Posted on January 1, 2019
Have you started your New Years Resolution?
Perhaps you were up late last night preparing frozen meals, organizing shelves, taking notes for the first day in 2019 or maybe you laid around and spent quality time laughing with your family.
Either way, we all have goals when we begin something new.
The trends and the repetitive repeats of the year before.
Aren’t you sick of setting the same goals every year? Either not reaching them, half reaching them or perhaps, you did actually achieve them.
Good for you!
For those of you, like myself, that start and stop frequently in life by overfilling your “perfection plate.”
Trust when I say, “You are not on that wagon alone.”
However, this year I was hoping to encourage others like myself. Too hop off that old wagon and hurdle onto the new one that is actually moving!
Did you know that this is the very last teen of our century? The last teen in your lifetime.
It may not seem like some huge ordeal and perhaps it really is not.
However, sometimes believing something is your last, somehow makes you want to reach for it a little bit more.
Kind of like the theory of, you want what you can’t have.
But, it is not here nor there.
What it is about is, you. This year, it is about kicking your own ass.
If that is physically for you, get on it!
If that is mentally for you, seek it!
If that is emotionally for you, dig for it!
You truly have the power inside of you even when you feel like you don’t.
You are human and it is absolutely normal and natural to simply just feel like you can’t.
But, what I am here to tell you is, you can!
I used to think, that putting a ton of shit on my plate was the best way to get all the things done.
I used to think, that by shooting for 10 things I was stronger or smarter somehow.
I used to…
But this year, this year we can change all we have ever known and done.
Because this year, there is belief like never before. There is passion and there is fire inside of you!
Can you feel it?!
Stop going against what you know your meant to do or be! Don’t worry about what everyone or even that one person will think.
The only persons opinion that matters about you, is yours!
You can never truly be your genuine self if all you do is hide behind a shadow of someone you are not.
Here are some personal tips on how to start and move towards your wanted direction.
I know this is tough. I’m aware it’s the hardest part. But dig deep, soul search and figure out what is burning inside of you. The thing you can not live without. You do not need to be great at this thing. You just have to have a big enough passion and hunger to go after it.
No, you do not need to be an architect to blue print your process. You simply need a pencil, some paper and a vision. What is the first step to getting your # 1? I’m not talking about taking the first step here. Simply just writing or drawing it out first. There is SERIOUS magic in writing things down.
Is it changing your attitude?
Is it changing your friends?
Is it adding more nutrition?
Is it implementing more self talk?
How will you get what you want? Figure this out and the next step comes easier.
The scariest part. At least for me personally.
Actually, following through with all the things that were just written down is freaky all by itself.
Probably asking yourself, “Am I seriously going to do this?” “Is this actually going to even work?”
Been there and guess what?
You will never know unless you TRY!
So stop allowing FEAR and DOUBT to stop you from everything you DESERVE!
Which takes me to my last tip.
Before you speak, think. Because our reality becomes what we create.
If we are constantly feeding ourselves doubt through thoughts.
Well my friends, I will just tell you now that you will spin your plates for a long time by doing so.
You disservice yourself and all those around you by speaking poorly. By thinking poorly.
We are what we feel and we become what we surround ourself with physically and mentally.
I know this might seem a bit deep and weird to wrap up my last tip this way.
But, it’s truth and if you don’t start taking the filter process more seriously. You will self destruct before you even flip the switch to try.
Believe in yourself. Believe in the power of you!
Always remember that being intentional with everything you do can be life altering.
A few things in 2019 I will personally be doing:
NUMBER ONE IS THE GOAL FOR 2019!
The rest are things I plan on working on and getting better at with application and time.
X O X O
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Posted on July 4, 2018
July 4th, 2017 and it was the first time experiencing having a child on one of the loudest holidays of the year. She was only about 10 months old and she was pretty careless about most things around her at that age. Seems as if she only cares when she hears the creaks of mommy or daddy’s walking that will wake her. Well, as fireworks shot off the ENTIRE day that day on the lake as we stayed in the family cabin. She slept like an angel thru it all. Still, we question how in the world she managed that, being such a sensitive sleeper to all other things.
However, here we are present day July 4th, 2018. We were hopeful for a more subtle noise by staying home. I am being literal. See, My husband and I came to terms that we didn’t think the cabin was a good idea this year based on just the experience we had over a weekend already this summer. Honestly, the cabin just does not have enough kid stuff there to keep her entertained and busy. She needs toys and shit to climb on. So anyways we decided we wouldn’t go.
Here we are at our house and first thing at 11:30 a.m. the neighbors are lighting off bottle rockets. I was not going to mention it because it really shouldn’t matter. But, the people setting these mid-day fireworks are grown ass men in their pajamas on their deck. I mean I get it. I am patriotic too! But… you are basically in my backyard bro, it is illegal and you are keeping my damn kid awake from a nap. Oh, let me mention I live in the Pacific Norwest where there is a ton of trees and shit. Fires EASILY start here and we are surrounded by ass hats that seem to forget that we have had EXTREME summer fires over the past 4 years. Is there a stupid stamp we can use on these individuals?… LOL, This way we can be sure to treat them extra special in reminding the important things. LOL (So much sarcasm there)
So, as I sit here mid-afternoon I thought to myself I would compile a small list that may or may not be helpful in order to be a decent neighbor. Either way, I also discovered I gave no shits whether it was helpful or not. These things just needed to be written out of me. (Does that even make sense?… fuck it)
Okay, here is my short compile of advice in a list form. (Wink Face)
HOW TO BE A DESCENT NEIGHBOR:
1. Be Friendly. I know right? Seems easy enough. Well, at least I thought it was easy enough. Yet, everywhere I live it seems as if nobody has any damn neighborly love. I am not shitting you, one time I baked cookies for an entire complex that I lived in. 12 apartments total in that complex! Not one person ever said hello to me before or even after that. I mean, I know they were tasty because everyone besides them loved them and wanted more. LOL So, just be fucking nice. It’s free and Easy!
2. Offer help in the yards! A lot of people think this is silly. But, in reality, how nice is it if your immediate neighbors and you all worked together to keep all of your lawns maintained! Genius right?! I mean that could potentially leave you just mowing yards one time a day and allowing yourself to serve others in a positive way. I don’t know, maybe that is to old school for some people. HA
3. Be Considerate! This is a Big one for me personally. I like to believe I am a very considerate person and neighbor. Knowing the rules of noise. I know that being quiet until 8am is important and quiet by 10pm. However… I mean, do we really need to be loud until 10pm? I mean this is the situation. Every single neighbor of ours currently has kids. Yet it seems as if it is normal to let your kid play in your driveway in the dark at 9:30pm at night. While screaming and fighting with siblings and let me add, no adults around. I mean, am I a dick because I want their kids to shut the fuck up so mine can sleep?! LOL Keeping it real here. Sorry…
4. BASS! Oh, Mylanta. I know this goes hand in hand with noise. But I truly believe this topic deserves its own number. Does your neighbor ever come rolling in their driveway at 8,9,10 pm blasting their bass? I mean, what in the fuck are you even doing? Your home bro, turn that shit down. No one to impress here. We ALL know you have super loud and fancy stereo system. Also, NO ONE cares. Move along and turn your shit down.
Happy Birthday, America.
Be Safe Everyone.
Thanks for reading
X O X O
Posted on April 8, 2018
As we know planning a birthday party for your little one can be stressful, let alone spendy nowadays. I won’t even be modest, we spent $500 on the 1st Birthday. Can you believe that?! I mean, it was the first Birthday and we will never do it again. But, it was a lot of dough for a 2-hour celebration. I also had no idea what I was doing or how to cut corners to save a buck properly and still have style. I would search around and everything was just all over the place. So many times I had wished everything was in one place. The list of the Basics to throw the party, some ideas, and budget-friendly options. Doesn’t that sound amazing?!
So here I am just shy of 6 months out of planning my daughters 2nd Birthday. Holy moly I can not believe that. Well personally, we decided on Rainbow colors with splashes of Unicorns. Instead of it being Unicorn everything with splashes of a rainbow. You see we came to realize it is going to be way more expensive to buy everything Unicorn rather than buy a bunch of colors of stuff creating a rainbow effect. We will buy small things to add the Unicorn touch and feel of the party. Also, it doesn’t overbear the party with a million unicorn items. (Even though Unicorns are fricking amazing)
Well, I wanted to put together my personal task list of what I do when I plan a party for my daughter. I am not claiming this will solve every problem you will have, or answer all your solutions to what you’re looking for. But, I can tell you that this is a good place to start.
I am going to offer Images for visual thoughts, links that lead you to websites which will offer items referred to in the images. I will also attach Budget-friendly options with some DIY and home crafting to help save some money, add your personal touch to the party if that is what you like. However, for those moms that just would really like a party in a box, I got you covered. I will share information that will allow you be at a click of a button to save.
I know this seems like an obvious to do. However, it is the most important thing to have the date set in advance. I mean sometimes you gotta have the birthday the weekend before or the weekend after. Sometimes, their birthdays fall in the middle of the week, and they throw a tantrum because they want to have their birthday on their actual birthday. You know what I am talking about because I have seen it with my own two viewers. Personally, I have not run into this issue with picking a day. This year it falls on a Sunday, thank you, Jesus. So we are having it on a Saturday because that works better for everyone. So, Pick a date!
In my experience, I have a daughter that has a September Birthday. Which allows us to have outside celebrations because it is right at the end of our summer season. So, we don’t need to concern ourselves (as of now) with booking a location or space. But for those of you that will need to book a space or maybe a Bounce house if it is in your location. Here is just a local business that offers that. If you are looking for something like a bounce house for your backyard celebrations. Here is a quick Google search engine to find it! (Search Bounce House)
You will find a neat link Here that offers a way to just find the bounce house for your toddler party. All you need to do is put in your zip code and it will let you know if they serve the area or have locations to offer! That simple. Also for those of you who like Park parties, which I am a huge fan of. I would just suggest getting to the spot you want, EARLY. Set up and hang out!
If you have a cold season birthday, don’t worry. I will be talking about all sorts of indoor options for celebrating and finding cost savings while doing it in style.
First, to admit, this is the one part I do not personally enjoy. Sometimes you actually have to Not invite people. How mean is that? Ha Ha. But this is me being real, even tho I am trying to share some serious tips. I am allowed to still be my sassy self, yeah?
So when making your invite list, be sure you put all things into consideration. Here is my list of where my brain can go.
I mean do you see? There are some real serious questions to put into place before you go inviting all sorts of people to your home. Plus, if your child is super popular with the other children. You are gonna have a wild night ahead of you. Feeling my Sarcasm?
Please for the love of Jesus make some Invites. I know that social media is the free option and I completely understand that. But here you find options to some very fair prices in ordering and custom making your toddlers birthdays invites. Keepsakes are so special in the long run. For those of you that are in a bind and really just need some budget friendly ways to DIY. Here and Here are two ways to inexpensively create your own beautiful and thoughtful cards. I also found Free printable options Here!
Tip– Go buy the Stamps the day you order the Invites. Have them set aside and ready for when they arrive.
If you can: Order a stamp that offers you your mailing address made on it. It will save your hand from writing more than you need to!
This is when I started getting confused and totally scatter brained because I had no idea which way to go. I mean do I focus on color, a cartoon type theme, or should I throw them together and make my job WAY tougher? Of course I choose to do both and make my life harder. But I mean that is what we do for our kiddos, right? I mean at least the first one. (Giggling) So here are my thoughts and tips on how, now that I did go thru it.
Do both! I am going to share with you ways to be able to do both, save money, have it look stylish, and eat good! I mean, that is a win when I look at it. Some of your own personal creativity will be needed. Only you know your little one best.
If you had to just do colors, it might look sorta boring and not as personal to that person. Not that I am against it or think it cant look good. because it totally can! But obviously throwing in some characters in the party really adds that splash of personal touch knowing what the little one likes. it also allows the birthday star to enjoy having their favorite character around for the party. So be sure you narrow down the character your little one is dying over currently and Here and Here are two link options. The first one you will find it is a little less custom as the second option allows you to go more in-depth with options. (Second link is literally Birthday in a box, just more options.) Which I seriously find amazing and simple and budget friendly!
These are the types of prices I am talking about! Even if Emojis is not the style of choice its the price that blows me away for such stylish and hip characters.
I know that a lot of time you can get the small things and decor done in a short period of time. However, life happens and hiccups can cause a delay in anything. So as soon as you have the supplies you need, I suggest sitting down and getting crafty until you are finished. Get the crafts done way ahead of time if possible, I am telling you that you’ll feel a million times better knowing its all done and ready. This is a massive reason why I mentioned Number 1. ( Picking a date and being prepared)
I am really big on being as prepared as I can be on a day today. I also show myself, Grace, a lot because I forget also. Another reason I am always taking notes.
I want to share with you some Link for some Ideas and Instructions on how to make some fun and general Decorations which will be budget friendly. Now if I share a link that is a boy option for decorating, just change the colors to girl colors if that is an option with the links idea.
Toddlers use a lot of energy. Their own energy and still manage to suck up the rest of everyone else. Wait… Did I just solve how they continuously keep energy flow?! Because I mean once I run out I notice they get crazy. Wow, I am gonna think on that one more. Ha Ha!
So this is also one of my favorites because its the actual fun part of the party. So I am going to share with you just 4 ideas for some activities that can consume some time for the kids. Now they may still involve some parents and also some cleanup. But I mean, how can we get away with doing neither with a toddler? Yeah, you can’t.
I am a big believer in feeding! But I know that finger foods are best for toddler parties. So last year I did bite size hot dogs in crescent rolls and baked them, homemade Mac and cheese in the slow cooker for 3 hours, pretzel sticks dipped in chocolate, rice Krispies drizzled with chocolate, fruit on sticks and of course we had homemade and decorated cupcakes. My mom made her Smash cake, which she did not eat. I am telling you all of this because it was a ridiculous amount of options and I should have kept it real simple. It turned out beautifully and I am so glad I did it but, it was way more work than needed.
Now I think Finger foods are the way to go! Plus maybe one item of substance. So I will share the list I think is basic and probably would be fitting for any child’s birthday.
That’s it! Those 3 listed options, don’t make it complicated for yourself. Unless you want to.
Here are some Pinterest inspired ideas I came across that I really like and could be simple and affordable.
You could do these with any colors of your choice. One bag of chocolate to melt, some cheap food coloring, and a bag of pretzels. Simple, colorful, and tasty for anyone! ( Be gluten conscious for those that may be intolerant.)
Apples with Frosting! I mean you can not find more amazing kid balance than that for a celebration. They are getting the fruit nutrition along with the sugar for celebrating. Win!
This one is always a classic favorite. Very cost friendly, tasty, and very colorful! What kid does not absolutely love Fruity Pebbles?!
Its the day of Celebration! Hopefully, you listened and you chose to get 75% of everything done ahead of time. If you didn’t I am sure you are stressed and wishing you did. Don’t worry, Next year will come quicker than you know. Be ready!
For those of you that did the preparing and organizing, enjoy sleeping in today. Because you did all that and allowed yourself time. You can sleep in, rest assure you have it all set up and ready to start decorating and cooking what is needed. If you are looking for some recipe ideas for warm item foods. Here is a link that will take you to some basic ideas.
Go get that oven going, get cleaned up and ready to head to decoration land! About time to do the actual Party Set up!
We use tables and chairs and have seating for everyone for outside for our daughters birthdays. So if you’re doing an outside celebration, be sure you get all the seating set up!
Tip- Have strong tape on hand to potentially need to tape anything down due to the possible wind! ( Consider all things! )
Have an amazing Celebration!!!
I hope you found help and some guidance here today. Please share your successes thru this article below in the comments. Thanks for reading!
Posted on April 5, 2018
Truth be told I don’t have this issue, YET…
Well, I’m not quite there with Gracie but, she hasn’t quite grasped that concept yet. Or, maybe she has but can’t tell me yet. Thinking about that briefly made me sad for her. Bummer when you can’t talk much yet. (Sorta bonus for mom)
Either way, the time comes for all of us parents when we will have to encounter the ”Monster phase.”
So first thing is first we already know when the times comes we must come up with a strategic plan. I mean this stuff has to be believable. Toddlers are hardcore and they question everything. I’m not even kidding you. If your little one is at the age of mine where Monster talk is not a thing yet. Bare with me Mama, we can do this. For those of you who have already been thru this stage. Whether that be a quick and easy stage or a long and painful one. You are amazing and I hope you chose to share your story here in the comments. We all need more people to relate to. But, for now, I will continue to share with you my thoughts.
I am not sure what type of reaction Gracie will have. If she will even go thru the long, awful stage. Perhaps she will not be bothered by scary things, and move on with life. Yeah I know I am dreaming. Let me be. Haha
Okay, we have all heard the stories from different little kids as to where the monster came from or who it is. I mean I haven’t lived under a rock. I have had the conversations and encounters with the Monster talks. I was a Nanny for 5 years. However, I am far from an expert. I just know that over the time frame of Monster Mania I had these thoughts. They explained to me the images. Not only were they Blue or Red and bloody, but they were hairy and gooey with mean eyes and horns! I mean, where did they see this stuff?! I was totally shocked with how vivid they explained things. Then again I was raised with horror flicks and had horrible night terrors. So, perhaps that is their story too?
Here I am going to share with you the items you must have for monster attacks and to keep them away. ( Share this with you little to ensure they know the remedy is real!)
Now the purpose behind the flashlight is to see what the noises are first. We always want to be sure we can see our surroundings. But also we use the flashlight to blind the Monster if it really did show itself. We are not messing around, we mean business!
This is a must! Monster HATE to smell pretty, let alone even come near anything that doesn’t smell like poop or garbage. (They are such gross things) I hear if you place a fragrant type of item inside your room it helps keep them far away. Sort of like how spiders don’t like lavender. So always keep your room smelling CLEAN. Monsters hate it!
Oh, this one… this one is tough. It can be really hard for many little ones. Which is why we tell them to double up on the flashlight or the extra clean room. But, If they do the two listed above with using their Big kid Voice. The extras won’t be needed! Just do a little of each, find that Big kid voice when you feel scared. Out loud all you do is say this, “You are not real and I am brave” Repeat 10 times, flashlight in hand!
Look under the chair if there is one
Check bathroom if attached
Make sure it’s within reach!
VERY IMPORTANT part. They hate stuff that smells good. Don’t forget that.
Its very important to gain the confidence before bed. You will rest easier knowing you did voice warm ups. Perhaps the pre warms ups help keep the Monsters away even better…
I hope you found this helpful! I hope while you read this over with your little one they felt a little comfort and a tad tougher. Be sure to get your list and don’t forget the extra batteries! (Find those at any local store)
BY GRACE THROUGH FAITH
journey to the little things