To begin can be scary

Have you started your New Years Resolution?

Perhaps you were up late last night preparing frozen meals, organizing shelves, taking notes for the first day in 2019 or maybe you laid around and spent quality time laughing with your family.

Either way, we all have goals when we begin something new.


The trends and the repetitive repeats of the year before.

Aren’t you sick of setting the same goals every year? Either not reaching them, half reaching them or perhaps, you did actually achieve them.

Good for you!

For those of you, like myself, that start and stop frequently in life by overfilling your “perfection plate.

Trust when I say, “You are not on that wagon alone.”

However, this year I was hoping to encourage others like myself. Too hop off that old wagon and hurdle onto the new one that is actually moving!


Did you know that this is the very last teen of our century? The last teen in your lifetime.

It may not seem like some huge ordeal and perhaps it really is not.

However, sometimes believing something is your last, somehow makes you want to reach for it a little bit more.

Kind of like the theory of, you want what you can’t have.

But, it is not here nor there.

What it is about is, you. This year, it is about kicking your own ass.

If that is physically for you, get on it!

If that is mentally for you, seek it!

If that is emotionally for you, dig for it!

You truly have the power inside of you even when you feel like you don’t.

You are human and it is absolutely normal and natural to simply just feel like you can’t.

But, what I am here to tell you is, you can!

I used to think, that putting a ton of shit on my plate was the best way to get all the things done.

I used to think, that by shooting for 10 things I was stronger or smarter somehow.

I used to…

But this year, this year we can change all we have ever known and done.

Because this year, there is belief like never before. There is passion and there is fire inside of you!

Can you feel it?!

Stop going against what you know your meant to do or be! Don’t worry about what everyone or even that one person will think.

The only persons opinion that matters about you, is yours!

You can never truly be your genuine self if all you do is hide behind a shadow of someone you are not.


Here are some personal tips on how to start and move towards your wanted direction.

  1. Figure out what you want.

I know this is tough. I’m aware it’s the hardest part. But dig deep, soul search and figure out what is burning inside of you. The thing you can not live without. You do not need to be great at this thing. You just have to have a big enough passion and hunger to go after it.

2. How will you get it? Blue print the plan.

No, you do not need to be an architect to blue print your process. You simply need a pencil, some paper and a vision. What is the first step to getting your # 1? I’m not talking about taking the first step here. Simply just writing or drawing it out first. There is SERIOUS magic in writing things down.

Is it changing your attitude?

Is it changing your friends?

Is it adding more nutrition?

Is it implementing more self talk?

How will you get what you want? Figure this out and the next step comes easier.

3. Take the first step

The scariest part. At least for me personally.

Actually, following through with all the things that were just written down is freaky all by itself.

Probably asking yourself, “Am I seriously going to do this?” “Is this actually going to even work?”

Been there and guess what?

You will never know unless you TRY!

So stop allowing FEAR and DOUBT to stop you from everything you DESERVE!

Which takes me to my last tip.

4. Get good at filtering your thoughts

Before you speak, think. Because our reality becomes what we create.

If we are constantly feeding ourselves doubt through thoughts.

Well my friends, I will just tell you now that you will spin your plates for a long time by doing so.

You disservice yourself and all those around you by speaking poorly. By thinking poorly.

We are what we feel and we become what we surround ourself with physically and mentally.

I know this might seem a bit deep and weird to wrap up my last tip this way.

But, it’s truth and if you don’t start taking the filter process more seriously. You will self destruct before you even flip the switch to try.

Believe in yourself. Believe in the power of you!

Always remember that being intentional with everything you do can be life altering.


Happy New Year 2019 to all of you! May you be showered with love and light.

A few things in 2019 I will personally be doing:

  • Being Intentional (My Word for the Year)
  • Learning to manage and work through my Anxiety.
  • Diminish my Personal depression for good!
  • Less unproductive Screen time
  • Increased creative time with Gracie
  • More dates with my Husband
  • Monetize my website
  • Find sponsorship for Podcast
  • Donate as much as possible
  • Attend church regularly
  • Makeup application & Beauty world
  • YouTube channel growth
  • Take walks outside and alone again. This has been a struggle since my anxiety took over.
  • Better nutrition and self care for the inside of my body.
  • Read more and take more notes

NUMBER ONE IS THE GOAL FOR 2019!

The rest are things I plan on working on and getting better at with application and time.

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You and everyone else…

Have you ever done something in your life when you got no support from people actually present around you?

Perhaps some would pat you on the back or tell you good job, but that is the open and close to the action or compliment if that is how it’s done nowadays?

Is that enough for you?

Should you keep that energy around?

These are valid and necessary questions to ask yourself sometimes.

Especially when you are trying to do something that is totally against the grain. Something that you are building from scratch. It is not just a clock in and clock out kinda lifestyle.

Most times you end up with people that understand nothing about what your doing or why you are doing it. Good thing you are not doing it for them. Because boy oh boy would that pressure be tough or what? Having to please everybody else, including you!

Worrying about how you do things or move your life around to fit people in.

People that are important but currently not more important than your immediate family and goals.

If this can’t be respected, encouraged or understood from the opposing party.

You my friend are in for a bit of a tougher road. Best way too put it.

Sometimes there comes a day when people want to do something for themselves and unfortunately there is no room for extra.

It’s strictly family and work until a goal is met and a break can be given.

For the first time your doing something for yourself.

Go you!

Has this happened to you or happening?

Because I completely know how you feel.

In fact we could not be on more of the same wave link as we are with this.

You see, there are time frames on things in life.

Even life itself.

There are time frames in our teenage years, the mistakes we make and learn from.

Then the decade of our twenties which we end up enduring a lot of experience.

Then when you finish up with the end of your twenties you branch into your thirties.

Here is when you are thinking a lot more about the deeper things in life.

Not saying that this is everyone. But, you have to admit this explanation is pretty average.

Now thinking deeper could be encouraged from settling down for a long period of time with your spouse and creating a family.

Seeing the importance of so much we take for granted.

Understanding how quickly time goes by and the value we throw away by not utilizing the time more wisely.

You and everyone else, is not a qualified recipe.

You are your own ingredients and everyone else is their own formula.

It important to remember when you branch out and start following the path you want and life you deserve. That you simply go after it.

It’s vital to not allow anyone to devalue that or misunderstand the importance of it too you.

Do not rearrange your goals and priorities. This is the first mistake that so many make when they think they can do it all.

Don’t get me wrong, there are probably a lot of you reading this that manage all the things that life throws at you.

Let me ask you something, “How’s that going?”

It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to prioritize and completely cut people out.

It’s your life. Your terms.

Friends if you have people in your circle that don’t understand what your fighting for or what your dealing with in your life.

It’s okay. It’s not their responsibility to know or understand.

It is up to you if you want to share it.

It’s up to you if you want to include those that actually help you thrive and if they do.

Just be sure you keep your environment positive and encouraging for your path.

Because I know to well, it does not take much to break someone that is already feeling broken.

If you are someone that is reading this and dealing with an individual who might not be around much.

Show them love, show them grace, ask them what’s wrong.

Understand that if you know them, you’ll know they aren’t hiding for any reason other than a valid one.

God bless and thanks for reading my thoughts today friends.

Now go out and do that thing, for you.

Strength is not always visible

Monster

Monster, Monster go away.

Monster, Monster please don’t stay.

Find a place far away.

Go so far that your chill no longer exists today. 

Monster, Monster I’m only asking for this;

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To feel sunshine and let it sink in.

To be alone and okay in my own skin.

To not be scared when things get tough.

To remember always that life is simply rough.

To keep in mind that just because, the flare ups come, does not mean I am forever numb.

Monster, Monster you have a name and even though I say it with shame.

Monster, Monster I am stronger than you. But some days your stronger than me too.

Until the day I dismiss you forever, I wont give up. Not today, not ever.

 

Written by: Ashley Roberts 

 

Wishing for a Magic Wand…

Have you ever just sat back and randomly been thinking about all the piles of things you need to accomplish? Have you ever wished it would happen with a snap of a finger?

Yeah, me too. 

Reality check. If snapping your finger would solve something without the effort behind it, we would never have a bad day of sex again. Ha! Which we know everyone has bad days.

The inside giggle I am experiencing is so worth that comment.

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The other day I was hanging with Gracie, my daughter. She was running around with this toy I bought her, seriously you guys I think I purchased it at the dollar store. It lights up looking like a magic wand changing colors.

She runs around with it waving it as if she is solving all her problems. Yelling and rambling to her stuffed animals as if she is saving the world.

I sat back and gazed at the imagination and creativity she was experiencing.

In that very moment I also was thinking about all the things I still needed to get done that day. I’m sure if you are a parent you can relate with the never ending list of to-do’s.

Literally 6 loads of clothes were just done to simply catch up. Went downstairs to realize there are 2 new loads to be washed. Sick household calls for multiple loads of laundry.

So, while sitting there pondering about what is next and what is priority, I began to daydream…

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Can you Imagine?

Could you picture if every single person in the world was gifted a magic wand? Perhaps we all would have different abilities and some shared. But, there would only be good done with the wands.

Could you imagine?

As a parent who stays home with the little one I tend to gravitate towards analogies based off that. Being a mom.

Think about this, if you are a parent then you will totally vibe with what I am gonna say.

Getting up in the morning and enjoying the morning; Getting up and relishing in the love and cuddles with the littles ones; Getting up and perhaps making that super delicious breakfast for the family because, you have the extra energy.

How about after breakfast is done, so are the dishes.

What if that little magic wand changed all those poopy diapers? What if you just had the choice to change which ones you wanted?

Could you imagine?

I imagine waking up and actually not rushing. Not needing to feel like I am on a time limit because the list of things to get done are endless and tiring. I imagine having a 5 star restaurant meal for every single time dinner is served for the family.

Could you imagine?

Yes, that will be repeated numerous times because it should be engraved into our brains that it is okay to NOT want to do all the things all the time.

We are human my friends. You and all of us have got to stop beating ourselves up because we don’t get all the things done.

The things can wait as we prioritize the more important tasks. Organize your list and don’t apply pressure for the small things.

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I will wave that wand tho

Just because it may not be realistic and exist only merely in fairy tales. I will hold onto the magic that could be possible. Right?!

Because what is life without imagination?  

Well, no life at all if you ask me. Dream the dreams that are so crazy they would be in fairy tales.

Dream dreams that occur in the middle of your day and not just in your sleep.

Dream dreams that will carry you thru your day and allow you to use your imagination on, what that magic wand is capable of.

Then, I want you to put your hands out and realize something important.

Those two hands your holding in front of you. Yes, all those 10 fingers and beautifully made hands.

Those are uniquely made, those are not copies, they are not too old or too young and by golly they are not incapable of magic.

Your two hands are capable of much more than magic. They are capable of creating in reality.

You posses a lot at the fingertips of your hands. You can accomplish more than you think. Even tho the tasks seem endless and tiring. They wont last forever.

The sink will be less full of dishes, the house will be clean more often, less to pick up, there will soon enough only be one bed in the house to make and before you blink, all those tasks will be missed.

The chores of a parent with one or multiple children are endless. But if I were to do one thing before I close it is this, to encourage you to leave here and know that you do posses the ability to get it all done.

However, I assure you the moment spent doing something other than a task. Is a memory made instead of a dirty dish cleaned.

Always weigh out your end result for your invested time.

I’d have to say my time spent giving love and worrying less about the tasks, fill my heart more than my never ending list ever could.

What about you do you tend to make too many demands of yourself?

I was really surprised when…

 


Can you believe…


About six years ago I was fortunate enough to meet a few people that had a great impact and influence on my life. Sadly they are no longer in our lives but, not on bad terms. Just terms that business relationships grew apart. They are and will always be incredible people that made a difference in my life. Isn’t it neat how we can come in contact with individuals in life yet they will only serve a short-term purpose? I have always found it fascinating how destiny just happens.
Anyhow, during the time they were coaching us thru our business and giving us tools to grow personally as well as being a business owner.

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Over the time frame of the first year, I was working with them, I had read 8 books. Eight! I hadn’t picked up a book and read the entire thing before that for years. Truth. Something inside me felt like I was doing it for a purpose. Which made me feel more inclined to read and learn what I was being directed to do.

Twenty-Seven years old, married for almost one year at this point and handed a book. A book I literally had never laid eyes on, been informed about nor had I ever heard of what they were talking about.

Gary Chapman an author which I will never forget because even tho I had read eight books prior to this one. This particular book I knew was going to be good for me. There are a few things that I personally struggle with giving. Probably with how I was raised or who I spent my time with. It could even simply be the information I was taught along my time growing up.

The Five Love Languages. This book is something I encourage every single person I meet to read. I believe that this book can later someone’s perspective on understanding how to love someone. If you have not read it, the link is above! I encourage you to do so, as soon as possible. You will not regret it.

llIn the book, they obviously talk about the 5 Love Languages and I do not want to spoil it for you. So this is what I want to do, I want to list out the five different languages that Gary lists here in his book.

  • Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Words of Affirmation
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch

Now, I only want to list the topics because I would love for you to first write down what you think these mean to you. What you think your love language is and what you think your spouse or partners are. Before you do anything else and go research stuff or read more. Do that first!

So, when I initially learned about this amazing way to love people and make them feel good. I was compelled to share it with anyone I could. If you were having any type of relationship issue, I would always suggest this book. Now I know it sounds weird and crazy to some people to have a “love tank.” But I assure you it is a real thing and when it is full it feels really good.

When I asked my family members and a lot of people I just generally associate with, they had no clue what I was talking about. Which I was not totally surprised since I had not very long ago either. So, I shared! I loaned my book or I would simply inform on where to go or what to look up. I truly believe in all my being that love languages are vital to a healthy and sustainable relationship.

Click here to take a fun little Quiz for your Love Language type!

If that be a best friend, a child, a pet or your husband and wife. Every living thing has a way it wants to be loved. A way that fills their heart and makes them feel loved. For example, I will use myself because that is the best testimony someone can have, right?

My whole life I basically grew up with no father figure. So for any type of healthy example to be given on how to love a man or a man to love a woman was not really exampled to me. My parents are great people so please don’t misunderstand. But, how could I possibly learn to compliment a man and know that they need affirmations just like women might if I was never shown the example?

Long story short, when I met my husband he is a man of affirmations. I had no idea how to give that to a man nor did I even know what Love languages were then. My Language is Acts of Service. So when someone does not know how to give the proper love to the other person, they tend to give the love they seek. (RE READ THAT last sentence) Which in the end is pretty disserving if the receiver is affirmations. Make sense? You will get tired of putting energy into a bucket with a hole. Trust me.

I mean it is nice for me to do things for my husband but, he would rather me compliment him on how proud I am of him. Instead of wash his car. Ha! When in my world, I want my car washed! HAHA! Who knew this stuff was real?! But it is. You should really give attention because I am telling you the reward is worth the effort. I think a great addition for ANY bookshelf. They also have a Children’s Love language book that I also Highly encourage you to take a peek at if you have children.

Anyways, I hope you were able to learn something here today or perhaps enjoy a fun little quiz and say you learned something about yourself. 

Keep in mind that sharing is caring! Hugs!

Hangry Hannah

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