Posted on December 10, 2018
Perhaps some would pat you on the back or tell you good job, but that is the open and close to the action or compliment if that is how it’s done nowadays?
Is that enough for you?
Should you keep that energy around?
These are valid and necessary questions to ask yourself sometimes.
Especially when you are trying to do something that is totally against the grain. Something that you are building from scratch. It is not just a clock in and clock out kinda lifestyle.
Most times you end up with people that understand nothing about what your doing or why you are doing it. Good thing you are not doing it for them. Because boy oh boy would that pressure be tough or what? Having to please everybody else, including you!
Worrying about how you do things or move your life around to fit people in.
People that are important but currently not more important than your immediate family and goals.
If this can’t be respected, encouraged or understood from the opposing party.
You my friend are in for a bit of a tougher road. Best way too put it.
Sometimes there comes a day when people want to do something for themselves and unfortunately there is no room for extra.
It’s strictly family and work until a goal is met and a break can be given.
For the first time your doing something for yourself.
Has this happened to you or happening?
Because I completely know how you feel.
In fact we could not be on more of the same wave link as we are with this.
You see, there are time frames on things in life.
Even life itself.
There are time frames in our teenage years, the mistakes we make and learn from.
Then the decade of our twenties which we end up enduring a lot of experience.
Then when you finish up with the end of your twenties you branch into your thirties.
Here is when you are thinking a lot more about the deeper things in life.
Not saying that this is everyone. But, you have to admit this explanation is pretty average.
Now thinking deeper could be encouraged from settling down for a long period of time with your spouse and creating a family.
Seeing the importance of so much we take for granted.
Understanding how quickly time goes by and the value we throw away by not utilizing the time more wisely.
You and everyone else, is not a qualified recipe.
You are your own ingredients and everyone else is their own formula.
It important to remember when you branch out and start following the path you want and life you deserve. That you simply go after it.
It’s vital to not allow anyone to devalue that or misunderstand the importance of it too you.
Do not rearrange your goals and priorities. This is the first mistake that so many make when they think they can do it all.
Don’t get me wrong, there are probably a lot of you reading this that manage all the things that life throws at you.
Let me ask you something, “How’s that going?”
It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to prioritize and completely cut people out.
It’s your life. Your terms.
Friends if you have people in your circle that don’t understand what your fighting for or what your dealing with in your life.
It’s okay. It’s not their responsibility to know or understand.
It is up to you if you want to share it.
It’s up to you if you want to include those that actually help you thrive and if they do.
Just be sure you keep your environment positive and encouraging for your path.
Because I know to well, it does not take much to break someone that is already feeling broken.
If you are someone that is reading this and dealing with an individual who might not be around much.
Show them love, show them grace, ask them what’s wrong.
Understand that if you know them, you’ll know they aren’t hiding for any reason other than a valid one.
God bless and thanks for reading my thoughts today friends.
Now go out and do that thing, for you.
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Posted on November 29, 2018
Yeah, me too.
Reality check. If snapping your finger would solve something without the effort behind it, we would never have a bad day of sex again. Ha! Which we know everyone has bad days.
The inside giggle I am experiencing is so worth that comment.
The other day I was hanging with Gracie, my daughter. She was running around with this toy I bought her, seriously you guys I think I purchased it at the dollar store. It lights up looking like a magic wand changing colors.
She runs around with it waving it as if she is solving all her problems. Yelling and rambling to her stuffed animals as if she is saving the world.
I sat back and gazed at the imagination and creativity she was experiencing.
In that very moment I also was thinking about all the things I still needed to get done that day. I’m sure if you are a parent you can relate with the never ending list of to-do’s.
Literally 6 loads of clothes were just done to simply catch up. Went downstairs to realize there are 2 new loads to be washed. Sick household calls for multiple loads of laundry.
So, while sitting there pondering about what is next and what is priority, I began to daydream…
Could you picture if every single person in the world was gifted a magic wand? Perhaps we all would have different abilities and some shared. But, there would only be good done with the wands.
Could you imagine?
As a parent who stays home with the little one I tend to gravitate towards analogies based off that. Being a mom.
Think about this, if you are a parent then you will totally vibe with what I am gonna say.
Getting up in the morning and enjoying the morning; Getting up and relishing in the love and cuddles with the littles ones; Getting up and perhaps making that super delicious breakfast for the family because, you have the extra energy.
How about after breakfast is done, so are the dishes.
What if that little magic wand changed all those poopy diapers? What if you just had the choice to change which ones you wanted?
Could you imagine?
I imagine waking up and actually not rushing. Not needing to feel like I am on a time limit because the list of things to get done are endless and tiring. I imagine having a 5 star restaurant meal for every single time dinner is served for the family.
Could you imagine?
Yes, that will be repeated numerous times because it should be engraved into our brains that it is okay to NOT want to do all the things all the time.
We are human my friends. You and all of us have got to stop beating ourselves up because we don’t get all the things done.
The things can wait as we prioritize the more important tasks. Organize your list and don’t apply pressure for the small things.
Just because it may not be realistic and exist only merely in fairy tales. I will hold onto the magic that could be possible. Right?!
Because what is life without imagination?
Well, no life at all if you ask me. Dream the dreams that are so crazy they would be in fairy tales.
Dream dreams that occur in the middle of your day and not just in your sleep.
Dream dreams that will carry you thru your day and allow you to use your imagination on, what that magic wand is capable of.
Then, I want you to put your hands out and realize something important.
Those two hands your holding in front of you. Yes, all those 10 fingers and beautifully made hands.
Those are uniquely made, those are not copies, they are not too old or too young and by golly they are not incapable of magic.
Your two hands are capable of much more than magic. They are capable of creating in reality.
You posses a lot at the fingertips of your hands. You can accomplish more than you think. Even tho the tasks seem endless and tiring. They wont last forever.
The sink will be less full of dishes, the house will be clean more often, less to pick up, there will soon enough only be one bed in the house to make and before you blink, all those tasks will be missed.
The chores of a parent with one or multiple children are endless. But if I were to do one thing before I close it is this, to encourage you to leave here and know that you do posses the ability to get it all done.
However, I assure you the moment spent doing something other than a task. Is a memory made instead of a dirty dish cleaned.
Always weigh out your end result for your invested time.
I’d have to say my time spent giving love and worrying less about the tasks, fill my heart more than my never ending list ever could.
What about you do you tend to make too many demands of yourself?
Posted on November 24, 2018
Now, don’t get me wrong I am far from exceeding an anxiety free life but, I tend to manage working thru everything simply with the right attitude.
Winston Churchill once said, “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.”
Be positive! It just sounds so cliché but those two words together pack a lot of power.
Waking up in the mornings are the most detrimental and impactful portion of your day. It is the beginning and the impression for your start.
Now before I jump into some tips and little pieces of my own personal motivators. I want to share with you three of my absolute favorite affirmations.
Perhaps someone else will fancy them as well.
Those three affirmations can be very impactful if you use them the right way.
When you are affirming yourself you need to be sure you are saying it with conviction and belief. When you look in that mirror and repeat encouraging and empowering words back to yourself, you have got to believe it.
Hoping you are filling; no, I hope you are overflowing yourself with affirmations that help you feel like you can fly.
Because, the power of self-empowerment is over looked to often. We seek others to be our consistent encourager.
When in reality, seeking encouragement and empowerment for absolute from others is not your best longevity answer.
Mostly because, the one person you should know you can always turn too for a personal boost, is you.
We are our own most powerful tool. Its time we start putting ourselves to work.
The reason this is the starter is because most people are really hard on themselves. We are known to be our own worst critic.
It is so important to be sure you celebrate in moments of success. No matter the size of the conquer.
Buy the dessert if you did some extra sales that week!
Go get that Day Spa treatment you have been telling yourself you deserve.
For the love of all things be sure you tell yourself how absolutely wonderfully made you are!
Because gosh darn it God doesn’t make junk!
Screen time. They say that for children under two years old, tv should be limited to one hour a day.
Mayo clinic states it right here.
So what is healthy for adults? What are we left to work with if technology is the source to our rapid moving society?
How are we to keep from seeing a screen so much in our day when a screen is what allows us to move forward in multiple ways?
Adults have cell phones with them at all times. So what can we do in order to manage more intentional screen time?
Well you can start with timing yourself. I know, it seems silly but it is more silly to allow yourself to feel more tired than you need to only because you cant keep your eyes off of the screen.
Did you know that the human mind in todays society can only keep a attention span for 8 seconds?
How are we ever to be innovative or creative with our minds if we are constantly consuming and drowning them with everything other than our own thoughts?
I encourage you to look into how to manage screen time in your life. You can do that by clicking here.
You can read your favorite style of book or perhaps just favorite topic.
You can choose to grab a non-fiction story or you can choose to grab the book all about launching your career.
You see, when reading and positivity come together, personal growth books are what come to mind.
When you want to properly feed that beautiful brain you have, be sure your giving it the proper nutrition.
The type of food that will fuel it for long-term. You don’t want fatty food to clog your mental awareness or creative thoughts.
You see if you choose to grab that book that will feed your brain the knowledge to launch your career it could just be the answer to just that.
How will you know unless you read it?
How can you move forward by reading that non-fiction?
How can you possibly have a positive and forward moving attitude towards your day or future by just reading about fantasy?
Get real and be intentional about your brain and what you feed it. Be intentional about how you become positive for yourself.
In the end my friends you are the solution to your own positivity.
BY GRACE THROUGH FAITH
journey to the little things