Perhaps some would pat you on the back or tell you good job, but that is the open and close to the action or compliment if that is how it’s done nowadays?
Is that enough for you?
Should you keep that energy around?
These are valid and necessary questions to ask yourself sometimes.
Especially when you are trying to do something that is totally against the grain. Something that you are building from scratch. It is not just a clock in and clock out kinda lifestyle.
Most times you end up with people that understand nothing about what your doing or why you are doing it. Good thing you are not doing it for them. Because boy oh boy would that pressure be tough or what? Having to please everybody else, including you!
Worrying about how you do things or move your life around to fit people in.
People that are important but currently not more important than your immediate family and goals.
If this can’t be respected, encouraged or understood from the opposing party.
You my friend are in for a bit of a tougher road. Best way too put it.
Sometimes there comes a day when people want to do something for themselves and unfortunately there is no room for extra.
It’s strictly family and work until a goal is met and a break can be given.
For the first time your doing something for yourself.
Has this happened to you or happening?
Because I completely know how you feel.
In fact we could not be on more of the same wave link as we are with this.
You see, there are time frames on things in life.
Even life itself.
There are time frames in our teenage years, the mistakes we make and learn from.
Then the decade of our twenties which we end up enduring a lot of experience.
Then when you finish up with the end of your twenties you branch into your thirties.
Here is when you are thinking a lot more about the deeper things in life.
Not saying that this is everyone. But, you have to admit this explanation is pretty average.
Now thinking deeper could be encouraged from settling down for a long period of time with your spouse and creating a family.
Seeing the importance of so much we take for granted.
Understanding how quickly time goes by and the value we throw away by not utilizing the time more wisely.
You and everyone else, is not a qualified recipe.
You are your own ingredients and everyone else is their own formula.
It important to remember when you branch out and start following the path you want and life you deserve. That you simply go after it.
It’s vital to not allow anyone to devalue that or misunderstand the importance of it too you.
Do not rearrange your goals and priorities. This is the first mistake that so many make when they think they can do it all.
Don’t get me wrong, there are probably a lot of you reading this that manage all the things that life throws at you.
Let me ask you something, “How’s that going?”
It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to prioritize and completely cut people out.
It’s your life. Your terms.
Friends if you have people in your circle that don’t understand what your fighting for or what your dealing with in your life.
It’s okay. It’s not their responsibility to know or understand.
It is up to you if you want to share it.
It’s up to you if you want to include those that actually help you thrive and if they do.
Just be sure you keep your environment positive and encouraging for your path.
Because I know to well, it does not take much to break someone that is already feeling broken.
If you are someone that is reading this and dealing with an individual who might not be around much.
Show them love, show them grace, ask them what’s wrong.
Understand that if you know them, you’ll know they aren’t hiding for any reason other than a valid one.
God bless and thanks for reading my thoughts today friends.
Now go out and do that thing, for you.
The other day while browsing for material to read and gander at. An article came across that was so riveting it had me actual spend some time searching for some personal answers.
Things that in reality are really important to know about yourself. Even if that means you spend a decade figuring it out, which of course I never hope that on anyone.
Eventually the questions that deserve answers will be found.
Well, this is a very valid point as to why the list here is even going to exist.
Reflection my friends.
See, by doing this one-act a minimal amount of time every single day can literally transform your perspective.
Friends if you can alter your perspective and get a grasp on managing that. Well, your on your way to much bigger things then you can even imagine.
Reflection leads to Perspective.
No, this might not be a fact nor have I even tried looking that up. But, I am someone who believe in logic and when I say things out loud if they make sense logically they probably just make sense.
So my point is when I say that little sentence, “Reflection leads to Perspective.”
I am saying that merely because for me, it works. So I figured why in the world would I not share such a valuable and helpful piece of advice that has actually benefit me.
Sometimes for people doing things alone can be not just scary but, it can literally stop that person from actually doing it.
Fear is not to be underestimated and also not to be judged.
It’s so vital in today’s age we reach out, we lend a hand and we show grace for everyone.
With the diversity that has been created through all the negativity, it is more important not than it ever has been, too come together.
If you feel inside your gut that the person you are looking at needs some encouragement or a hug. Give them love, give them what they deserve as a human being.
Let’s just remember one things before we move forward.
Once Mark Twain said these words and quiet honestly there might not be anything more powerful or fitting for what we deal with in today’s world.
“KINDNESS IS THE LANGUAGE WHICH THE DEAF CAN HEAR AND THE BLIND CAN SEE.”
What a powerful perspective right?
It is important that the first thing you know about yourself is that your unique and beautifully made.
Whatever weird thing you are into your allowed. You are aloud to be however corky you want.
You can dance in the street with short and sandals in the middle of winter. If that is what you want to do! You might freeze your rear off but, you will be you!
So take the time to sit down, really embrace and fall in the fact that you are the only you on the planet.
So gosh darn-it smile about that.
Some days can be tough. So tough, that some people actually think about ending their life.
The lack of expression in love is harming our society.
The importance of understand, appreciating and knowing with conviction that you are loved.
Now I have no idea who you have in your life or who you hold close. In fact the people you do might be harming you in ways you don’t even understand. We will get to that.
Remember that even when you have no body and there is not a soul around, at the moment. I would encourage you to do one thing, walk to the mirror and take a hard look at you.
Look hard. Tell yourself, “I love you.”
In moments of desperation and feeling low or not loved. It’s important to remember that we are allowed to love ourselves and that it is more powerful than anyone else ever-loving you.
Does being loved feel good? Of course.
Does it solve your problem of feeling loved? Maybe.
If that person were to go or simply when they do, what then? Who will love you then?
Do you see the importance of, self-love?
Know this about yourself my beautiful friend. Loving you first and knowing how to love yourself is truly filling.
The encouragement to try is massive.
Okay now these things that are being listed might seem strange or simply unorthodox too you. That is honestly 100% okay and you can continue the read and find value or not.
The idea here is to give perspective.
This being the third on the list which was intentional. Third time is a charm is literally why I went with it.
Perspective to me is charming. It literally changes lives and is powerful enough to alter someone complete lifestyle.
Is that crazy? Of course it sounds crazy but, if you back it up with hard work after placing the perspective where it goes.
You guys! You can learn so dang much more about yourself when you learn to shift perspective.
Will you nail it every time? Probably not. I hope you do but, in reality we all have to fail a shit load of times before we even win once.
Is it worth putting the effort into actually training your mind? YES! A million times yes!
Think about it and perhaps come back and we can chat thru commentary and be genuinely real with one another.
Abraham Lincoln said, “We can complain that rose bushes have thorns or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
Whew! This one is tough for a lot of people. Some are blessed to figure out they are made to build rocket ships when they are 5 years old.
Some are sixty and have literally never discovered one passion they had.
Could you imagine living a life without a passion for one thing?
I mean even the simplest of a passion for tea or your kids..
Passion can be found with anything and that is what is so incredibly magical about it. You get to decide your indefinite love for something.
The one things you will not negotiate on or give up.
You know that is inside of you, right? You know that there is some type of fire living inside that is burning.
SO if you get frequent stomach aches or feel low for no apparent reason. Truth is something is trying to come out.
Sit with yourself and try to dig it out, try and find the thing you can not live without.
Because once passion is discovered, success isn’t far when you put in the work. Success does not need to be money or fancy things,
Success thru passion can simply be having a healthy family that laughs and enjoys life every single day. For some, that is all they will ever need and all they can not live without.
Did you know that the human brain has the memory storage which is equivalent of more than four terabytes on a hard drive?
That is intense and insane to actually think about.
Can you imagine if we actually used all that storage and filled it with things that are feeding our brains instead of stealing energy from it with doubt or bad food?
You are incredibly capable of anything you put your mind to. I know that sounds cliché and all but it’s the truth.
What we tell ourselves becomes our reality and our reality becomes what we live.
Gross. Who wants to live anything other than a happy and full life?
You deserve to live your best life. You deserve to fulfill your dreams and aspirations.
Give yourself the chance to find your true capability by challenging yourself.
By doing so time after time you will surely figure out your capabilities that are strong or weak. You do not need to be good at everything you just need to know that your capable of them.
Believe in yourself and the rest will follow.
Keeping this short and sweet.
Knowing your environment is crucial.
Why? There is a saying and I would be surprised if you had not heard it or read it.
“You are the average of the FIVE people you spend the most time with.”
Now can I claim this is fact? Well surely I personally can’t but, if you think hard about it. It makes total sense.
You are in control of this and it’s up to you too decided how much you value your environment and the impact it makes on you.
If your okay with average, that’s great! Because that is apart of you.
Do you understand? Are you really letting this sink in?
The power YOU have with the proper set up, creates endless possibility.
Doesn’t that sound, so good?
So give it a shot, really put effort behind this. Think long and hard about how you want your life to be.
Once you narrow that down you are on your way to filtering your environment.
Giving space for people and things that humbly help you launch forward.
Sounds good, yeah?
You’ll never know until you try.
Someone once told me that if you don’t believe in yourself, nobody else will either.
At that moment the comment was not invited nor reciprocated in a positive manner.
Even though looking back it was merely a wise piece of advice.
I now use that small sentence to motivate me at my low moments of seeking out belief from others. To turn around looking in the mirror, knowing it’s my responsibility to first have the belief in myself before it would ever be given.
Why do we demean ourselves and the conviction of what we believe in or do?
Why do we not stand tall when someone asks us simply, “what do you do?”
Why do we shy away from our paths even when no career is in place?
Why do we care so much about other people and their opinions?
Those are simply just a few questions that came to mind which I know have been questioned. (Personal experience)
Do you ever ask yourself why we seek out validation?
Knowing a few individuals who have personality types that are absolute on needing validation.
Yet, behind doors they have zero belief in themselves.
How can there be true fulfillment?
Behind doors they cry in fear of what others think.
Why do we do this to ourselves?
Last year, blogging came into my life and forever has changed it. Being a stay at home mom with no consistent income and a husband who was tired and supporting us with loads of love.
You see when I began the journey a lot of people questioned me and my choice of what the hell I was doing or trying to learn too do.
Of course being the odd duck and always being outside the box.
But, the pressure actually got to me and the hiatus happened.
I had allowed them and the opinions to win.
How dare I!
After the hiatus and hard realization of feeling something missing, blogging came back to my life and here I am.
My point to the short story is simply that if I would of listened, if I would not have believed in myself enough.
This would not be here right now.
The improvement and knowledge gained would not be here right now.
The important thing was, the thing that was missing and created that short break.
Was belief in myself.
Being so busy seeking out validation and belief from other people, I simply forgot to see it in myself.
Which lead me to writing this short but sweet message. In hopes to encourage or enlighten another.
Next time you feel like your doing something for you and something that lights you on fire.
Something that you can not let go of and forget.
Don’t. Do not stop fighting for it.
Believe in yourself. Believe that you are capable of literally anything you allow your mind to learn and do.
Remember how powerful you are and that belief in yourself, is some type of power on its own.
BY GRACE THROUGH FAITH
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