Why Sunshine over Shadows?

YOUR CHOICE


Searching and longing to feel whole.

Finding the joy inside your Soul.

Life’s journey is beautiful and filled with magic.

It’s your job to jump out and grab it.

Being afraid is completely okay.

Just don’t let it keep you from growing day to day.

Your reason should never be your excuse.

But, more of an entrance to discover the real you.

So don’t give up and don’t give in.

Be stronger than the monster within.

”Dig deeper than the shadows burrow”

This poem was inspired by a simple picture as the one you see.

This morning, doing my normal scrolling through social media. I came across this post and it was from a plant farm here locally in Spokane.

I am a huge succulent fan so it grabbed my attention quickly. Seems as if succulents are the only plants outside of a cactus I can keep alive.

In the beginning of my journey to learning about succulents and growing them from babies to medium plants. I lost LOTS of leafs and my toddler like to share them with the pet cat.

So that would sometimes leave me with some naked looking succulents. Of course, I would naturally just throw away the broken pieces. Not even thinking to give the leaf a opportunity to regrow.

Just like any plant! Take the clipping and put it in water. Duh!

But, a little different with succulent. You can literally just leave that little guy out and it will regrow itself! I believe a tad bit of water on the leaf here and there with proper sunlight.

How incredible is this! I mean the thought to me that I was so quick to just give up and throw away an opportunity of regrowth.

I almost felt bad for all leafs I killed. Ha ha.

So, next time you feel like giving up quickly. Rethink what opportunity lies in the problem. I assure you there is most likely more life or option left in what you are given.

Sending positive vibes your way and wish you the best of your weekend.

Always remember, “You are STRONGER THAN YOU GIVE YOURSELF CREDIT.”

If it makes you feel better, I flipped off my coffee after it spilt on me this morning. #reallife 💋

Thanks for reading!

When defeat grabs your light

Acceptance


Although defeat stood taller today,

The fight in me goes on.

I know what I am worth and I know that I am strong.

Anxiety can make things scary.

But one thing I know for sure, is that my will to win.

That is one thing that keeps me from giving in.

The dreams I see and the vision I have, is bigger than me.

Anxiety will never be allowed to defeat who I am.

Because, God created me for greatness and its my job to prove I can.

“Be brave in the face of fear” This is something I almost feel like I want tattooed on my body.


This little poem was inspired by my anxiety winning and keeping me from something I had been so excited for.

Almost four weeks ago, I purchased a Rachel Hollis “Made for more” move ticket. I have been raving about this for weeks and ridiculously excited to get pumped up and inspired with wisdom and nuggets of goodness.

If you do not know, one of the triggers I have is, walking in the dark alone. Going to a movie entailed me to have to potentially walk a good distance before I get inside. Which was also a parking garage and a location I rarely go.

Now, I know you are probably wondering why I sit and talk about conquering anxiety and being encouraging about it all.

But, I also know that being real is a characteristic I have shared about myself.

Well, this is some of that honesty. You cant always win. We just aren’t built for that.

Failure is apart of success. That is fact.

Which is why I chalked this up as a lesson and I told myself that, “this is apart of my learning curve.”

Acceptance is so vital when we fail or we end up just beating ourselves up. That shit just does not feel good.

So, my point was that I did not attend the show and I am sad about it. I am sitting with the sadness and accepting it so I can move on.

I know that I was doing what was best for my health and just overall, myself. Which needs to be practiced more. I think we all should practice self-awareness and self-love more often.

Anxiety got me last night and for some reason I feel okay with a little regret but also, happy with the gut choice I made.

Yeah, it just felt right.

Sometimes we just have to follow our gut even if it goes against everything we are wanting to do.

If anxiety or your defeat has got you down, remember that its okay to have bad days. Its okay to get defeated by the shit. Accept it and move on. Do not stay in your defeat. Which is why acceptance, I feel like goes hand in hand with defeat.

We will always face defeat and that is not in our control. But what we can do is, focus on accepting what is and learning what we can from it. This is where the journey to success comes and flows.

Thanks for reading ❤

To begin can be scary

Have you started your New Years Resolution?

Perhaps you were up late last night preparing frozen meals, organizing shelves, taking notes for the first day in 2019 or maybe you laid around and spent quality time laughing with your family.

Either way, we all have goals when we begin something new.


The trends and the repetitive repeats of the year before.

Aren’t you sick of setting the same goals every year? Either not reaching them, half reaching them or perhaps, you did actually achieve them.

Good for you!

For those of you, like myself, that start and stop frequently in life by overfilling your “perfection plate.

Trust when I say, “You are not on that wagon alone.”

However, this year I was hoping to encourage others like myself. Too hop off that old wagon and hurdle onto the new one that is actually moving!


Did you know that this is the very last teen of our century? The last teen in your lifetime.

It may not seem like some huge ordeal and perhaps it really is not.

However, sometimes believing something is your last, somehow makes you want to reach for it a little bit more.

Kind of like the theory of, you want what you can’t have.

But, it is not here nor there.

What it is about is, you. This year, it is about kicking your own ass.

If that is physically for you, get on it!

If that is mentally for you, seek it!

If that is emotionally for you, dig for it!

You truly have the power inside of you even when you feel like you don’t.

You are human and it is absolutely normal and natural to simply just feel like you can’t.

But, what I am here to tell you is, you can!

I used to think, that putting a ton of shit on my plate was the best way to get all the things done.

I used to think, that by shooting for 10 things I was stronger or smarter somehow.

I used to…

But this year, this year we can change all we have ever known and done.

Because this year, there is belief like never before. There is passion and there is fire inside of you!

Can you feel it?!

Stop going against what you know your meant to do or be! Don’t worry about what everyone or even that one person will think.

The only persons opinion that matters about you, is yours!

You can never truly be your genuine self if all you do is hide behind a shadow of someone you are not.


Here are some personal tips on how to start and move towards your wanted direction.

  1. Figure out what you want.

I know this is tough. I’m aware it’s the hardest part. But dig deep, soul search and figure out what is burning inside of you. The thing you can not live without. You do not need to be great at this thing. You just have to have a big enough passion and hunger to go after it.

2. How will you get it? Blue print the plan.

No, you do not need to be an architect to blue print your process. You simply need a pencil, some paper and a vision. What is the first step to getting your # 1? I’m not talking about taking the first step here. Simply just writing or drawing it out first. There is SERIOUS magic in writing things down.

Is it changing your attitude?

Is it changing your friends?

Is it adding more nutrition?

Is it implementing more self talk?

How will you get what you want? Figure this out and the next step comes easier.

3. Take the first step

The scariest part. At least for me personally.

Actually, following through with all the things that were just written down is freaky all by itself.

Probably asking yourself, “Am I seriously going to do this?” “Is this actually going to even work?”

Been there and guess what?

You will never know unless you TRY!

So stop allowing FEAR and DOUBT to stop you from everything you DESERVE!

Which takes me to my last tip.

4. Get good at filtering your thoughts

Before you speak, think. Because our reality becomes what we create.

If we are constantly feeding ourselves doubt through thoughts.

Well my friends, I will just tell you now that you will spin your plates for a long time by doing so.

You disservice yourself and all those around you by speaking poorly. By thinking poorly.

We are what we feel and we become what we surround ourself with physically and mentally.

I know this might seem a bit deep and weird to wrap up my last tip this way.

But, it’s truth and if you don’t start taking the filter process more seriously. You will self destruct before you even flip the switch to try.

Believe in yourself. Believe in the power of you!

Always remember that being intentional with everything you do can be life altering.


Happy New Year 2019 to all of you! May you be showered with love and light.

A few things in 2019 I will personally be doing:

  • Being Intentional (My Word for the Year)
  • Learning to manage and work through my Anxiety.
  • Diminish my Personal depression for good!
  • Less unproductive Screen time
  • Increased creative time with Gracie
  • More dates with my Husband
  • Monetize my website
  • Find sponsorship for Podcast
  • Donate as much as possible
  • Attend church regularly
  • Makeup application & Beauty world
  • YouTube channel growth
  • Take walks outside and alone again. This has been a struggle since my anxiety took over.
  • Better nutrition and self care for the inside of my body.
  • Read more and take more notes

NUMBER ONE IS THE GOAL FOR 2019!

The rest are things I plan on working on and getting better at with application and time.

X O X O

You and everyone else…

Have you ever done something in your life when you got no support from people actually present around you?

Perhaps some would pat you on the back or tell you good job, but that is the open and close to the action or compliment if that is how it’s done nowadays?

Is that enough for you?

Should you keep that energy around?

These are valid and necessary questions to ask yourself sometimes.

Especially when you are trying to do something that is totally against the grain. Something that you are building from scratch. It is not just a clock in and clock out kinda lifestyle.

Most times you end up with people that understand nothing about what your doing or why you are doing it. Good thing you are not doing it for them. Because boy oh boy would that pressure be tough or what? Having to please everybody else, including you!

Worrying about how you do things or move your life around to fit people in.

People that are important but currently not more important than your immediate family and goals.

If this can’t be respected, encouraged or understood from the opposing party.

You my friend are in for a bit of a tougher road. Best way too put it.

Sometimes there comes a day when people want to do something for themselves and unfortunately there is no room for extra.

It’s strictly family and work until a goal is met and a break can be given.

For the first time your doing something for yourself.

Go you!

Has this happened to you or happening?

Because I completely know how you feel.

In fact we could not be on more of the same wave link as we are with this.

You see, there are time frames on things in life.

Even life itself.

There are time frames in our teenage years, the mistakes we make and learn from.

Then the decade of our twenties which we end up enduring a lot of experience.

Then when you finish up with the end of your twenties you branch into your thirties.

Here is when you are thinking a lot more about the deeper things in life.

Not saying that this is everyone. But, you have to admit this explanation is pretty average.

Now thinking deeper could be encouraged from settling down for a long period of time with your spouse and creating a family.

Seeing the importance of so much we take for granted.

Understanding how quickly time goes by and the value we throw away by not utilizing the time more wisely.

You and everyone else, is not a qualified recipe.

You are your own ingredients and everyone else is their own formula.

It important to remember when you branch out and start following the path you want and life you deserve. That you simply go after it.

It’s vital to not allow anyone to devalue that or misunderstand the importance of it too you.

Do not rearrange your goals and priorities. This is the first mistake that so many make when they think they can do it all.

Don’t get me wrong, there are probably a lot of you reading this that manage all the things that life throws at you.

Let me ask you something, “How’s that going?”

It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to prioritize and completely cut people out.

It’s your life. Your terms.

Friends if you have people in your circle that don’t understand what your fighting for or what your dealing with in your life.

It’s okay. It’s not their responsibility to know or understand.

It is up to you if you want to share it.

It’s up to you if you want to include those that actually help you thrive and if they do.

Just be sure you keep your environment positive and encouraging for your path.

Because I know to well, it does not take much to break someone that is already feeling broken.

If you are someone that is reading this and dealing with an individual who might not be around much.

Show them love, show them grace, ask them what’s wrong.

Understand that if you know them, you’ll know they aren’t hiding for any reason other than a valid one.

God bless and thanks for reading my thoughts today friends.

Now go out and do that thing, for you.

Positivity in Five Simple Steps

In our day-to-day we all know that coming in contact with negativity is far too common. Even tho we are aware of the control, we still have to adjust our attitudes.

We slip and allow our days to begin with the complaint of being too tired.

You know when your alarm goes off and your laying in your most comfortable spot.

Warm and cozy with that favorite blanket you use.

You hit the snooze and roll over hoping it was all a dream.

I know just that feeling of tired and wanting to shut your eyes and forget about all the responsibilities to come for the day.

I get it.

Now, what we are simply forgetting is, the control we do have, to stop the negative thoughts in the beginning by mentally preparing ourselves the night before.

We can not all have dream jobs or be superstars. So the need to adjust and prepare the night prior is not strange at all.

Even though encouraging to train the brain to be excited for fresh starts is what we should be doing. Too look forward to what tomorrow can bring and what you can achieve.

I believe with every fiber in my body that you can do anything you set your mind to.

If being Positive is the one thing you are seeking to achieve, this is your sign and these are your steps.

If you truly and genuinely follow this method and not make a joke out of the simple things it takes. Well then, you are serious about being a more positive person for

whatever reason you are seeking it.

That is a great start!

We may not be able to control the ocean but we sure as heck can adjust the sails. Direct your own path with a firm belief in your journey to positivity.


HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE POSITIVITY IN YOUR LIFE

AFFIRMATIONS

This is something I find to be the most important one. I placed it at the top specifically for that reason.

When you wake up, before you even start your day or brush your teeth. Wake up and be Grateful. Sit up and take a nice deep breath, smile and appreciate it.

Get out of bed, go to your bathroom mirror and look at your reflection. This is honestly one of the pieces to my personal day that can either boost it or lose it. (Multiple times thru the day are allowed)

What I mean by that is, looking at the mirror and telling yourself with full conviction that you are amazing and smart. Feed yourself affirmations to jump-start your attitude, your belief in your day or even sometimes, yourself.

Do not be too proud.

We can not always wake up on the right side of the bed. That is just being unrealistic if you think that is possible. I encourage you to carve this exercise into your morning routine as it can be a very powerful tool for real life.

READ/AUDIO BOOKS (AKA: BRAIN JUICE)

Yes, I am referring to the old hard copy text books or you can be hip and listen too Audios now! Technology is so cool.

Brain Juice is feeding the brain, Kale VS French fries. Feeding your brain the proper juice is key.

Reading books or listening to them can truly launch your success leaps and bounds if you do it right. It can possess powerful nuggets that can shift and alter your thought process and the actual way you think and learn.

Personal growth is what most people refer to when they talk about reading books.
But you can also be taken on a totally awesome journey thru a juicy non-fiction novel.
However or whatever you read and feed your brain is crucial due to the results of how your brain responds and sparks.

When you listen to a scary non-fiction story first thing in your day or even thru your day. Does it fire you up? Make you feel fueled with motivation and creativity?
Or, does it just simply please the ear and allow you to escape from perhaps your reality?
I try to always keep that in mind so, sharing it felt right.

As Theadore Roosevelt once said, “I am apart of everything that I have read.”

NUTRITION/EXERCISE

I know that this can be very diverse and honestly not everyone will choose to manage doing one or the other or even both.

The sad part is that we are given the free will to make the right choice to take care of and nurture our one body. One liver, one heart, two kidneys, one stomach and yet we still feed and treat our bodies as if they are garbage disposals.

We follow it with a complaint of gaining weight or feeling sleepy. Perhaps this is you or perhaps you are one of the small portions of percentage that prioritize your health and body.

Now when I talk about Nutrition I simple mean this; when you have a muffin or a banana as a choice to pair with your already high sugar and high calorie coffee, I would suggest the banana. Right? Wrong. However, today we choose the muffin. I get it, the muffin is much tastier and so much more satisfying.

But, I assure you that your energy later will feed off that banana a lot longer and better than the high carb muffin. These small choices make huge impact on us thru our days. If we feed our bodies what they truly deserve instead of what our mouths find desirable. I believe, human race could live a healthier and more positive life.

As far as talking about Exercise, I am simply saying go for a walk. It is proven that a simple 15 minutes a day can improve multiple things for you.
If you are the individual that enjoys the hardcore workouts where you are barely breathing and sweating like you just took a shower. Continue kicking butt and perhaps go and encourage those around you! For those of you that just need to take it slow and steady, invest in yoga. You will not regret it.

So remember, Kale or French fries?

INFLUENCE(S)

Now I am sure you have heard the quote stating, “You are the result of the five people you surround yourself with.” If you have not heard it, now you have.

See, it is incredibly easy to turn on the tv and find out some horrible news or perhaps a scary flick turns on. You could simply just be at a work doing your job and yet you are surrounded by the complaints of everyone around you.

If you have an office, be grateful.

However, it is also just as easy to choose the people you listen too.
I know that when you’re at work you may not be able to control everything you are hearing or picking up as you just walk by or sit at your cubicle perhaps.

But what we can do is filter what we allow in our brains. We can choose to hear the complaints or we can choose to point out solutions.

Is that a harder task? Yes. But being positive in your day will fuel you much longer and much stronger than as if you lead it with a negative mind.

Designing your environment can not always be an option in all situations. But, when you have your opportunities to create your environment, by choosing what and who is around you.

Just wait and see the results of how you feel and what you do, by surrounding yourself with it and them.

“I was told once that if I was the smartest person in the room, I was in the wrong room.”
Choose to be around those that enlighten your positivity and knowledge to be better.

MUSIC

I honestly am not sure I can elaborate in words just how impactful music can be on you.

Music can be forgotten sometimes when you live a busy life. A life that doesn’t allow time to tune-in and vibe with good music.

Sometimes your head is so buried in work and personal life that you hardly have time to look up at the mirror and give those self talks we all need.

When you do have the time to give yourself those moments of encouragement be sure you are feeding yourself truth and empowerment.

But, if or when you can’t find the time or words, I assure you that music can.

When you think you do not have time to boost yourself up or perhaps, you really don’t and you stretch every single moment.

Either way, music is a soul feeder. Which is what I call it and consider it to be the deepest you can get from a source of sound.

The energy your feeling if you are excited because, your perhaps headed on a vacation. I bet by playing some super upbeat dance music sure would hype the vibe.
I bet if you were feeling down and sad, listening to a love song or something about loss might not be the best option if you’re looking to feel better.

Does this make sense?

So grab your ear buds, find a space you vibe and allow yourself to feel music that releases the positivity inside of you.

In the end, “Music is the strongest form of Real Magic.” –Marilyn Manson

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