Posted on December 7, 2018
The other day while browsing for material to read and gander at. An article came across that was so riveting it had me actual spend some time searching for some personal answers.
Things that in reality are really important to know about yourself. Even if that means you spend a decade figuring it out, which of course I never hope that on anyone.
Eventually the questions that deserve answers will be found.
Well, this is a very valid point as to why the list here is even going to exist.
Reflection my friends.
See, by doing this one-act a minimal amount of time every single day can literally transform your perspective.
Friends if you can alter your perspective and get a grasp on managing that. Well, your on your way to much bigger things then you can even imagine.
Reflection leads to Perspective.
No, this might not be a fact nor have I even tried looking that up. But, I am someone who believe in logic and when I say things out loud if they make sense logically they probably just make sense.
So my point is when I say that little sentence, “Reflection leads to Perspective.”
I am saying that merely because for me, it works. So I figured why in the world would I not share such a valuable and helpful piece of advice that has actually benefit me.
Sometimes for people doing things alone can be not just scary but, it can literally stop that person from actually doing it.
Fear is not to be underestimated and also not to be judged.
It’s so vital in today’s age we reach out, we lend a hand and we show grace for everyone.
With the diversity that has been created through all the negativity, it is more important not than it ever has been, too come together.
If you feel inside your gut that the person you are looking at needs some encouragement or a hug. Give them love, give them what they deserve as a human being.
Let’s just remember one things before we move forward.
Once Mark Twain said these words and quiet honestly there might not be anything more powerful or fitting for what we deal with in today’s world.
“KINDNESS IS THE LANGUAGE WHICH THE DEAF CAN HEAR AND THE BLIND CAN SEE.”
What a powerful perspective right?
It is important that the first thing you know about yourself is that your unique and beautifully made.
Whatever weird thing you are into your allowed. You are aloud to be however corky you want.
You can dance in the street with short and sandals in the middle of winter. If that is what you want to do! You might freeze your rear off but, you will be you!
So take the time to sit down, really embrace and fall in the fact that you are the only you on the planet.
So gosh darn-it smile about that.
Some days can be tough. So tough, that some people actually think about ending their life.
The lack of expression in love is harming our society.
The importance of understand, appreciating and knowing with conviction that you are loved.
Now I have no idea who you have in your life or who you hold close. In fact the people you do might be harming you in ways you don’t even understand. We will get to that.
Remember that even when you have no body and there is not a soul around, at the moment. I would encourage you to do one thing, walk to the mirror and take a hard look at you.
Look hard. Tell yourself, “I love you.”
In moments of desperation and feeling low or not loved. It’s important to remember that we are allowed to love ourselves and that it is more powerful than anyone else ever-loving you.
Does being loved feel good? Of course.
Does it solve your problem of feeling loved? Maybe.
If that person were to go or simply when they do, what then? Who will love you then?
Do you see the importance of, self-love?
Know this about yourself my beautiful friend. Loving you first and knowing how to love yourself is truly filling.
The encouragement to try is massive.
Okay now these things that are being listed might seem strange or simply unorthodox too you. That is honestly 100% okay and you can continue the read and find value or not.
The idea here is to give perspective.
This being the third on the list which was intentional. Third time is a charm is literally why I went with it.
Perspective to me is charming. It literally changes lives and is powerful enough to alter someone complete lifestyle.
Is that crazy? Of course it sounds crazy but, if you back it up with hard work after placing the perspective where it goes.
You guys! You can learn so dang much more about yourself when you learn to shift perspective.
Will you nail it every time? Probably not. I hope you do but, in reality we all have to fail a shit load of times before we even win once.
Is it worth putting the effort into actually training your mind? YES! A million times yes!
Think about it and perhaps come back and we can chat thru commentary and be genuinely real with one another.
Abraham Lincoln said, “We can complain that rose bushes have thorns or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
Whew! This one is tough for a lot of people. Some are blessed to figure out they are made to build rocket ships when they are 5 years old.
Some are sixty and have literally never discovered one passion they had.
Could you imagine living a life without a passion for one thing?
I mean even the simplest of a passion for tea or your kids..
Passion can be found with anything and that is what is so incredibly magical about it. You get to decide your indefinite love for something.
The one things you will not negotiate on or give up.
You know that is inside of you, right? You know that there is some type of fire living inside that is burning.
SO if you get frequent stomach aches or feel low for no apparent reason. Truth is something is trying to come out.
Sit with yourself and try to dig it out, try and find the thing you can not live without.
Because once passion is discovered, success isn’t far when you put in the work. Success does not need to be money or fancy things,
Success thru passion can simply be having a healthy family that laughs and enjoys life every single day. For some, that is all they will ever need and all they can not live without.
Did you know that the human brain has the memory storage which is equivalent of more than four terabytes on a hard drive?
That is intense and insane to actually think about.
Can you imagine if we actually used all that storage and filled it with things that are feeding our brains instead of stealing energy from it with doubt or bad food?
You are incredibly capable of anything you put your mind to. I know that sounds cliché and all but it’s the truth.
What we tell ourselves becomes our reality and our reality becomes what we live.
Gross. Who wants to live anything other than a happy and full life?
You deserve to live your best life. You deserve to fulfill your dreams and aspirations.
Give yourself the chance to find your true capability by challenging yourself.
By doing so time after time you will surely figure out your capabilities that are strong or weak. You do not need to be good at everything you just need to know that your capable of them.
Believe in yourself and the rest will follow.
Keeping this short and sweet.
Knowing your environment is crucial.
Why? There is a saying and I would be surprised if you had not heard it or read it.
“You are the average of the FIVE people you spend the most time with.”
Now can I claim this is fact? Well surely I personally can’t but, if you think hard about it. It makes total sense.
You are in control of this and it’s up to you too decided how much you value your environment and the impact it makes on you.
If your okay with average, that’s great! Because that is apart of you.
Do you understand? Are you really letting this sink in?
The power YOU have with the proper set up, creates endless possibility.
Doesn’t that sound, so good?
So give it a shot, really put effort behind this. Think long and hard about how you want your life to be.
Once you narrow that down you are on your way to filtering your environment.
Giving space for people and things that humbly help you launch forward.
Sounds good, yeah?
You’ll never know until you try.
Posted on November 10, 2018
When I was six years old I was absolutely certain I was going to be a professional Dirt bike racer. It was all my heart would pitter patter for. The endless revving, the body armor that made me feel like a superhero, the effortless adventure and of course ALL the mud and dirt! When I turned 12 my direction shifted and I decided I wanted to be a model. As long as it involved me in front of a camera I was all for it. Honestly, I stuck that dream out for a long time. Probably until I was about 20 years old and building my portfolio was so fun! However, with behind the scenes of modeling is not all glitz and glam. At least not for me it was not. Surely with some big crew and if I had become some big deal, I am sure that would have changed.
So, I turned 21 and from there on out it was about partying and bartending that late nights. Creating memories with friends and people I thought were friends. Always a mixture of the both. At that point in my life until I was about twenty-five there really was no direction for me or plan. I was winging it and falling into debt quickly with a careless attitude and double fisting my drinks.
When I turned twenty-six I really starting questioning things along the lines of what I was doing with my life. Where I was headed since at that point I was only a short 4 years from being thirty. This truly started to scare me and create a conversation with Ryan about the topic. Neither of us had a plan or any idea what in the world we were doing.
One thing about me is that I have always been a person that wanted to be her own boss. I wanted to do my own thing. In 2009 I started a candle business and a hair clip business. I started sewing and thought maybe if I handcraft items I could start there and sell home décor or custom clothes. Ha! In 2012 Ryan and I started a Business with Amway and World Wide company under my encouragement of course. Ryan was so far from this personality type but, he went for it with me and we did that for about four years on and off.
During these times of Randoms and not knowing the direction of what the hell I or we are even doing. 2016 gave us a little human and we stopped caring for a moment what we were so worried about. That did not last. Ha!
Somewhere in between holding it all together and dropping all the china at the same time. Pretty contradicting yeah? Well, that is how I feel and its the best description off the head I can muster up.
About six months after Gracie was born a lot of things came up and we basically we’re back to trying to blueprint our future. Even tho, we know we should have handled this prior to a baby. We can’t win all the battles and once I realized that I think my acceptance altered. What was okay with me and what wasn’t.
For instance, Ryan became much more concerned with money while I am more concerned about when she is old enough to see me and watch. That inside I was panicking because I literally have no example to show her what hard work is or fighting for your dreams. Ya know? So our thought process between Ryan and I were different yet still the same. Of course, I don’t want us worried about money and he doesn’t want me to feel like I don’t contribute. But the fact is, money is tough in this day in age and setting examples is important. Of course, they vary from family to family. But for me personally, fighting for my dreams and making my goals happen. Showing her that and her seeing her mommy fight hard for what I want and to battle against all wall barriers. I want her to truly see me do big things so she can have a foundation to use and see with action that dreams and goals backed up with consistent work can happen!
Being thirty-three and Ryan is thirty-eight we are in a spot where we think about our future considerably a lot. Me being a stay at home mom with no income and Ryan being the sole provider is a lot of stress and weight on his shoulders. He proudly does it and is very grateful for his job and the opportunity we even have that I can be home with Gracie. However, I want more. I want to contribute more than just my time and energy with being a mommy and a wife. Truly I just want success in space for my personal life. I want recognition for hard work in a space that is constantly changing and altering.
I want to supply a way of life financially so Ryan can come home and be with us. I would Love for him and me to work together like we did the first 5 years as a couple. I dream of both of us being home with Gracie yet still being able to have an income that provides a true lifestyle. Is it possible? Yes! Is it hard work? Even more YES! But, if you haven’t read it before in my posts you can read it now, “I can work with possible!” Which is exactly what brings me to my conclusion.
To the moon! Ha! Just kidding, even tho that would be so sick. I want to share with you that being 33 and truly feeling like I have jumped off a mountain that I can not see the bottom to is scary. But jumping in the ocean for the first time is scary too but, you have got to swim in the ocean and try it at least once. I also believe that if you haven’t tried it, you’ll never know!
If one year ago I didn’t experience the anxiety and some depression I did. The blog I started on a free platform would never have begun. You guys it was so awful but, I did it and even tho it was super scary to even put myself out there. I still did it. After the first post, I felt so liberated and empowered. The lift from sharing some of my life was like taking a fourth of a brick off my shoulders and a weighted rock off my chest.
I had become too introverted into my home that a common conversation really didn’t exist for me. When in reality having a simple hello with someone is normal. But, since I didn’t go out much and was too anxious to even go out alone with Gracie during the days I felt so isolated and alone. I was overweight and incredibly unhappy with the living situation we were in.
Slowly after time, I was coming out of my shell and really seeing light again. I was losing weight and becoming me again. Smiling more in a genuine way, enjoying myself and sound silly but, getting ready for my day. Yes, writing did this for me. Even tho no one really read my posts and when they did it really was not true feedback. Which also leads me to believe they probably didn’t really read the whole thing. Then, it really bothered me but, now it just sorta hurts my feelings. That is progress for me and I like positive progress.
So, If you were to ask me what I want to do or where I am going with my path. I would have to say I am a writer, a podcaster and someone who is aspiring to create. What will I create? Well, I even ask myself this almost daily. Being creative is something you must have if you want to write in my opinion. Something inside of me tells me, “Create.” That word just swirls in my brain along with “Encourage.” So I have narrowed down those two things or words I should say that literally will not leave my brain.
I LOVE creating. With the tools and the proper space, I can create magic! Encouraging people is something that makes me thrive inside! I feel good when I make others feel good. But it is not like a regular feeling when you compliment someone and know you made them smile.
Encouraging someone makes me feel ALIVE! I feel inspired and encouraged myself to keep going and keep being positive. Affirming people in their goals and dreams is seriously where I truly believe my heart soars. Where that space is for me or how I will get there I have NO IDEA. But, I feel like when we are trying to narrow down our path and what we want to do. Narrowing down just a couple of words for me is how I discovered what I should focus on.
I have no idea if this is method or way of discovery but, I do know that once I figured that out my perspective on where my energy goes, changed.
Perhaps if you are struggling with trying to find your way or your passion and literally just can not narrow it down. This exercise could be helpful for you. Once you accomplish figuring out those two to three or heck maybe just one thing/word that you can not kick out of your brain. Do not ignore it! Give it attention and thought. Sometimes nurturing the things we never thought are important end up being our biggest attribute.
BY GRACE THROUGH FAITH
journey to the little things