Posted on March 28, 2018
There are a lot of types of people in the world. Those people all go through many stages in life. Here are a few of mine…
See I have had all sorts of stages in my life at my young age of 32. From the rebellious teenager to the know it all 20 years old. Then I moved into being able to legally enter a place of the party. If your unsure what I am referring to, its “The Bar”. Yeah, those many stages we go through in life as soon as we hit that lucky number 21.
First I was the girl that was introducing herself to the bar. So I would have some beer and mixed shots. That was the stage one. Pretty mild and subtle. There were nights I would have more mixed shots than beer. Those nights led to… I’m not so sure. But, I woke up alive and in my warm bed. Most mornings anyways. Tip: Steer clear of any and all sugar in the bar. Sugar leads to the massive hangover in the morning. You’re Welcome.
Stage two, I’ve moved on from beer. I have now accompanied my mixed shots, with mixed drinks. Now, for those of you who attend a bar regularly or have been. I’m sure you have heard of a promising beverage called a “Trash-Can.” Yes, you know what I am referring to. If you don’t and you go out one night. Maybe your feeling a tad extra… Go ahead and order yourself ONE trashcan. Tip: Just One. This stage was already leading to some incredibly inappropriate nights and many things I would like to not admit too. However, I will share this one story while I was flirting with this stage in my life. I was 22 and it was closing time at the local bar I attended frequently. I knew everyone, including the workers. ( One of those bartenders is now my husband ) I decided to be helpful and do dishes behind the bar after the bar was closed. I also was HIGHLY intoxicated and I will admit, I like being naked. Ha Ha. I know its really weird, but I have been this way my whole life. So a little liquid courage had me expressing that. Except it really wasn’t the best of places or times to do so. (Sigh) I proceeded to take off my pants and shirt to go and do some pole dancing… (So embarrassing) I still have no explanation for this action. But I ended up doing dishes behind a bar, half naked. Not to mention I ended up working here and marrying the bartender. Who I have been with for 10 years. So if your looking for this sorta courage. Next time order a Trashcan.
Stage Three, trying to wind down. (Giggle) At this point in my stage, I am realizing I need to possibly cut back. So what is a young gal to do when she is trying to make such a choice? Well, she ditches the mixed drinks and moved to Wine and Whiskey. I have absolutely no idea why this remedy felt like progression for me. But it was far from it. In fact, this mix was by far the most damaging for me. Wine is GOOD. Whiskey is even better. But when I put the two together, I was a walking party. Which was something I truly loved. The party was my favorite place to be. Where things were happening and chaos was absorbed so graciously. Weird right? But it was an environment I felt comfortable at the time in my life. Tip: If you are wanting to ACTUALLY grow up, you cant live in this stage…
Now I can keep taking you through my stages. But long story short I basically do not drink now. Pretty sure I haven’t had a glass of wine in 6 months. Not that I look down on anyone that does. I just think I was too hardcore when I did drink. Also being a bartender for 6 of those years had a big playing part in my problem. That now, I just don’t want it. Don’t get me wrong I’m sure there are gonna be tougher days than I even know. Which might lead me to a nice glass of Wine. However, I steer clear of the whiskey. If you know me, you know that its best I keep my hands off that Crown royal. Lord knows I am too much party, even for myself to handle nowadays. Tip:Whiskey is good and so is wine. But I promise your head will hate you in the morning if you share the two together. My body can hardly handle the cardio I give it…
Of course, always Drink and drive responsibly. (Uber may be in a city near you)
Posted on March 25, 2018
I heard one time that someone just wanted “Balance” in life. I’m sitting here asking myself, “Balance? Is that real?”
So here I sit today and ponder on that comment. That sense of balance the individual was seeking. I ask myself, “Do you seek for Balance outside of yourself?” As in, your surroundings. Or, do you seek for the Balance, inside yourself?
See this is the question I keep asking myself. I put myself in different situations that would challenge me to do either balance inside, or balance in my environment. Then, I tried both. Here are my stories and results.
Neither of them make a difference in how I attacked them. Because there is no such thing as Balance.
Okay let me back up. Perhaps you can have temporary balance. As in, everything is EXACTLY how you want it. However, that isn’t going to last. I am not trying to be negative or a Debbie downer either. Trust me, that is the last thing I want. But hear me out.
Balance is an even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady.
Now, put that into perspective. Having an even distribution in life in all aspects. I mean, are you kidding me. Like I said it can happen for days, or perhaps even a few weeks. But Balance can not be constant. There is always going to be something that is heavier than the other in life. It’s impossible that absolutely everything can sustain a even proportion to create balance. Yes, I am being technical. Because to set your mind up to think there is a balance of complete. That is fooling your brain and you will end up being disappointed for that the placement of that expectation.
So in turn here is what I suggest. This is not a professional piece of advice. This is simply my personal take on what you can create, if you are or wanted to seek Balance.
I suggest you prioritize and find the 3 most important things in your life. Find those three things and create a stable foundation. Start with one and move into the next two. Show yourself Grace, and patience. Balance with even one aspect in life is VERY difficult to maintain and keep up with. But that does not make it impossible.
For instance, If you had prioritized Church, Family, Business. This means you would be placing Church as your main priority to find your balance in that aspect of your life.
Which could entail attending your choice of church, being consistent, becoming apart of the community there in church. You see? It really takes involvement for each aspect in life to maintain balance. Otherwise you lack one thing and it throws it all off. Frustrating right? Which is truly why I feel like we are worker bees.
So what I am getting at is simply my outlook and how I see that Balance can not be a constant in life. So to want that, is okay. But to make it a goal? Well, I think your in a for a very, very long road my friend. I won’t tell you it’s impossible to have Complete Balance. I will just say, I don’t believe it’s possible. I am okay with that because it’s allows me to feel like I am challenged. Like I don’t have to be stagnant in life. It helps remind me that if I want to continue feeling that wonderful feeling of Balance when I do get those opportunities. Well, I better stay constant, or the balance won’t either.
Just My Take on Balance.
Posted on March 22, 2018
I literally just took a deep breath before I began typing this. You guys this is a topic I can find tears and humor in. Am I right?
Have a baby they say, it will be worth it in the end they say. Yes, I know that and those people are correct. However, maybe I didn’t listen at the time or perhaps no one was clear about it. (Thanks a lot) But besides all the tremendous blessings we are given on a day today. Feeling my sarcasm in there?
Such as, chasing a wild human around with your hands full, cleaning up god knows what the brown stuff is on the floor and walls, wiping extreme amounts of spit and snot off yourself and another little human. Yeah, besides some of those things…. why on earth was I completely unaware of how stinking messy a toddler is with food! I mean, I have been around kids. All ages. Mine is just a dang terrorist with food! Oh, and my lord is she picky! I love my Gracie girl more than air itself. But, this child can paint an entire room in a house with her food within T- minus 60 seconds. If she is feeling really sassy, we are talking 30 seconds folks. There is no need for dramatizing on that. If you are super curious or perhaps calling my bluff. Email me and maybe we exchange info to Snap chat my endearing meal times with my daughter.
I mean am I alone? Does your child act like this?
Please Lord, if this is just a phase. Thank you. But Lord, if this is not a phase and I am in this for the long run. Can you send me a money tree for all the food expense, a bag of an endless amount of chocolate, and perhaps just a little sprinkle of extra patience? Because only you know just what I need. Amen-
If you are laughing at me, that’s okay. I do that to. But heaven knows I need some Grace in my life for all the strawberries I am responsible for cleaning up off this forsaken carpet. I almost gave up on strawberries folks. They are her favorite so I let her keep them. But let me assure you, my carpet is beige. I’ll leave it there… Haha.
I felt like perhaps sharing some easy access for those seeking some help with Picky eaters, or even just some ideas on Food for a toddler. Now I cant give you much advice on if your child insists on having food fights on a daily, like mine. But, what I can tell you is this.
I don’t know what age your little one is or the circumstances in your home. But one thing I know personally that I remind myself on a daily. Even cleaning 24 hours a day, with little to no sleep, a cranky toddler, a tired but loving husband, and no time for myself. When I reflect on all that, sure I could allow it to make me feel like I am stuck. Because I am guilty of feeling that. However, I would clean up 30 hours a day if that is what it took. Her food smashed in the floors, rubbed on the walls, thrown everywhere and sometimes found days later. I know that one day all of that will be gone. She will be grown up, moved out and on her own. Building her life for herself, and establishing goals for her future.
So, if cleaning up her mess and picking thru endless amounts of food. That she does and doesn’t like. If that is what I do every day, I feel blessed. she is a blessing. Cleaning up food, and rummaging thru options will never outweigh the love I carry doing those things for her day in and day out.
Please don’t think for one second tho, that I wouldn’t kidnap and keep the next person that says they wanna help.
So piece of advice, careful what mama you extend your hand to. She just might be so desperate for a helping hand, she might never let you go. Ha Ha. Help does not come free folks. When it does, its a Unicorn and feel blessed.
The rope and duct tape is in the garage………..
Posted on March 21, 2018
Oh my gosh. If someone ever handed me a Genie Bottle to make some ridiculous wish(es.) I would absolutely choose to have a Super Power and mine would be, “Flash!” Right?! I mean, as a Mom that only makes sense. For all you Moms that have more than one child. I want you to know I just clapped my hands for you. Ha Ha. I’m not even kidding, I did. You are impressive! I also want you to know, I think you are an alien from another planet. Because only something out of this world can handle double the amount of snot and feces. I mean don’t get me wrong, I don’t look down on it. I just think your nuts. Ha Ha. I have one and I feel like I run a zoo, that has landmines everywhere. Instead of Zoo Animal poop landmines. Its Plastic toys that jam into the bottom of your feet, or make you trip and fall. Like your one half of a fifth into some whiskey. Ha Ha. Hey, maybe you are. I won’t judge you but keep it out of the reach of children. Ha Ha!
So like I was saying, I would be Flash! I could literally always have a clean house, top too bottom organization, I mean I could even go to Paris and be back in time for dinner! That would seriously boost my Mom street credit. I mean think of the possibilities! Let us do it together.
Scenario, Mom of two little boys. Ages 6 and 8, they are both in public school and have after school activities they both attend. Mom also has a Full-time job that is rather demanding of her. The father is a pilot, and he is away for work a lot so he can support his family. While the mom is home working, and tending to the children. So let us imagine what her day looks like. Wake up, get ready. But don’t forget the boys need to be ready for school too. Which we ALL know, almost all boys, let alone kids take absolutely forever to just keep enough focus to dress themselves. So priorities are, yes mom will need a shower. But her first job is to feed the boys, ensure they are getting dressed, ready for their day before school, she needs to pack lunches, and be sure the boys have clean jeans on. Yeah, you know what I’m talking about.
Okay, so I am gonna stop there because I know you are getting the drift that this mom. Let alone a lot of moms out there that have a list of things to do in a short amount of time, and the paper isn’t long enough to write the list. Dads have a lot of responsibility, don’t get me wrong. But mom life, holy bananas. We are like bumble bees. Right? So my point is, that I would choose Flash. Simply for the purpose of knowing and ensuring that everything would be done with a breeze and not a skip of a breath. I like that. I like the sound of that a lot. Don’t you?
Or, am I the Alien?
(Feel free to share what Super Power you would choose, and why)
BY GRACE THROUGH FAITH
journey to the little things