Strength is not always visible

Monster

Monster, Monster go away.

Monster, Monster please don’t stay.

Find a place far away.

Go so far that your chill no longer exists today. 

Monster, Monster I’m only asking for this;

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To feel sunshine and let it sink in.

To be alone and okay in my own skin.

To not be scared when things get tough.

To remember always that life is simply rough.

To keep in mind that just because, the flare ups come, does not mean I am forever numb.

Monster, Monster you have a name and even though I say it with shame.

Monster, Monster I am stronger than you. But some days your stronger than me too.

Until the day I dismiss you forever, I wont give up. Not today, not ever.

 

Written by: Ashley Roberts 

 

Wishing for a Magic Wand…

Have you ever just sat back and randomly been thinking about all the piles of things you need to accomplish? Have you ever wished it would happen with a snap of a finger?

Yeah, me too. 

Reality check. If snapping your finger would solve something without the effort behind it, we would never have a bad day of sex again. Ha! Which we know everyone has bad days.

The inside giggle I am experiencing is so worth that comment.

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The other day I was hanging with Gracie, my daughter. She was running around with this toy I bought her, seriously you guys I think I purchased it at the dollar store. It lights up looking like a magic wand changing colors.

She runs around with it waving it as if she is solving all her problems. Yelling and rambling to her stuffed animals as if she is saving the world.

I sat back and gazed at the imagination and creativity she was experiencing.

In that very moment I also was thinking about all the things I still needed to get done that day. I’m sure if you are a parent you can relate with the never ending list of to-do’s.

Literally 6 loads of clothes were just done to simply catch up. Went downstairs to realize there are 2 new loads to be washed. Sick household calls for multiple loads of laundry.

So, while sitting there pondering about what is next and what is priority, I began to daydream…

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Can you Imagine?

Could you picture if every single person in the world was gifted a magic wand? Perhaps we all would have different abilities and some shared. But, there would only be good done with the wands.

Could you imagine?

As a parent who stays home with the little one I tend to gravitate towards analogies based off that. Being a mom.

Think about this, if you are a parent then you will totally vibe with what I am gonna say.

Getting up in the morning and enjoying the morning; Getting up and relishing in the love and cuddles with the littles ones; Getting up and perhaps making that super delicious breakfast for the family because, you have the extra energy.

How about after breakfast is done, so are the dishes.

What if that little magic wand changed all those poopy diapers? What if you just had the choice to change which ones you wanted?

Could you imagine?

I imagine waking up and actually not rushing. Not needing to feel like I am on a time limit because the list of things to get done are endless and tiring. I imagine having a 5 star restaurant meal for every single time dinner is served for the family.

Could you imagine?

Yes, that will be repeated numerous times because it should be engraved into our brains that it is okay to NOT want to do all the things all the time.

We are human my friends. You and all of us have got to stop beating ourselves up because we don’t get all the things done.

The things can wait as we prioritize the more important tasks. Organize your list and don’t apply pressure for the small things.

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I will wave that wand tho

Just because it may not be realistic and exist only merely in fairy tales. I will hold onto the magic that could be possible. Right?!

Because what is life without imagination?  

Well, no life at all if you ask me. Dream the dreams that are so crazy they would be in fairy tales.

Dream dreams that occur in the middle of your day and not just in your sleep.

Dream dreams that will carry you thru your day and allow you to use your imagination on, what that magic wand is capable of.

Then, I want you to put your hands out and realize something important.

Those two hands your holding in front of you. Yes, all those 10 fingers and beautifully made hands.

Those are uniquely made, those are not copies, they are not too old or too young and by golly they are not incapable of magic.

Your two hands are capable of much more than magic. They are capable of creating in reality.

You posses a lot at the fingertips of your hands. You can accomplish more than you think. Even tho the tasks seem endless and tiring. They wont last forever.

The sink will be less full of dishes, the house will be clean more often, less to pick up, there will soon enough only be one bed in the house to make and before you blink, all those tasks will be missed.

The chores of a parent with one or multiple children are endless. But if I were to do one thing before I close it is this, to encourage you to leave here and know that you do posses the ability to get it all done.

However, I assure you the moment spent doing something other than a task. Is a memory made instead of a dirty dish cleaned.

Always weigh out your end result for your invested time.

I’d have to say my time spent giving love and worrying less about the tasks, fill my heart more than my never ending list ever could.

What about you do you tend to make too many demands of yourself?

Positive Mental Food


Born with a Positive Attitude


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Now, don’t get me wrong I am far from exceeding an anxiety free life but, I tend to manage working thru everything simply with the right attitude.

Winston Churchill once said, “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” 

Be positive! It just sounds so cliché but those two words together pack a lot of power.

Waking up in the mornings are the most detrimental and impactful portion of your day. It is the beginning and the impression for your start.

Now before I jump into some tips and little pieces of my own personal motivators. I want to share with you three of my absolute favorite affirmations.

Perhaps someone else will fancy them as well.


Repeat these as you read them

  • I have it within me to solve any challenge that occurs today.
  • I fearlessly believe in me.
  • I am enough. Who I am is enough. What I do is enough and what I have is enough

Those three affirmations can be very impactful if you use them the right way.

When you are affirming yourself you need to be sure you are saying it with conviction and belief. When you look in that mirror and repeat encouraging and empowering words back to yourself, you have got to believe it.

Hoping you are filling; no, I hope you are overflowing yourself with affirmations that help you feel like you can fly.

Because, the power of self-empowerment is over looked to often. We seek others to be our consistent encourager.

When in reality, seeking encouragement and empowerment for absolute from others is not your best longevity answer.

Mostly because, the one person you should know you can always turn too for a personal boost, is you.

We are our own most powerful tool. Its time we start putting ourselves to work.


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Be kind to yourself

The reason this is the starter is because most people are really hard on themselves. We are known to be our own worst critic.

It is so important to be sure you celebrate in moments of success. No matter the size of the conquer.

Buy the dessert if you did some extra sales that week!

Go get that Day Spa treatment you have been telling yourself you deserve.

For the love of all things be sure you tell yourself how absolutely wonderfully made you are!

Because gosh darn it God doesn’t make junk!

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Steer away from the Blue Light


  Get out and experience the beauty away from your phone

Screen time. They say that for children under two years old, tv should be limited to one hour a day.

Mayo clinic states it right here.

So what is healthy for adults? What are we left to work with if technology is the source to our rapid moving society?

How are we to keep from seeing a screen so much in our day when a screen is what allows us to move forward in multiple ways?

Adults have cell phones with them at all times. So what can we do in order to manage more intentional screen time?

Well you can start with timing yourself. I know, it seems silly but it is more silly to allow yourself to feel more tired than you need to only because you cant keep your eyes off of the screen.

Did you know that the human mind in todays society can only keep a attention span for 8 seconds?

How are we ever to be innovative or creative with our minds if we are constantly consuming and drowning them with everything other than our own thoughts?

I encourage you to look into how to manage screen time in your life. You can do that by clicking here.


Reading


You can read your favorite style of book or perhaps just favorite topic.

You can choose to grab a non-fiction story or you can choose to grab the book all about launching your career.

You see, when reading and positivity come together, personal growth books are what come to mind.

When you want to properly feed that beautiful brain you have, be sure your giving it the proper nutrition.

The type of food that will fuel it for long-term. You don’t want fatty food to clog your mental awareness or creative thoughts.

You see if you choose to grab that book that will feed your brain the knowledge to launch your career it could just be the answer to just that.

How will you know unless you read it?

How can you move forward by reading that non-fiction?

How can you possibly have a positive and forward moving attitude towards your day or future by just reading about fantasy?

Get real and be intentional about your brain and what you feed it. Be intentional about how you become positive for yourself.

In the end my friends you are the solution to your own positivity.

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Am I doing it right?

 


All the choices


The questions spiral most days. They can transpire into good or bad but, most days I spin my wheels trying to decide. I have always been a creature of solution seeking. Trying to figure out the best way to solve the troublesome issue that either repeats itself or is simply a one-time occurrence.

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When my hair is flat I use hairspray and tease it like I am a sexy lifeguard off Baywatch in the 80’s. If the batteries run out of juice I simply grab another toy and use those batteries. Simple problem solving yet, people fret about these things instead of just fix the issue without bitching. We all know in this day in age tho you can not have a day without a complaint of some sort. Why do you ask? I have no damn clue. Let alone I really don’t get why you wouldn’t want to just have a day without something shading your sunshine. Right?! Nope. But, you’d think so!

I wonder day in and day out tho when I make choices if I am making the right ones. Or if there really is a right one.

Raising another human is seriously a lot of responsibility and pressure. Not always in a heavy way but, let us be real. We are shaping the life of a person that will eventually have a voice in this world. I don’t want to raise a dick. Right? Ha! ( Light hearted joke
I mean when Gracie is sick or gets a rash is it just something we let work itself out and it will go away? Or do we call the doctor and do what every single mom does in this day in age. Worry that what Google is telling them might be that their child will die over some red splotches. You get what I am saying yeah? 

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Truly every single day I am fretting over whether or not I am making the right choice. But, besides the basics of right and wrong in the world. Who is the hell made the “Right” list? Like, as in how things are supposed to be done. Why do I and possibly you feel like we have to doubt if we are making the right choice to stay home or go back to work? Perhaps it is as simple as putting your kid in speech therapy at two or at three. Do we disservice them by doing it our way or listening to the doctors? Is it really going to matter if they eat that handful of dirt? Will the finger in the socket really kill them or teach them a lesson to stop pulling the protectors off? (I’m kidding) Can you feed them a piece of popcorn at two or are they really going to choke and die?

I mean you guys, the list goes on and on with what choices we make day in and day out. Are we overprotecting or are we simply encouraging to make smart choices and be aware of things? Should I be so worried about teaching my daughter all the bad that is happening to women in our day today? Can I just not tell her the bad and horrible things to protect her mindset or am I honest so that she is informed?

In reality, we are all fighting to make the choices we think are going to be the best ones for our kids. Heck even making choices for ourselves every single day can be stressful. Depending on your job or just the position your in with life currently. Choices have so much impact on the conclusion for ourselves and others. I find that being aware that choices are powerful really help me at least alleviate that scared feeling of making the wrong choice.

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In the end my friends, we are not in control of the end result. In my paradigm, God has reins on that one. No matter the shift in direction by choice. If something is meant to happen or be, God will bring you back too it. Even if the battle isn’t always pretty, in fact, it could be a bloody mess.

Is the fight worth it to you?

Figuring out the road map…

 


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Do you remember the days when you would get up at hit the road with your pals? The endless road trips and memories created. But mostly, do you remember not having cell phones with GPS? When we had one person holding the giant paper map to navigate where the hell you were going. If you never did this its either because you never took a road trip needing a map or you were born once GPS was carried around in our hands at all times.UnitedStatesMap.jpg

I can remember when I took my first road trip to California from Washington state and I was nineteen years old. The details aren’t important outside of remembering to hold up a huge paper map and navigate. For someone who failed geography, I should not be in charge of navigation. But, we got there and I actually did a pretty good job! So anyways I thought perhaps I was not alone in the era of paper maps.

Sitting here the other day and wondering what I was doing. Not just with my moment but, with my writing and my podcast. Basically, what is my goal and how will I get there? I began to panic a bit because for someone that stays at home all day and brings in no income can easily feel like they are failing at life. When you see people just having a simple 9-5 job and idolizing the independence they can feel.

Even tho I know that raising my daughter is seriously an important responsibility and privilege. But, if you feel like I do I am sure that little explaining is needed. For those of you that can not relate, perhaps reading on you will be able to.

I have spent the last year writing and trying to learn this blogging world. I know that the never-ending blogging world is always shifting and changing. So much to learn and take in when you want to move forward with success. I mean I literally have nobody to actually sit here and teach me properly. Lots of people think they can teach but, it takes a specific character and amount of patience to teach someone. Basically, I am self-taught with everything and somedays I doubt my abilities. I doubt that I will ever be able to narrow down just what I will offer readers to create some type of career from writing. Will I write an e-book? Will I teach courses? Will I create templates or simply sell stock photos? I mean I suppose I could write for other people and make posts about topics to get short-term pay. But, let us be real if you are like me and you are trying to make something from nothing then I bet you are feeling what I am saying.

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I might sort of be all over the place but, if you have never read anything of mine before I can sometimes have a squirrel type attention span.

So badly I feel this thing inside of me that wants to scream. I don’t know if that even makes sense but, its there and its real. The feeling is powerful and big. Sometimes I feel like my brain is so busy it is hard to organize my thoughts and then I get worried I won’t move forward because I am completely unorganized. Not on purpose but simply because I am doing my best and I really have no help figuring it all out. Which honestly is totally okay, its just a bit harder and might take me a little longer to figure it all out.

In all honesty, if I did things the traditional way it would probably be easier but, that is far from who I am.

Writing is absolutely where I belong. Podcasting is a place my personality can be heard and not just read. Between the two I really hope to reach all arrays of individuals and pray that I can inspire them or encourage. Perhaps when they listen they or you can feel not so alone by tuning in with myself and my co-host or simply by reading something I have written.

I mean, am I alone? Are you feeling anything that I feel? Do you wish when you sit at your desk that maybe you could just view the ocean or even better be at home in your pajamas loving on your littles with no stress about anything because, you just don’t need too anymore, for whatever reason?

I see so many moms in the world that pull together these incredible communities of people together. Creating a business along the way and that is what I intend to do. I have no idea how, I have no clue if I am even in the right vehicle to get there but, I won’t give up.
This feeling to be a part of something big, to create and feel like I am living my best life by including hundreds of thousands of people all around the world! I hope that my writing and podcasting is what does that for me because I feel it in every fiber of my being its where I belong. I know that with all of this can come other opportunities and that is also something I hope for.


IF LIFE HANDED YOU A PAPER MAP TO ALL THE ANSWERS, WOULD YOU TAKE IT?

(Comment with a Yes or No in the section below)

Some days I just feel really lost only because I don’t have the answers and that makes me feel less in control of what the hell I am doing. Are you like that?

Feeling conflicted between the good and bad angel on my shoulders. One telling me to give up on what I am working towards and the other one telling me that I am magnificent and capable of all things.
Obviously, I am a badass and choose to push thru the garbage. But I mean I am only human. So are you, so don’t beat yourself up when you stumble because, failures are one thing I have learned that actually are the mold to holding the success together. What we learn NOT to do, is what helps us leap forward with what too do. Make sense?

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Anyways, perhaps you can give this a like or a comment if you to have ever felt doubt or lost in your path. Trying to figure out what the hell you are doing with, what you are doing.

Don’t give up. You will get there. Its inevitable if you walk the road long enough you arrive to the destination. 

I was really surprised when…

 


Can you believe…


About six years ago I was fortunate enough to meet a few people that had a great impact and influence on my life. Sadly they are no longer in our lives but, not on bad terms. Just terms that business relationships grew apart. They are and will always be incredible people that made a difference in my life. Isn’t it neat how we can come in contact with individuals in life yet they will only serve a short-term purpose? I have always found it fascinating how destiny just happens.
Anyhow, during the time they were coaching us thru our business and giving us tools to grow personally as well as being a business owner.

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Over the time frame of the first year, I was working with them, I had read 8 books. Eight! I hadn’t picked up a book and read the entire thing before that for years. Truth. Something inside me felt like I was doing it for a purpose. Which made me feel more inclined to read and learn what I was being directed to do.

Twenty-Seven years old, married for almost one year at this point and handed a book. A book I literally had never laid eyes on, been informed about nor had I ever heard of what they were talking about.

Gary Chapman an author which I will never forget because even tho I had read eight books prior to this one. This particular book I knew was going to be good for me. There are a few things that I personally struggle with giving. Probably with how I was raised or who I spent my time with. It could even simply be the information I was taught along my time growing up.

The Five Love Languages. This book is something I encourage every single person I meet to read. I believe that this book can later someone’s perspective on understanding how to love someone. If you have not read it, the link is above! I encourage you to do so, as soon as possible. You will not regret it.

llIn the book, they obviously talk about the 5 Love Languages and I do not want to spoil it for you. So this is what I want to do, I want to list out the five different languages that Gary lists here in his book.

  • Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Words of Affirmation
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch

Now, I only want to list the topics because I would love for you to first write down what you think these mean to you. What you think your love language is and what you think your spouse or partners are. Before you do anything else and go research stuff or read more. Do that first!

So, when I initially learned about this amazing way to love people and make them feel good. I was compelled to share it with anyone I could. If you were having any type of relationship issue, I would always suggest this book. Now I know it sounds weird and crazy to some people to have a “love tank.” But I assure you it is a real thing and when it is full it feels really good.

When I asked my family members and a lot of people I just generally associate with, they had no clue what I was talking about. Which I was not totally surprised since I had not very long ago either. So, I shared! I loaned my book or I would simply inform on where to go or what to look up. I truly believe in all my being that love languages are vital to a healthy and sustainable relationship.

Click here to take a fun little Quiz for your Love Language type!

If that be a best friend, a child, a pet or your husband and wife. Every living thing has a way it wants to be loved. A way that fills their heart and makes them feel loved. For example, I will use myself because that is the best testimony someone can have, right?

My whole life I basically grew up with no father figure. So for any type of healthy example to be given on how to love a man or a man to love a woman was not really exampled to me. My parents are great people so please don’t misunderstand. But, how could I possibly learn to compliment a man and know that they need affirmations just like women might if I was never shown the example?

Long story short, when I met my husband he is a man of affirmations. I had no idea how to give that to a man nor did I even know what Love languages were then. My Language is Acts of Service. So when someone does not know how to give the proper love to the other person, they tend to give the love they seek. (RE READ THAT last sentence) Which in the end is pretty disserving if the receiver is affirmations. Make sense? You will get tired of putting energy into a bucket with a hole. Trust me.

I mean it is nice for me to do things for my husband but, he would rather me compliment him on how proud I am of him. Instead of wash his car. Ha! When in my world, I want my car washed! HAHA! Who knew this stuff was real?! But it is. You should really give attention because I am telling you the reward is worth the effort. I think a great addition for ANY bookshelf. They also have a Children’s Love language book that I also Highly encourage you to take a peek at if you have children.

Anyways, I hope you were able to learn something here today or perhaps enjoy a fun little quiz and say you learned something about yourself. 

Keep in mind that sharing is caring! Hugs!

If we want Peace, We need more…


Kindness


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Did you know that every single day there is a National Holiday? Did you know that a lot of those holidays are really awesome and give a reason to have a daily celebration! It is like living the life of a Troll! Ha!
Did you notice that a ton of people across the world are asking, begging and pleading for more peace in the world? I mean, if you are not aware that people actually want that, well then, your head has been in the sand far too long. We are crying out for it! I just think perhaps our tactics and skills may be a little teetered. I mean, no one can expect anyone to know how too ask for peace properly, yeah?


I mean this is a really great example of Peace, right? Because this is what we continue day in and day out. (Sarcasm)

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How are we ever suppose to create peace with judgment? Simple. You do not. With the finger-pointing in this day in age we are so shielded from seeing anything other than finger pointing.
Democrat or Republican. Black or White. Christian or Buddhist. Honest or a Liar. Broken or Healed. Rich or Poor. Young or Old.
The judgment needs to end in order for there ever to even be a chance, a shot in hell to accomplish peace. Will there still be war? Yeah, probably because, that is above the generalized population. Collectively the part of the world who is most impactful is us and by the way, there is a lot more of us down here in the real world. Peace can be created as simple as a flower opening for the first time.
Peace is inside all of us and if we took the time to properly manifest that and inspire others to do the same. I believe, Peace could be created. With peace comes the celebration of November 13th.


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World Kindness.

Which I truly believe can stem from the creation of Peace and of course the longevity of that. However, it takes work and a lot of it to maintain balanced peace to create more kindness. Don’t you think people would be nicer if the world was a bit more peaceful?

Anyhow these were some thoughts that came to my head and since today is the celebration of World Kindness. I wanted to shed some of my personal thoughts and feelings.

Hope you enjoyed or perhaps were simply encouraged to go out and shed some genuine kindness in the world today!

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