seeing the importance of so much we take for granted.
Understanding how quickly time goes by and the value we throw away by not utilizing the time more wisely.
You and everyone else, is not a qualified recipe.
You are your own ingredients and everyone else is their own formula.
It important to remember when you branch out and start following the path you want and life you deserve. That you simply go after it.
It’s vital to not allow anyone to devalue that or misunderstand the importance of it too you.
Do not rearrange your goals and priorities. This is the first mistake that so many make when they think they can do it all.
Don’t get me wrong, there are probably a lot of you reading this that manage all the things that life throws at you.
Let me ask you something, “How’s that going?”
It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to prioritize and completely cut people out.
It’s your life. Your terms.
Friends if you have people in your circle that don’t understand what your fighting for or what your dealing with in your life.
It’s okay. It’s not their responsibility to know or understand.
It is up to you if you want to share it.
It’s up to you if you want to include those that actually help you thrive and if they do.
Just be sure you keep your environment positive and encouraging for your path.
Because I know to well, it does not take much to break someone that is already feeling broken.
If you are someone that is reading this and dealing with an individual who might not be around much.
Show them love, show them grace, ask them what’s wrong.
Understand that if you know them, you’ll know they aren’t hiding for any reason other than a valid one.
God bless and thanks for reading my thoughts today friends.
Now go out and do that thing, for you.
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Posted on November 30, 2018
Monster, Monster go away.
Monster, Monster please don’t stay.
Find a place far away.
Go so far that your chill no longer exists today.
Monster, Monster I’m only asking for this;
To feel sunshine and let it sink in.
To be alone and okay in my own skin.
To not be scared when things get tough.
To remember always that life is simply rough.
To keep in mind that just because, the flare ups come, does not mean I am forever numb.
Monster, Monster you have a name and even though I say it with shame.
Monster, Monster I am stronger than you. But some days your stronger than me too.
Until the day I dismiss you forever, I wont give up. Not today, not ever.
Written by: Ashley Roberts
Posted on November 29, 2018
Yeah, me too.
Reality check. If snapping your finger would solve something without the effort behind it, we would never have a bad day of sex again. Ha! Which we know everyone has bad days.
The inside giggle I am experiencing is so worth that comment.
The other day I was hanging with Gracie, my daughter. She was running around with this toy I bought her, seriously you guys I think I purchased it at the dollar store. It lights up looking like a magic wand changing colors.
She runs around with it waving it as if she is solving all her problems. Yelling and rambling to her stuffed animals as if she is saving the world.
I sat back and gazed at the imagination and creativity she was experiencing.
In that very moment I also was thinking about all the things I still needed to get done that day. I’m sure if you are a parent you can relate with the never ending list of to-do’s.
Literally 6 loads of clothes were just done to simply catch up. Went downstairs to realize there are 2 new loads to be washed. Sick household calls for multiple loads of laundry.
So, while sitting there pondering about what is next and what is priority, I began to daydream…
Could you picture if every single person in the world was gifted a magic wand? Perhaps we all would have different abilities and some shared. But, there would only be good done with the wands.
Could you imagine?
As a parent who stays home with the little one I tend to gravitate towards analogies based off that. Being a mom.
Think about this, if you are a parent then you will totally vibe with what I am gonna say.
Getting up in the morning and enjoying the morning; Getting up and relishing in the love and cuddles with the littles ones; Getting up and perhaps making that super delicious breakfast for the family because, you have the extra energy.
How about after breakfast is done, so are the dishes.
What if that little magic wand changed all those poopy diapers? What if you just had the choice to change which ones you wanted?
Could you imagine?
I imagine waking up and actually not rushing. Not needing to feel like I am on a time limit because the list of things to get done are endless and tiring. I imagine having a 5 star restaurant meal for every single time dinner is served for the family.
Could you imagine?
Yes, that will be repeated numerous times because it should be engraved into our brains that it is okay to NOT want to do all the things all the time.
We are human my friends. You and all of us have got to stop beating ourselves up because we don’t get all the things done.
The things can wait as we prioritize the more important tasks. Organize your list and don’t apply pressure for the small things.
Just because it may not be realistic and exist only merely in fairy tales. I will hold onto the magic that could be possible. Right?!
Because what is life without imagination?
Well, no life at all if you ask me. Dream the dreams that are so crazy they would be in fairy tales.
Dream dreams that occur in the middle of your day and not just in your sleep.
Dream dreams that will carry you thru your day and allow you to use your imagination on, what that magic wand is capable of.
Then, I want you to put your hands out and realize something important.
Those two hands your holding in front of you. Yes, all those 10 fingers and beautifully made hands.
Those are uniquely made, those are not copies, they are not too old or too young and by golly they are not incapable of magic.
Your two hands are capable of much more than magic. They are capable of creating in reality.
You posses a lot at the fingertips of your hands. You can accomplish more than you think. Even tho the tasks seem endless and tiring. They wont last forever.
The sink will be less full of dishes, the house will be clean more often, less to pick up, there will soon enough only be one bed in the house to make and before you blink, all those tasks will be missed.
The chores of a parent with one or multiple children are endless. But if I were to do one thing before I close it is this, to encourage you to leave here and know that you do posses the ability to get it all done.
However, I assure you the moment spent doing something other than a task. Is a memory made instead of a dirty dish cleaned.
Always weigh out your end result for your invested time.
I’d have to say my time spent giving love and worrying less about the tasks, fill my heart more than my never ending list ever could.
What about you do you tend to make too many demands of yourself?
BY GRACE THROUGH FAITH
journey to the little things