To begin can be scary

Have you started your New Years Resolution?

Perhaps you were up late last night preparing frozen meals, organizing shelves, taking notes for the first day in 2019 or maybe you laid around and spent quality time laughing with your family.

Either way, we all have goals when we begin something new.


The trends and the repetitive repeats of the year before.

Aren’t you sick of setting the same goals every year? Either not reaching them, half reaching them or perhaps, you did actually achieve them.

Good for you!

For those of you, like myself, that start and stop frequently in life by overfilling your “perfection plate.

Trust when I say, “You are not on that wagon alone.”

However, this year I was hoping to encourage others like myself. Too hop off that old wagon and hurdle onto the new one that is actually moving!


Did you know that this is the very last teen of our century? The last teen in your lifetime.

It may not seem like some huge ordeal and perhaps it really is not.

However, sometimes believing something is your last, somehow makes you want to reach for it a little bit more.

Kind of like the theory of, you want what you can’t have.

But, it is not here nor there.

What it is about is, you. This year, it is about kicking your own ass.

If that is physically for you, get on it!

If that is mentally for you, seek it!

If that is emotionally for you, dig for it!

You truly have the power inside of you even when you feel like you don’t.

You are human and it is absolutely normal and natural to simply just feel like you can’t.

But, what I am here to tell you is, you can!

I used to think, that putting a ton of shit on my plate was the best way to get all the things done.

I used to think, that by shooting for 10 things I was stronger or smarter somehow.

I used to…

But this year, this year we can change all we have ever known and done.

Because this year, there is belief like never before. There is passion and there is fire inside of you!

Can you feel it?!

Stop going against what you know your meant to do or be! Don’t worry about what everyone or even that one person will think.

The only persons opinion that matters about you, is yours!

You can never truly be your genuine self if all you do is hide behind a shadow of someone you are not.


Here are some personal tips on how to start and move towards your wanted direction.

  1. Figure out what you want.

I know this is tough. I’m aware it’s the hardest part. But dig deep, soul search and figure out what is burning inside of you. The thing you can not live without. You do not need to be great at this thing. You just have to have a big enough passion and hunger to go after it.

2. How will you get it? Blue print the plan.

No, you do not need to be an architect to blue print your process. You simply need a pencil, some paper and a vision. What is the first step to getting your # 1? I’m not talking about taking the first step here. Simply just writing or drawing it out first. There is SERIOUS magic in writing things down.

Is it changing your attitude?

Is it changing your friends?

Is it adding more nutrition?

Is it implementing more self talk?

How will you get what you want? Figure this out and the next step comes easier.

3. Take the first step

The scariest part. At least for me personally.

Actually, following through with all the things that were just written down is freaky all by itself.

Probably asking yourself, “Am I seriously going to do this?” “Is this actually going to even work?”

Been there and guess what?

You will never know unless you TRY!

So stop allowing FEAR and DOUBT to stop you from everything you DESERVE!

Which takes me to my last tip.

4. Get good at filtering your thoughts

Before you speak, think. Because our reality becomes what we create.

If we are constantly feeding ourselves doubt through thoughts.

Well my friends, I will just tell you now that you will spin your plates for a long time by doing so.

You disservice yourself and all those around you by speaking poorly. By thinking poorly.

We are what we feel and we become what we surround ourself with physically and mentally.

I know this might seem a bit deep and weird to wrap up my last tip this way.

But, it’s truth and if you don’t start taking the filter process more seriously. You will self destruct before you even flip the switch to try.

Believe in yourself. Believe in the power of you!

Always remember that being intentional with everything you do can be life altering.


Happy New Year 2019 to all of you! May you be showered with love and light.

A few things in 2019 I will personally be doing:

  • Being Intentional (My Word for the Year)
  • Learning to manage and work through my Anxiety.
  • Diminish my Personal depression for good!
  • Less unproductive Screen time
  • Increased creative time with Gracie
  • More dates with my Husband
  • Monetize my website
  • Find sponsorship for Podcast
  • Donate as much as possible
  • Attend church regularly
  • Makeup application & Beauty world
  • YouTube channel growth
  • Take walks outside and alone again. This has been a struggle since my anxiety took over.
  • Better nutrition and self care for the inside of my body.
  • Read more and take more notes

NUMBER ONE IS THE GOAL FOR 2019!

The rest are things I plan on working on and getting better at with application and time.

X O X O

Do you know these things about yourself?

The other day while browsing for material to read and gander at. An article came across that was so riveting it had me actual spend some time searching for some personal answers.

Things that in reality are really important to know about yourself. Even if that means you spend a decade figuring it out, which of course I never hope that on anyone.

Eventually the questions that deserve answers will be found.


Why these Questions?

Well, this is a very valid point as to why the list here is even going to exist.

Reflection my friends.

See, by doing this one-act a minimal amount of time every single day can literally transform your perspective.

Friends if you can alter your perspective and get a grasp on managing that. Well, your on your way to much bigger things then you can even imagine.

Reflection leads to Perspective.

No, this might not be a fact nor have I even tried looking that up. But, I am someone who believe in logic and when I say things out loud if they make sense logically they probably just make sense.

So my point is when I say that little sentence, “Reflection leads to Perspective.”

I am saying that merely because for me, it works. So I figured why in the world would I not share such a valuable and helpful piece of advice that has actually benefit me.


Lets transform Together

Sometimes for people doing things alone can be not just scary but, it can literally stop that person from actually doing it.

Fear is not to be underestimated and also not to be judged.

It’s so vital in today’s age we reach out, we lend a hand and we show grace for everyone.

With the diversity that has been created through all the negativity, it is more important not than it ever has been, too come together.

If you feel inside your gut that the person you are looking at needs some encouragement or a hug. Give them love, give them what they deserve as a human being.

Let’s just remember one things before we move forward.

Once Mark Twain said these words and quiet honestly there might not be anything more powerful or fitting for what we deal with in today’s world.

“KINDNESS IS THE LANGUAGE WHICH THE DEAF CAN HEAR AND THE BLIND CAN SEE.”

What a powerful perspective right?


TIME TO GET HONEST & TO THE POINT

Whether you like it or not, you are like no one else

It is important that the first thing you know about yourself is that your unique and beautifully made.

Whatever weird thing you are into your allowed. You are aloud to be however corky you want.

You can dance in the street with short and sandals in the middle of winter. If that is what you want to do! You might freeze your rear off but, you will be you!

So take the time to sit down, really embrace and fall in the fact that you are the only you on the planet.

So gosh darn-it smile about that.

You are Loved

Some days can be tough. So tough, that some people actually think about ending their life.

The lack of expression in love is harming our society.

The importance of understand, appreciating and knowing with conviction that you are loved.

Now I have no idea who you have in your life or who you hold close. In fact the people you do might be harming you in ways you don’t even understand. We will get to that.

Remember that even when you have no body and there is not a soul around, at the moment. I would encourage you to do one thing, walk to the mirror and take a hard look at you.

Look hard. Tell yourself, “I love you.”

In moments of desperation and feeling low or not loved. It’s important to remember that we are allowed to love ourselves and that it is more powerful than anyone else ever-loving you.

Does being loved feel good? Of course.

Does it solve your problem of feeling loved? Maybe.

If that person were to go or simply when they do, what then? Who will love you then?

Do you see the importance of, self-love?

Know this about yourself my beautiful friend. Loving you first and knowing how to love yourself is truly filling.

The encouragement to try is massive.

Power of Perspective

Okay now these things that are being listed might seem strange or simply unorthodox too you. That is honestly 100% okay and you can continue the read and find value or not.

The idea here is to give perspective.

This being the third on the list which was intentional. Third time is a charm is literally why I went with it.

Perspective to me is charming. It literally changes lives and is powerful enough to alter someone complete lifestyle.

Is that crazy? Of course it sounds crazy but, if you back it up with hard work after placing the perspective where it goes.

You guys! You can learn so dang much more about yourself when you learn to shift perspective.

Will you nail it every time? Probably not. I hope you do but, in reality we all have to fail a shit load of times before we even win once.

Is it worth putting the effort into actually training your mind? YES! A million times yes!

Think about it and perhaps come back and we can chat thru commentary and be genuinely real with one another.

Abraham Lincoln said, “We can complain that rose bushes have thorns or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” 

Perspective.

Figuring out Passion

Whew! This one is tough for a lot of people. Some are blessed to figure out they are made to build rocket ships when they are 5 years old.

Some are sixty and have literally never discovered one passion they had.

Could you imagine living a life without a passion for one thing?

I mean even the simplest of a passion for tea or your kids..

Passion can be found with anything and that is what is so incredibly magical about it. You get to decide your indefinite love for something.

The one things you will not negotiate on or give up.

You know that is inside of you, right? You know that there is some type of fire living inside that is burning.

SO if you get frequent stomach aches or feel  low for no apparent reason. Truth is something is trying to come out.

Sit with yourself and try to dig it out, try and find the thing you can not live without.

Because once passion is discovered, success isn’t far when you put in the work. Success does not need to be money or fancy things,

Success thru passion can simply be having a healthy family that laughs and enjoys life every single day. For some, that is all they will ever need and all they can not live without.

True Capability

Did you know that the human brain has the memory storage which is equivalent of more than four terabytes on a hard drive?

That is intense and insane to actually think about.

Can you imagine if we actually used all that storage and filled it with things that are feeding our brains instead of stealing energy from it with doubt or bad food?

You are incredibly capable of anything you put your mind to. I know that sounds cliché and all but it’s the truth.

What we tell ourselves becomes our reality and our reality becomes what we live.

Gross. Who wants to live anything other than a happy and full life?

You deserve to live your best life. You deserve to fulfill your dreams and aspirations.

Give yourself the chance to find your true capability by challenging yourself.

By doing so time after time you will surely figure out your capabilities that are strong or weak. You do not need to be good at everything you just need to know that your capable of them.

Believe in yourself and the rest will follow.

You are your company

Keeping this short and sweet.

Knowing your environment is crucial.

Why? There is a saying and I would be surprised if you had not heard it or read it.

“You are the average of the FIVE people you spend the most time with.”

Now can I claim this is fact? Well surely I personally can’t but, if you think hard about it. It makes total sense.

You are in control of this and it’s up to you too decided how much you value your environment and the impact it makes on you.

If your okay with average, that’s great! Because that is apart of you.

Do you understand? Are you really letting this sink in?

The power YOU have with the proper set up, creates endless possibility.

Doesn’t that sound, so good?

So give it a shot, really put effort behind this. Think long and hard about how you want your life to be.

Once you narrow that down you are on your way to filtering your environment.

Giving space for people and things that humbly help you launch forward.

Sounds good, yeah?

You’ll never know until you try.

Is Life too crazy for Symmetry as A Parent?

I heard one time that someone just wanted “Balance” in life. I’m sitting here asking myself, “Balance? Is that real?”

So here I sit today and ponder on that comment. That sense of balance the individual was seeking. I ask myself, “Do you seek for Balance outside of yourself?” As in, your surroundings. Or, do you seek for the Balance, inside yourself?

See this is the question I keep asking myself. I put myself in different situations that would challenge me to do either balance inside, or balance in my environment. Then, I tried both. Here are my stories and results.

Neither of them make a difference in how I attacked them. Because there is no such thing as Balance.

Okay let me back up. Perhaps you can have temporary balance. As in, everything is EXACTLY how you want it. However, that isn’t going to last. I am not trying to be negative or a Debbie downer either. Trust me, that is the last thing I want. But hear me out.

Balance is an even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady.

Now, put that into perspective. Having an even distribution in life in all aspects. I mean, are you kidding me. Like I said it can happen for days, or perhaps even a few weeks. But Balance can not be constant. There is always going to be something that is heavier than the other in life. It’s impossible that absolutely everything can sustain a even proportion to create balance. Yes, I am being technical. Because to set your mind up to think there is a balance of complete. That is fooling your brain and you will end up being disappointed for that the placement of that expectation.

So in turn here is what I suggest. This is not a professional piece of advice. This is simply my personal take on what you can create, if you are or wanted to seek Balance.

I suggest you prioritize and find the 3 most important things in your life. Find those three things and create a stable foundation. Start with one and move into the next two. Show yourself Grace, and patience. Balance with even one aspect in life is VERY difficult to maintain and keep up with. But that does not make it impossible.

For instance, If you had prioritized Church, Family, Business. This means you would be placing Church as your main priority to find your balance in that aspect of your life.

Which could entail attending your choice of church, being consistent, becoming apart of the community there in church. You see? It really takes involvement for each aspect in life to maintain balance. Otherwise you lack one thing and it throws it all off. Frustrating right? Which is truly why I feel like we are worker bees.

So what I am getting at is simply my outlook and how I see that Balance can not be a constant in life. So to want that, is okay. But to make it a goal? Well, I think your in a for a very, very long road my friend. I won’t tell you it’s impossible to have Complete Balance. I will just say, I don’t believe it’s possible. I am okay with that because it’s allows me to feel like I am challenged. Like I don’t have to be stagnant in life. It helps remind me that if I want to continue feeling that wonderful feeling of Balance when I do get those opportunities. Well, I better stay constant, or the balance won’t either.

Just My Take on Balance.

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