You and everyone else…

Have you ever done something in your life when you got no support from people actually present around you?

Perhaps some would pat you on the back or tell you good job, but that is the open and close to the action or compliment if that is how it’s done nowadays?

Is that enough for you?

Should you keep that energy around?

These are valid and necessary questions to ask yourself sometimes.

Especially when you are trying to do something that is totally against the grain. Something that you are building from scratch. It is not just a clock in and clock out kinda lifestyle.

Most times you end up with people that understand nothing about what your doing or why you are doing it. Good thing you are not doing it for them. Because boy oh boy would that pressure be tough or what? Having to please everybody else, including you!

Worrying about how you do things or move your life around to fit people in.

People that are important but currently not more important than your immediate family and goals.

If this can’t be respected, encouraged or understood from the opposing party.

You my friend are in for a bit of a tougher road. Best way too put it.

Sometimes there comes a day when people want to do something for themselves and unfortunately there is no room for extra.

It’s strictly family and work until a goal is met and a break can be given.

For the first time your doing something for yourself.

Go you!

Has this happened to you or happening?

Because I completely know how you feel.

In fact we could not be on more of the same wave link as we are with this.

You see, there are time frames on things in life.

Even life itself.

There are time frames in our teenage years, the mistakes we make and learn from.

Then the decade of our twenties which we end up enduring a lot of experience.

Then when you finish up with the end of your twenties you branch into your thirties.

Here is when you are thinking a lot more about the deeper things in life.

Not saying that this is everyone. But, you have to admit this explanation is pretty average.

Now thinking deeper could be encouraged from settling down for a long period of time with your spouse and creating a family.

Seeing the importance of so much we take for granted.

Understanding how quickly time goes by and the value we throw away by not utilizing the time more wisely.

You and everyone else, is not a qualified recipe.

You are your own ingredients and everyone else is their own formula.

It important to remember when you branch out and start following the path you want and life you deserve. That you simply go after it.

It’s vital to not allow anyone to devalue that or misunderstand the importance of it too you.

Do not rearrange your goals and priorities. This is the first mistake that so many make when they think they can do it all.

Don’t get me wrong, there are probably a lot of you reading this that manage all the things that life throws at you.

Let me ask you something, “How’s that going?”

It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to prioritize and completely cut people out.

It’s your life. Your terms.

Friends if you have people in your circle that don’t understand what your fighting for or what your dealing with in your life.

It’s okay. It’s not their responsibility to know or understand.

It is up to you if you want to share it.

It’s up to you if you want to include those that actually help you thrive and if they do.

Just be sure you keep your environment positive and encouraging for your path.

Because I know to well, it does not take much to break someone that is already feeling broken.

If you are someone that is reading this and dealing with an individual who might not be around much.

Show them love, show them grace, ask them what’s wrong.

Understand that if you know them, you’ll know they aren’t hiding for any reason other than a valid one.

God bless and thanks for reading my thoughts today friends.

Now go out and do that thing, for you.

Do you know these things about yourself?

The other day while browsing for material to read and gander at. An article came across that was so riveting it had me actual spend some time searching for some personal answers.

Things that in reality are really important to know about yourself. Even if that means you spend a decade figuring it out, which of course I never hope that on anyone.

Eventually the questions that deserve answers will be found.


Why these Questions?

Well, this is a very valid point as to why the list here is even going to exist.

Reflection my friends.

See, by doing this one-act a minimal amount of time every single day can literally transform your perspective.

Friends if you can alter your perspective and get a grasp on managing that. Well, your on your way to much bigger things then you can even imagine.

Reflection leads to Perspective.

No, this might not be a fact nor have I even tried looking that up. But, I am someone who believe in logic and when I say things out loud if they make sense logically they probably just make sense.

So my point is when I say that little sentence, “Reflection leads to Perspective.”

I am saying that merely because for me, it works. So I figured why in the world would I not share such a valuable and helpful piece of advice that has actually benefit me.


Lets transform Together

Sometimes for people doing things alone can be not just scary but, it can literally stop that person from actually doing it.

Fear is not to be underestimated and also not to be judged.

It’s so vital in today’s age we reach out, we lend a hand and we show grace for everyone.

With the diversity that has been created through all the negativity, it is more important not than it ever has been, too come together.

If you feel inside your gut that the person you are looking at needs some encouragement or a hug. Give them love, give them what they deserve as a human being.

Let’s just remember one things before we move forward.

Once Mark Twain said these words and quiet honestly there might not be anything more powerful or fitting for what we deal with in today’s world.

“KINDNESS IS THE LANGUAGE WHICH THE DEAF CAN HEAR AND THE BLIND CAN SEE.”

What a powerful perspective right?


TIME TO GET HONEST & TO THE POINT

Whether you like it or not, you are like no one else

It is important that the first thing you know about yourself is that your unique and beautifully made.

Whatever weird thing you are into your allowed. You are aloud to be however corky you want.

You can dance in the street with short and sandals in the middle of winter. If that is what you want to do! You might freeze your rear off but, you will be you!

So take the time to sit down, really embrace and fall in the fact that you are the only you on the planet.

So gosh darn-it smile about that.

You are Loved

Some days can be tough. So tough, that some people actually think about ending their life.

The lack of expression in love is harming our society.

The importance of understand, appreciating and knowing with conviction that you are loved.

Now I have no idea who you have in your life or who you hold close. In fact the people you do might be harming you in ways you don’t even understand. We will get to that.

Remember that even when you have no body and there is not a soul around, at the moment. I would encourage you to do one thing, walk to the mirror and take a hard look at you.

Look hard. Tell yourself, “I love you.”

In moments of desperation and feeling low or not loved. It’s important to remember that we are allowed to love ourselves and that it is more powerful than anyone else ever-loving you.

Does being loved feel good? Of course.

Does it solve your problem of feeling loved? Maybe.

If that person were to go or simply when they do, what then? Who will love you then?

Do you see the importance of, self-love?

Know this about yourself my beautiful friend. Loving you first and knowing how to love yourself is truly filling.

The encouragement to try is massive.

Power of Perspective

Okay now these things that are being listed might seem strange or simply unorthodox too you. That is honestly 100% okay and you can continue the read and find value or not.

The idea here is to give perspective.

This being the third on the list which was intentional. Third time is a charm is literally why I went with it.

Perspective to me is charming. It literally changes lives and is powerful enough to alter someone complete lifestyle.

Is that crazy? Of course it sounds crazy but, if you back it up with hard work after placing the perspective where it goes.

You guys! You can learn so dang much more about yourself when you learn to shift perspective.

Will you nail it every time? Probably not. I hope you do but, in reality we all have to fail a shit load of times before we even win once.

Is it worth putting the effort into actually training your mind? YES! A million times yes!

Think about it and perhaps come back and we can chat thru commentary and be genuinely real with one another.

Abraham Lincoln said, “We can complain that rose bushes have thorns or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” 

Perspective.

Figuring out Passion

Whew! This one is tough for a lot of people. Some are blessed to figure out they are made to build rocket ships when they are 5 years old.

Some are sixty and have literally never discovered one passion they had.

Could you imagine living a life without a passion for one thing?

I mean even the simplest of a passion for tea or your kids..

Passion can be found with anything and that is what is so incredibly magical about it. You get to decide your indefinite love for something.

The one things you will not negotiate on or give up.

You know that is inside of you, right? You know that there is some type of fire living inside that is burning.

SO if you get frequent stomach aches or feel  low for no apparent reason. Truth is something is trying to come out.

Sit with yourself and try to dig it out, try and find the thing you can not live without.

Because once passion is discovered, success isn’t far when you put in the work. Success does not need to be money or fancy things,

Success thru passion can simply be having a healthy family that laughs and enjoys life every single day. For some, that is all they will ever need and all they can not live without.

True Capability

Did you know that the human brain has the memory storage which is equivalent of more than four terabytes on a hard drive?

That is intense and insane to actually think about.

Can you imagine if we actually used all that storage and filled it with things that are feeding our brains instead of stealing energy from it with doubt or bad food?

You are incredibly capable of anything you put your mind to. I know that sounds cliché and all but it’s the truth.

What we tell ourselves becomes our reality and our reality becomes what we live.

Gross. Who wants to live anything other than a happy and full life?

You deserve to live your best life. You deserve to fulfill your dreams and aspirations.

Give yourself the chance to find your true capability by challenging yourself.

By doing so time after time you will surely figure out your capabilities that are strong or weak. You do not need to be good at everything you just need to know that your capable of them.

Believe in yourself and the rest will follow.

You are your company

Keeping this short and sweet.

Knowing your environment is crucial.

Why? There is a saying and I would be surprised if you had not heard it or read it.

“You are the average of the FIVE people you spend the most time with.”

Now can I claim this is fact? Well surely I personally can’t but, if you think hard about it. It makes total sense.

You are in control of this and it’s up to you too decided how much you value your environment and the impact it makes on you.

If your okay with average, that’s great! Because that is apart of you.

Do you understand? Are you really letting this sink in?

The power YOU have with the proper set up, creates endless possibility.

Doesn’t that sound, so good?

So give it a shot, really put effort behind this. Think long and hard about how you want your life to be.

Once you narrow that down you are on your way to filtering your environment.

Giving space for people and things that humbly help you launch forward.

Sounds good, yeah?

You’ll never know until you try.

You are stronger than your Anxiety

 

Friends, if you are reading this it is most likely because, you struggle from Anxiety.

What form? I personally am not sure that it matters. Anxiety is a monster and no matter the size of a monster it is still a monster.

Suffering from Anxiety can be numbing and it can literally stop life for some. Debilitating is what word I would use.

Now, in this topic I feel like sharing a personal background story can help you understand why I am sharing these tips and where they come from.

Four years ago you would never see me worry about anything. I was carefree and the world was my oyster.

I definitely did not worry when I left my house to go grocery shopping or enjoy some hiking in the woods by myself.

Three years ago I got pregnant on purpose and not much changed in the carefree department until I was about 6 months along.

Things started to obviously come up in thought and i would ponder on things for the future. That is where I think the heat first started warming the water.

After our daughter was born and we relished in the newborn stage. Roughly around 8-9 months old I was doing a photoshoot for my daughter and long story short, three men honed in on us and it triggered the Anxiety that lived inside of me.

The anxiety we all have but takes something to trigger it on.

That experience and scare did it for me clearly.

After that day I have truly never been the same and my anxiety lives with me every single day. 

Except more recently over the last year, new anxieties will flare up over things I never knew existed. 

Now, what I can tell you is living with anxiety is possible. Managing it is the job.

When you suffer from Anxiety it is crucial to teach yourself to identify the root. What triggers it and why? How can you harness that issue and can you work thru it? Is it something that is so debilitating that you feel like you cant move? Try lifting your foot, just try. See what happens. If you fall, get back up and try again. Crawl if you have to but, do not give up.

Anxiety WILL steal everything from you if you allow it. Just remember you have the control. These are your feelings and you can stop the anxious by possibly using one or all of these tips.

Some may resonate with you and some might be an absolute non negotiable choice. That is completely up to you and I respect that.

But I truly believe and obviously it is merely my opinion and view from experience that you are capable of working thru this. You are stronger than your anxiety.

Sharing My Personal Anxiety Tips

TALK / COMMUNICATE / THERAPY

Figuring out what you need to talk about is always helpful but far from necessary.

You do not need a quick explanation to reach out for someone too talk to. All you need to do is communicate that you need to talk.

When you sit down to discuss the issues you are facing, remember you have no reason to hide anything. This is a chance to release and confine in someone. This could be an opportunity to discover a solution. Do not sway away from any urge to reach out and talk with someone.

No matter the size of the Anxiety, you should never sit alone in it.

Being an open book for someone does not come easy to everyone and for that there is always journaling. Which we will get to.

Just know that when you are ready or if your seeking it now, talking to someone is extremely therapeutic and can have massive positive impact. Especially if you are talking to the right person.

Which is also something that is really important to always keep in mind.

Breath

WebMD states here that these specific techniques can help alleviate the anxiety. Take a peek if your interested in their article.

Now the basics of breathing is not what I am referencing. Breathing comes in multiple ways and can actually be used for many purposes.

Birth, Sex, Running and even your friendly panic or anxiety attack. Amongst im sure other purposes.

Breathing can be a weapon against Anxiety and the sooner we learn to use it, the quicker we can alleviate the anxiety when it attacks.

Deep breaths that are intentional and calm. Breaths that flow up the nose and fill the chest. Only to suck in the stomach and breath out the mouth to exhale all the tension/anxiety coming from the chest.

I like to imagine my chest being the filter for my breath that is accompanied by anxiety.

To imagine that when you exhale and convince yourself that your anxiety has been filtered every time you take that deep breath.

The more deep and calm breathing you do the more the anxiety is filtered until you feel cleansed to move forward. Keep breathing.

Write / Journal

Writing is not for the faint of hearts but, journaling can be for anyone.

When writing is viewed in my eyes it is seen as a public post. When journaling is thought of, its pictured as a more private experience.

Can that be claimed as a fact? Probably not but, it honestly makes complete sense to me personally.

Now for some people writing is the option they choose when they want to be heard publicly. When you hear about someone journaling or perhaps you are a individual that does journal you think of private thoughts or perhaps a diary.

The journals with the twain wrapped around them or the little girl diaries you would get as a child with the silly keys.

Journaling is a personal experience and just is not intended to be shared. Which is absolutely okay and healthy. If you get it out of your head onto paper, it has a better shot at finding a place of peace.

Now if you have the gumption to write, then you are sure to get feedback.
Not everyone wants that and I actually completely understand. Not everyone has nice things to say and when you are sharing vulnerable feelings, the last thing you want to read or hear is something negative or off setting.

So, know where you want to be. Figure out if your anxiety is something you want to share or not. Public with feedback or private with a word release. Remember that putting thoughts on paper or computer can be a form of therapy.

Ernest Hemingway once said, “Write Hard and clear about what hurts.”

PRAYING

Now, I know this is not a space for everyone and that is completely okay.

But if I did not share this portion, I would not be my genuine self.

When we write I believe we should portray who we are genuinely the best we can thru words.

Praying can come in different practices and can be done literally anywhere.
Taking a moment sometimes to talk to God and to elaborate your feelings can truly be therapeutic.

Not everyone has someone they can turn to when they are low, feeling an attack approach or already present.

If you are open too a practice like this and talking to God but, have not done so yet. I would encourage you to simply just try.
See, naturally when you just get things off your chest and tell someone it feel good. (Most times)

Who better to tell than, God.

If this is not something you practice then perhaps do this.

Go outside, look up and take a gander at the beauty around you when you begin to feel anxious. Breath in the fresh air and realize your reality is what you create.

The beauty around you can be even more magical when, you use it for self-healing. Embracing the sunshine or even the cold winter.

Be grateful. Stay humble and remember that being stronger than your anxiety is hard but, not impossible.

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with your wherever you go.” – Joshua 1:9

Positivity in Five Simple Steps

In our day-to-day we all know that coming in contact with negativity is far too common. Even tho we are aware of the control, we still have to adjust our attitudes.

We slip and allow our days to begin with the complaint of being too tired.

You know when your alarm goes off and your laying in your most comfortable spot.

Warm and cozy with that favorite blanket you use.

You hit the snooze and roll over hoping it was all a dream.

I know just that feeling of tired and wanting to shut your eyes and forget about all the responsibilities to come for the day.

I get it.

Now, what we are simply forgetting is, the control we do have, to stop the negative thoughts in the beginning by mentally preparing ourselves the night before.

We can not all have dream jobs or be superstars. So the need to adjust and prepare the night prior is not strange at all.

Even though encouraging to train the brain to be excited for fresh starts is what we should be doing. Too look forward to what tomorrow can bring and what you can achieve.

I believe with every fiber in my body that you can do anything you set your mind to.

If being Positive is the one thing you are seeking to achieve, this is your sign and these are your steps.

If you truly and genuinely follow this method and not make a joke out of the simple things it takes. Well then, you are serious about being a more positive person for

whatever reason you are seeking it.

That is a great start!

We may not be able to control the ocean but we sure as heck can adjust the sails. Direct your own path with a firm belief in your journey to positivity.


HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE POSITIVITY IN YOUR LIFE

AFFIRMATIONS

This is something I find to be the most important one. I placed it at the top specifically for that reason.

When you wake up, before you even start your day or brush your teeth. Wake up and be Grateful. Sit up and take a nice deep breath, smile and appreciate it.

Get out of bed, go to your bathroom mirror and look at your reflection. This is honestly one of the pieces to my personal day that can either boost it or lose it. (Multiple times thru the day are allowed)

What I mean by that is, looking at the mirror and telling yourself with full conviction that you are amazing and smart. Feed yourself affirmations to jump-start your attitude, your belief in your day or even sometimes, yourself.

Do not be too proud.

We can not always wake up on the right side of the bed. That is just being unrealistic if you think that is possible. I encourage you to carve this exercise into your morning routine as it can be a very powerful tool for real life.

READ/AUDIO BOOKS (AKA: BRAIN JUICE)

Yes, I am referring to the old hard copy text books or you can be hip and listen too Audios now! Technology is so cool.

Brain Juice is feeding the brain, Kale VS French fries. Feeding your brain the proper juice is key.

Reading books or listening to them can truly launch your success leaps and bounds if you do it right. It can possess powerful nuggets that can shift and alter your thought process and the actual way you think and learn.

Personal growth is what most people refer to when they talk about reading books.
But you can also be taken on a totally awesome journey thru a juicy non-fiction novel.
However or whatever you read and feed your brain is crucial due to the results of how your brain responds and sparks.

When you listen to a scary non-fiction story first thing in your day or even thru your day. Does it fire you up? Make you feel fueled with motivation and creativity?
Or, does it just simply please the ear and allow you to escape from perhaps your reality?
I try to always keep that in mind so, sharing it felt right.

As Theadore Roosevelt once said, “I am apart of everything that I have read.”

NUTRITION/EXERCISE

I know that this can be very diverse and honestly not everyone will choose to manage doing one or the other or even both.

The sad part is that we are given the free will to make the right choice to take care of and nurture our one body. One liver, one heart, two kidneys, one stomach and yet we still feed and treat our bodies as if they are garbage disposals.

We follow it with a complaint of gaining weight or feeling sleepy. Perhaps this is you or perhaps you are one of the small portions of percentage that prioritize your health and body.

Now when I talk about Nutrition I simple mean this; when you have a muffin or a banana as a choice to pair with your already high sugar and high calorie coffee, I would suggest the banana. Right? Wrong. However, today we choose the muffin. I get it, the muffin is much tastier and so much more satisfying.

But, I assure you that your energy later will feed off that banana a lot longer and better than the high carb muffin. These small choices make huge impact on us thru our days. If we feed our bodies what they truly deserve instead of what our mouths find desirable. I believe, human race could live a healthier and more positive life.

As far as talking about Exercise, I am simply saying go for a walk. It is proven that a simple 15 minutes a day can improve multiple things for you.
If you are the individual that enjoys the hardcore workouts where you are barely breathing and sweating like you just took a shower. Continue kicking butt and perhaps go and encourage those around you! For those of you that just need to take it slow and steady, invest in yoga. You will not regret it.

So remember, Kale or French fries?

INFLUENCE(S)

Now I am sure you have heard the quote stating, “You are the result of the five people you surround yourself with.” If you have not heard it, now you have.

See, it is incredibly easy to turn on the tv and find out some horrible news or perhaps a scary flick turns on. You could simply just be at a work doing your job and yet you are surrounded by the complaints of everyone around you.

If you have an office, be grateful.

However, it is also just as easy to choose the people you listen too.
I know that when you’re at work you may not be able to control everything you are hearing or picking up as you just walk by or sit at your cubicle perhaps.

But what we can do is filter what we allow in our brains. We can choose to hear the complaints or we can choose to point out solutions.

Is that a harder task? Yes. But being positive in your day will fuel you much longer and much stronger than as if you lead it with a negative mind.

Designing your environment can not always be an option in all situations. But, when you have your opportunities to create your environment, by choosing what and who is around you.

Just wait and see the results of how you feel and what you do, by surrounding yourself with it and them.

“I was told once that if I was the smartest person in the room, I was in the wrong room.”
Choose to be around those that enlighten your positivity and knowledge to be better.

MUSIC

I honestly am not sure I can elaborate in words just how impactful music can be on you.

Music can be forgotten sometimes when you live a busy life. A life that doesn’t allow time to tune-in and vibe with good music.

Sometimes your head is so buried in work and personal life that you hardly have time to look up at the mirror and give those self talks we all need.

When you do have the time to give yourself those moments of encouragement be sure you are feeding yourself truth and empowerment.

But, if or when you can’t find the time or words, I assure you that music can.

When you think you do not have time to boost yourself up or perhaps, you really don’t and you stretch every single moment.

Either way, music is a soul feeder. Which is what I call it and consider it to be the deepest you can get from a source of sound.

The energy your feeling if you are excited because, your perhaps headed on a vacation. I bet by playing some super upbeat dance music sure would hype the vibe.
I bet if you were feeling down and sad, listening to a love song or something about loss might not be the best option if you’re looking to feel better.

Does this make sense?

So grab your ear buds, find a space you vibe and allow yourself to feel music that releases the positivity inside of you.

In the end, “Music is the strongest form of Real Magic.” –Marilyn Manson

“Friends” on Social Media

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Perhaps there will be a negative number of friends left on my personal page once this is read.

Either way, truth is truth and it goes both ways.


Have you ever looked at your friends list on whatever platform you use daily and know for a fact that not even 1/3 of those people are your friends?

Now, I understand if you use social media as a hub for connecting and marketing your business or perhaps even yourself as a brand. This is justified in having a large amount of followers.

We just need to be sure we understand the difference between friends and followers. Because trust me, definition of friends can not be compared to followers. It just does not mix.

Okay, so I have roughly 400 friends on my personal Facebook page. Let me be really honest here, I only talk to maybe 15 of those people regularly.

Knowing over half of the people on my friends list are from my past or simply called friends because of a list on Facebook. Reality checks them off as, acquaintances or simply a name on my list.

Why do we want on our personal pages to have SO many friends?

I mean in reality, nobody can talk to that many people regularly.

When I say, “That many people.” I am referring to those that have personal pages with over 2k friends.

I mean, create a page following if you are looking for that. Right?

Are we trying to fool ourselves?

Is this coming off too brash or rude?

Not my intention but also not, not my intention.

Having the small but sorta big number of friends on my list, only maybe 1/10 will ever actually support me and my personal goals while following my personal page…

Why are you friends with me?

Why are we friends with people when we really are not?

Why do we try to alter the BEAUTIFUL and MEANINGFUL definition of a friend?

Currently with all transparency I am having a moment of clarity that I am also someone who is friends with people or follow people who have no relevance or purpose in my life.

Clear out time?

Sometimes I think the number we see on a screen is reality to us.

When really if you take away all the fake, all the likes and pretend friends. You end up with a bare feed of news and recipes. About a handful of friends and followers left. Usually about 1/3 is worth keeping around.

I suppose that depends on the number you currently have for your friends list.

I think it’s important to start being real with ourselves.


For multiple reasons

Mentally we all need clarification that social media with all that it creates and hides isn’t reality.

Emotionally it is vital and non negotiable to not allow numbers and media too make you feel less than anything outside of magical and capable of endless possibilities.

Physically social media has dumbed down society to believe we need to look like a Barbie or walk around like we own shit, or something like that. Tight bodies, flabby ones, skinny ones or just plain plump figures. We are all perfectly made!


I hope and encourage you to not allow social media to let you feel anything else.

I also want to add the most important thoughts I had meant to intentionally share here.

Stop pretending to be friends with someone if you’re not.

If you are not prioritizing or making effort to keep friendship or create it. Then you don’t want it as bad as you say. Stop hiding behind social media and calling that connection a friendship. We all know how friendship is created and it surely is not real, if its not real.

If you see a post on social media made by a friend or even a friend of a friend. LIKE IT. LOVE IT. Show support anyway you possibly can.

It means something to that person.

Your love and support no matter how close, means something.

So if you’re gonna follow people or be friends with them but never actually meet.

Heck most the time it’s just a friend add and that is as far as it goes.

If that is the case, show the love. Show support.

Social media can be a lot of bad, but it can also be a powerhouse for good.

Let’s spread more good. Let’s be more genuine. Let’s be more encouraging and supportive to our friends.

Because in the end isn’t social media all about spreading the word?

Why do we do it?

Someone once told me that if you don’t believe in yourself, nobody else will either.

At that moment the comment was not invited nor reciprocated in a positive manner.

Even though looking back it was merely a wise piece of advice.

I now use that small sentence to motivate me at my low moments of seeking out belief from others. To turn around looking in the mirror, knowing it’s my responsibility to first have the belief in myself before it would ever be given.

Why do we demean ourselves and the conviction of what we believe in or do?

Why do we not stand tall when someone asks us simply, “what do you do?”

Why do we shy away from our paths even when no career is in place?

Why do we care so much about other people and their opinions?

Why?

Those are simply just a few questions that came to mind which I know have been questioned. (Personal experience)

Do you ever ask yourself why we seek out validation?

Knowing a few individuals who have personality types that are absolute on needing validation.

Yet, behind doors they have zero belief in themselves.

How can there be true fulfillment?

Behind doors they cry in fear of what others think.

Why do we do this to ourselves?

Last year, blogging came into my life and forever has changed it. Being a stay at home mom with no consistent income and a husband who was tired and supporting us with loads of love.

You see when I began the journey a lot of people questioned me and my choice of what the hell I was doing or trying to learn too do.

Of course being the odd duck and always being outside the box.

But, the pressure actually got to me and the hiatus happened.

I had allowed them and the opinions to win.

How dare I!

After the hiatus and hard realization of feeling something missing, blogging came back to my life and here I am.

My point to the short story is simply that if I would of listened, if I would not have believed in myself enough.

This would not be here right now.

The improvement and knowledge gained would not be here right now.

The important thing was, the thing that was missing and created that short break.

Was belief in myself.

Being so busy seeking out validation and belief from other people, I simply forgot to see it in myself.

Which lead me to writing this short but sweet message. In hopes to encourage or enlighten another.

Next time you feel like your doing something for you and something that lights you on fire.

Something that you can not let go of and forget.

Don’t. Do not stop fighting for it.

Believe in yourself. Believe that you are capable of literally anything you allow your mind to learn and do.

Remember how powerful you are and that belief in yourself, is some type of power on its own.

Oh what the Holiday’s Bring!

 


What type of person are you?


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Are you someone that prepares for holiday shopping 3 or more months ahead?

Do you budget out and save properly to ensure all the things for the holiday?

Can you count on 2 hands the number of things you need to accomplish?

Don’t worry if you said, “No.” Because it’s not about what you have been doing, it’s about what you can start doing!


Oh the weather outside is frightful


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Wrong! It’s white and glistening! It’s fresh and crisp! It’s cold but is prepping for a new beginning in Spring.

Perspective my friends.

Wherever you are in the world I hope you enjoy all the beauty this time of year brings.

Personally, the Pacific Northwest starts getting chilly in mid-October. By the end of November, it is really damn cold!

For instance, it is 33 degrees Fahrenheit currently outside. Christmas is only twenty-four days away and there are six gifts to still be picked out and purchased.

Now, even tho Christmas and this time of year should not be about gifts and spending money, it sure feels good to give.

When people tell me that we don’t need to buy them a gift or we don’t need to plan and ask too early.

My response is this, “We are spending money on something for you because we want to give to you. We also want to be sure we gift you with something you will love and use.”

Truly this season and all the giving it allows, Is truly beautiful.

So bundle up and get out there to give back to someone you love and cherish!


We always have to save!


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Now there is nothing wrong with not being able to whip out 500$ or more for gift buying during the season.

We simply budget properly per gift, per person and we make that happen.

Because in the end, it is the thought that counts.

Budgeting strategically can seriously save you hundreds of dollars. If you have never done it and just go with the flow. You should try it one year and see what you can achieve!

But, perhaps your a saver and an individual who takes gift buying to the extreme. Pricing out each gift and purchasing as sales happen. Go, you!

Simply we have over twenty gifts every year to pick and purchase.

Yes. You read the headline properly.

Between children, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, each other and our daughter we have a lot happening.

Also, there are roughly 8 birthdays that happen between the last week of October thru the last weekend of January.

The gift picking is the most stressful only because a lot of people have a difficult time giving ideas.

Something personally that has never been an issue for myself. Giving ideas is the easy part!

However, I would say only about 1/3 give ideas and the rest we wing it! Somehow we have been pretty successful over the last 10 years.

If you are somewhere warm and sunny with sand and blue waters. Please come and pick me up. Ha!

I’m totally kidding!img_1283

I hope you all take the time to actually enjoy the gift buying this year. Even when it can be exhausting and the creativity gets low.

Think about the faces that happen and expressions retrieved when those gifts are given.

Thank you for reading! Have a beautiful week!img_0544

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