Posted on April 17, 2018
I remember a day when I was a kid and if someone said something mean to you, you said something back. But we didn’t end up wanting to kill ourselves or other people over “hurt feelings.” Not that I am taking away the justification of how our children feel in moments of sadness or ourselves. But back then, we simply would say something smart ass back and end it. Maybe even hit each other a little before the recess supervisor handled it. Because back then they could handle the situation without worrying about the parents getting their panties in a bunch for actually disciplining the kids. Yes, I went there, mostly because it isn’t spoken about enough.
When I was growing up if I back mouthed to my mom you bet your rear I was getting backhanded or punished in some sort of way that would ensure I was not interested in doing it again. My mom didn’t beat me or anything but she wasn’t going to let her CHILDREN run the damn house. I get that now.
Being a kid from the 80’s and 90’s I grew up in an era that was literally so damn different from today. I have no idea why so many people nowadays allow themselves to be so soft. When I was a kid if I got upset about my hair being brushed or whined that it hurt, my mom would hit me upside the head with that brush. Give me something to actually cry about. HaHa But seriously right?!
Okay, it’s not like I am a total asshole and I don’t consider feelings and stuff. Because I have become quite the softy since I had my daughter. I am speaking in the sense of being so sensitive to literally everything under the sun. You know, the people that get butt hurt when all your doing is telling them that their clothes do not match.
What happened? Did I miss something? Was there some sort of entitlement stick I should have grabbed along my way to today? When did society start being so soft that we have to argue about the difference in the colors of white or yellow? You know those waste of time photos you have to compare. Gosh, those things are so stupid. Creating controversy over colors…
How about this example, when you let someone know they probably should not go out and get totally wasted because you know they are gonna call you the next day, bitching about how they feel. But they get upset when you mention that and they assume you’re calling them a bad parent or irresponsible. I mean in a sense we really don’t need to go out and get shit housed to find some outside fun from the day to day chaos we take in. But I am not gonna call the shots for everyone, just me.
How about when someone is completely capable of working but they claim disability. Is it wrong to call people out on that shit? Well no, if it was 1988 any breathing adult was working their asses off and our economy was booming. But today if you mention that to anyone they are gonna either cry and get hurt feelings or they will get defensive because its the truth and no one wants to look in the mirror anymore.
I know that I am gonna piss a lot of people off with that fact that I am basically stating we need to toughen the hell back up. Pull our panties back up and start facing consequences, dealing with life as if it actually matters, creating, building, and doing things that we used to do. Stop bitching and complaining about things not changing or getting better. Be the change and stop being such a little bitch.
I mean if I am wrong then please shoot me some insight. But I see too many softies nowadays. Couch potatoes. People completely capable of work yet complain about the 300$ in food stamps they get or the Welfare they live off. Perhaps your collecting DISABILITY yet your completely capable of paying taxes and working like an adult should.
Now for all of us Stay at home moms, that’s me. This applies to us too. I know its tough raising kids and being home all the time. I will NEVER downplay the responsibilities it takes to do what we do. But we are not dead. We don’t need to give up and stop trying in life. Our kids can still be THE priority and we as Moms can still carve time out to MAKE something happen.
Why am I saying this? Because I hear it time and time again, even guilty of it myself. How we stay at home moms are losing our minds, wanting to contribute financially, needing out of the house, wanting adult interaction and just finding complaints. Not that we don’t brag about the good stuff but I think you are getting where I going with this.
In the end, my end all be all is that I am so sick of hearing people Bitch and Complain about shit they could change themselves. But for some reason, a lot of people nowadays think that their opinion matters so much (Entitlement) that if the situation doesn’t change after they have shared that, they basically become assholes. Easily put.
Whether it be Politics or Motherhood the arguments never end. Someone always thinking they are right. The mom that thinks Google is the way to give solutions or answers to other people. The individuals who think they know EXACTLY what is gonna happen in the world or what the President is really up to. HaHa. I mean people actually believe they know it all. I have met people who are dead straight in the face telling me a diagnosis for my daughter as if they went thru 8 years of medical school. I’m serious when I say they truly believe they know.
Of course all of my rambling and how I feel about society and how I think it is embarrassing to be apart of such a Soft society. Feelings are VERY important and being aware of them is even more important.
But feelings normally cant be involved in a lot of decisions that need to be made day in and day out. Feelings should not be involved with anything other that FEELING them.
See for some reason people started to think that if they got sad about something, it would need to be validated and noticed and put up on a pedestal of recognition and given a GOLD award. Yeah, that dramatic. If someone is mad about something they think they automatically deserve a loudspeaker and that everyone needs to follow their lead because their way is the right way.
People actually believe changing the Constitution, we as America were built on will actually make some sort of revelation in a change in the world. Come on…
We have an Entitlement issue. We have a bunch of Spoiled Americans that have had so much handed to them that they now think its the way its suppose to be. We don’t need to work anymore, right? We should all just give to one another and hug and dance in the rain… Good lord. * Shaking my head right now *
Does that sound nice? Yes! Of course, it does! But it’s not real. People need to come down to REALITY and realize that we collectively as citizens need to toughen the hell up and stop bitching about everything.
I just want to be able to look at someone and tell them simply how I feel and them relay to me how they feel then just move on. Wouldn’t that be nice?
Why the hell cant we?! Why do I have to silence myself all the damn time over someone getting hurt feelings over MY OWN PERSONAL views?
If your out trying to change or alter someone’s views. I would understand your reason to tell them to screw off. But why are so many people getting bent out of shape of just the simplest thing as an OPINION or the actual truth? I don’t get, I never will but I am making the shift in myself to stop silencing my voice.
X O X O
Posted on March 27, 2018
Do you get my catchy title? Instead of Momster, it’s Mom-Star. I thought it was rather clever. I know we can all come in counter with the Momster from time to time. But why not own the title Mom-Star? I mean, we are all pretty amazing. At least in my perspective, I see us moms as complete Superstars. But I am just a fellow mom sharing my take on what Nickname we should really be owning.
Being a mom just shy of two years I have had my fair dose of Momster days. However, when I sit here and ponder on the day to day activity and the successes I achieve. I think to myself, I am gosh darn Rockstar! Don’t you ever have that moment of complete validity that you are a Superstar Mom?!
I had a moment of clarity. I remember it clear as day actually because it was such a breath of fresh air. I had so many moments in the beginning. More than id like to even admit. Momster moments are absolutely real and happen daily for a lot of Moms. There is nothing wrong with wearing that name tag for a day, or two if you really need it. Just do yourself a favor and don’t camp out there. I know a lot of moms that sometimes can overuse that term, “Momster.” As if it is a trendy, and cool thing. Which I tend to find humorous, yet sad.
So as I sat there like I was saying at an early age with Gracie. I was so upset so many times that I felt like that Momster energy. I didn’t want that to be the Name tag I would turn to on bad days. It just is such an unappealing nickname. In my opinion of course. Also please know I am 100% guilty of camping out and owning this name tag for months at a time. I just came to realize the psychology behind it. Just took me some mental thinking in order to figure it out. Fortunately, I had some brain mojo one day in earlier motherhood. So my mojo mustered up that if I was going to have to have bad days, why not try and trick myself wearing a different name tag. In which I chose, Mom-Star.
Because in the beginning and end of every single day. I knew I was always putting in 100% and more. I would give every last ounce of energy to my family. Which would leave me tired and restless. Not that I don’t have those days still, I am human. (Far from a robot) But I made the conscious choice to place a name tag on myself, every single morning I wake up. That old name tag I would wear on bad days, to just ensure everyone knew I was cranky or to allow myself too look in the mirror and see everything but what I really am. I am a MOM-STAR! So are you!
See no matter the day, the time, the circumstance. You are a Mom. You are your child’s hero, their safety, their comfort, the gentle hands that rub their face, the ninja moves you learn in order to catch the things before they fall, the maneuvers you pull off, and just the continuous and endless love you give. You are a Mom-Star, a Rockstar, you are anything but a Momster. I hope this sheds some light for you and created a way for you to see you’re not stuck wearing a name tag you don’t want. You can choose! I just hope you choose whats true! Which we all know is, we as moms and we Rock!
Happy 2018 Mothers Day. Here is your Mom reminder that you are So much more than you give yourself credit for. ❤
BY GRACE THROUGH FAITH
journey to the little things