Friends, if you are reading this it is most likely because, you struggle from Anxiety.
What form? I personally am not sure that it matters. Anxiety is a monster and no matter the size of a monster it is still a monster.
Suffering from Anxiety can be numbing and it can literally stop life for some. Debilitating is what word I would use.
Now, in this topic I feel like sharing a personal background story can help you understand why I am sharing these tips and where they come from.
Four years ago you would never see me worry about anything. I was carefree and the world was my oyster.
I definitely did not worry when I left my house to go grocery shopping or enjoy some hiking in the woods by myself.
Three years ago I got pregnant on purpose and not much changed in the carefree department until I was about 6 months along.
Things started to obviously come up in thought and i would ponder on things for the future. That is where I think the heat first started warming the water.
After our daughter was born and we relished in the newborn stage. Roughly around 8-9 months old I was doing a photoshoot for my daughter and long story short, three men honed in on us and it triggered the Anxiety that lived inside of me.
The anxiety we all have but takes something to trigger it on.
That experience and scare did it for me clearly.
After that day I have truly never been the same and my anxiety lives with me every single day.
Except more recently over the last year, new anxieties will flare up over things I never knew existed.
Now, what I can tell you is living with anxiety is possible. Managing it is the job.
When you suffer from Anxiety it is crucial to teach yourself to identify the root. What triggers it and why? How can you harness that issue and can you work thru it? Is it something that is so debilitating that you feel like you cant move? Try lifting your foot, just try. See what happens. If you fall, get back up and try again. Crawl if you have to but, do not give up.
Anxiety WILL steal everything from you if you allow it. Just remember you have the control. These are your feelings and you can stop the anxious by possibly using one or all of these tips.
Some may resonate with you and some might be an absolute non negotiable choice. That is completely up to you and I respect that.
But I truly believe and obviously it is merely my opinion and view from experience that you are capable of working thru this. You are stronger than your anxiety.
Sharing My Personal Anxiety Tips
TALK / COMMUNICATE / THERAPY
Figuring out what you need to talk about is always helpful but far from necessary.
You do not need a quick explanation to reach out for someone too talk to. All you need to do is communicate that you need to talk.
When you sit down to discuss the issues you are facing, remember you have no reason to hide anything. This is a chance to release and confine in someone. This could be an opportunity to discover a solution. Do not sway away from any urge to reach out and talk with someone.
No matter the size of the Anxiety, you should never sit alone in it.
Being an open book for someone does not come easy to everyone and for that there is always journaling. Which we will get to.
Just know that when you are ready or if your seeking it now, talking to someone is extremely therapeutic and can have massive positive impact. Especially if you are talking to the right person.
Which is also something that is really important to always keep in mind.
WebMD states here that these specific techniques can help alleviate the anxiety. Take a peek if your interested in their article.
Now the basics of breathing is not what I am referencing. Breathing comes in multiple ways and can actually be used for many purposes.
Birth, Sex, Running and even your friendly panic or anxiety attack. Amongst im sure other purposes.
Breathing can be a weapon against Anxiety and the sooner we learn to use it, the quicker we can alleviate the anxiety when it attacks.
Deep breaths that are intentional and calm. Breaths that flow up the nose and fill the chest. Only to suck in the stomach and breath out the mouth to exhale all the tension/anxiety coming from the chest.
I like to imagine my chest being the filter for my breath that is accompanied by anxiety.
To imagine that when you exhale and convince yourself that your anxiety has been filtered every time you take that deep breath.
The more deep and calm breathing you do the more the anxiety is filtered until you feel cleansed to move forward. Keep breathing.
Write / Journal
Writing is not for the faint of hearts but, journaling can be for anyone.
When writing is viewed in my eyes it is seen as a public post. When journaling is thought of, its pictured as a more private experience.
Can that be claimed as a fact? Probably not but, it honestly makes complete sense to me personally.
Now for some people writing is the option they choose when they want to be heard publicly. When you hear about someone journaling or perhaps you are a individual that does journal you think of private thoughts or perhaps a diary.
The journals with the twain wrapped around them or the little girl diaries you would get as a child with the silly keys.
Journaling is a personal experience and just is not intended to be shared. Which is absolutely okay and healthy. If you get it out of your head onto paper, it has a better shot at finding a place of peace.
Now if you have the gumption to write, then you are sure to get feedback. Not everyone wants that and I actually completely understand. Not everyone has nice things to say and when you are sharing vulnerable feelings, the last thing you want to read or hear is something negative or off setting.
So, know where you want to be. Figure out if your anxiety is something you want to share or not. Public with feedback or private with a word release. Remember that putting thoughts on paper or computer can be a form of therapy.
Ernest Hemingway once said, “Write Hard and clear about what hurts.”
Now, I know this is nota space for everyone and that is completely okay.
But if I did not share this portion, I would not be my genuine self.
When we write I believe we should portray who we are genuinely the best we can thru words.
Praying can come in different practices and can be done literally anywhere. Taking a moment sometimes to talk to God and to elaborate your feelings can truly be therapeutic.
Not everyone has someone they can turn to when they are low, feeling an attack approach or already present.
If you are open too a practice like this and talking to God but, have not done so yet. I would encourage you to simply just try. See, naturally when you just get things off your chest and tell someone it feel good. (Most times)
Who better to tell than, God.
If this is not something you practice then perhaps do this.
Go outside, look up and take a gander at the beauty around you when you begin to feel anxious. Breath in the fresh air and realize your reality is what you create.
The beauty around you can be even more magical when, you use it for self-healing. Embracing the sunshine or even the cold winter.
Be grateful. Stay humble and remember that being stronger than your anxiety is hard but, not impossible.
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with your wherever you go.” – Joshua 1:9
This is something I find to be the most important one. I placed it at the top specifically for that reason.
When you wake up, before you even start your day or brush your teeth. Wake up and be Grateful. Sit up and take a nice deep breath, smile and appreciate it.
Get out of bed, go to your bathroom mirror and look at your reflection. This is honestly one of the pieces to my personal day that can either boost it or lose it. (Multiple times thru the day are allowed)
What I mean by that is, looking at the mirror and telling yourself with full conviction that you are amazing and smart. Feed yourself affirmations to jump-start your attitude, your belief in your day or even sometimes, yourself.
Do not be too proud.
We can not always wake up on the right side of the bed. That is just being unrealistic if you think that is possible. I encourage you to carve this exercise into your morning routine as it can be a very powerful tool for real life.
Yes, I am referring to the old hard copy text books or you can be hip and listen too Audios now! Technology is so cool.
Brain Juice is feeding the brain, Kale VS French fries. Feeding your brain the proper juice is key.
Reading books or listening to them can truly launch your success leaps and bounds if you do it right. It can possess powerful nuggets that can shift and alter your thought process and the actual way you think and learn.
Personal growth is what most people refer to when they talk about reading books.
But you can also be taken on a totally awesome journey thru a juicy non-fiction novel.
However or whatever you read and feed your brain is crucial due to the results of how your brain responds and sparks.
When you listen to a scary non-fiction story first thing in your day or even thru your day. Does it fire you up? Make you feel fueled with motivation and creativity?
Or, does it just simply please the ear and allow you to escape from perhaps your reality?
I try to always keep that in mind so, sharing it felt right.
I know that this can be very diverse and honestly not everyone will choose to manage doing one or the other or even both.
The sad part is that we are given the free will to make the right choice to take care of and nurture our one body. One liver, one heart, two kidneys, one stomach and yet we still feed and treat our bodies as if they are garbage disposals.
We follow it with a complaint of gaining weight or feeling sleepy. Perhaps this is you or perhaps you are one of the small portions of percentage that prioritize your health and body.
Now when I talk about Nutrition I simple mean this; when you have a muffin or a banana as a choice to pair with your already high sugar and high calorie coffee, I would suggest the banana. Right? Wrong. However, today we choose the muffin. I get it, the muffin is much tastier and so much more satisfying.
But, I assure you that your energy later will feed off that banana a lot longer and better than the high carb muffin. These small choices make huge impact on us thru our days. If we feed our bodies what they truly deserve instead of what our mouths find desirable. I believe, human race could live a healthier and more positive life.
As far as talking about Exercise, I am simply saying go for a walk. It is proven that a simple 15 minutes a day can improve multiple things for you.
If you are the individual that enjoys the hardcore workouts where you are barely breathing and sweating like you just took a shower. Continue kicking butt and perhaps go and encourage those around you! For those of you that just need to take it slow and steady, invest in yoga. You will not regret it.
So remember, Kale or French fries?
Now I am sure you have heard the quote stating, “You are the result of the five people you surround yourself with.” If you have not heard it, now you have.
See, it is incredibly easy to turn on the tv and find out some horrible news or perhaps a scary flick turns on. You could simply just be at a work doing your job and yet you are surrounded by the complaints of everyone around you.
If you have an office, be grateful.
However, it is also just as easy to choose the people you listen too.
I know that when you’re at work you may not be able to control everything you are hearing or picking up as you just walk by or sit at your cubicle perhaps.
But what we can do is filter what we allow in our brains. We can choose to hear the complaints or we can choose to point out solutions.
Is that a harder task? Yes. But being positive in your day will fuel you much longer and much stronger than as if you lead it with a negative mind.
Designing your environment can not always be an option in all situations. But, when you have your opportunities to create your environment, by choosing what and who is around you.
Just wait and see the results of how you feel and what you do, by surrounding yourself with it and them.
“I was told once that if I was the smartest person in the room, I was in the wrong room.” Choose to be around those that enlighten your positivity and knowledge to be better.
I honestly am not sure I can elaborate in words just how impactful music can be on you.
Music can be forgotten sometimes when you live a busy life. A life that doesn’t allow time to tune-in and vibe with good music.
Sometimes your head is so buried in work and personal life that you hardly have time to look up at the mirror and give those self talks we all need.
When you do have the time to give yourself those moments of encouragement be sure you are feeding yourself truth and empowerment.
But, if or when you can’t find the time or words, I assure you that music can.
When you think you do not have time to boost yourself up or perhaps, you really don’t and you stretch every single moment.
Either way, music is a soul feeder. Which is what I call it and consider it to be the deepest you can get from a source of sound.
The energy your feeling if you are excited because, your perhaps headed on a vacation. I bet by playing some super upbeat dance music sure would hype the vibe.
I bet if you were feeling down and sad, listening to a love song or something about loss might not be the best option if you’re looking to feel better.
Does this make sense?
So grab your ear buds, find a space you vibe and allow yourself to feel music that releases the positivity inside of you.
In the end, “Music is the strongest form of Real Magic.” –Marilyn Manson