Can you believe…
About six years ago I was fortunate enough to meet a few people that had a great impact and influence on my life. Sadly they are no longer in our lives but, not on bad terms. Just terms that business relationships grew apart. They are and will always be incredible people that made a difference in my life. Isn’t it neat how we can come in contact with individuals in life yet they will only serve a short-term purpose? I have always found it fascinating how destiny just happens.
Anyhow, during the time they were coaching us thru our business and giving us tools to grow personally as well as being a business owner.
Over the time frame of the first year, I was working with them, I had read 8 books. Eight! I hadn’t picked up a book and read the entire thing before that for years. Truth. Something inside me felt like I was doing it for a purpose. Which made me feel more inclined to read and learn what I was being directed to do.
Twenty-Seven years old, married for almost one year at this point and handed a book. A book I literally had never laid eyes on, been informed about nor had I ever heard of what they were talking about.
Gary Chapman an author which I will never forget because even tho I had read eight books prior to this one. This particular book I knew was going to be good for me. There are a few things that I personally struggle with giving. Probably with how I was raised or who I spent my time with. It could even simply be the information I was taught along my time growing up.
The Five Love Languages. This book is something I encourage every single person I meet to read. I believe that this book can later someone’s perspective on understanding how to love someone. If you have not read it, the link is above! I encourage you to do so, as soon as possible. You will not regret it.
In the book, they obviously talk about the 5 Love Languages and I do not want to spoil it for you. So this is what I want to do, I want to list out the five different languages that Gary lists here in his book.
- Quality Time
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch
Now, I only want to list the topics because I would love for you to first write down what you think these mean to you. What you think your love language is and what you think your spouse or partners are. Before you do anything else and go research stuff or read more. Do that first!
So, when I initially learned about this amazing way to love people and make them feel good. I was compelled to share it with anyone I could. If you were having any type of relationship issue, I would always suggest this book. Now I know it sounds weird and crazy to some people to have a “love tank.” But I assure you it is a real thing and when it is full it feels really good.
When I asked my family members and a lot of people I just generally associate with, they had no clue what I was talking about. Which I was not totally surprised since I had not very long ago either. So, I shared! I loaned my book or I would simply inform on where to go or what to look up. I truly believe in all my being that love languages are vital to a healthy and sustainable relationship.
Click here to take a fun little Quiz for your Love Language type!
If that be a best friend, a child, a pet or your husband and wife. Every living thing has a way it wants to be loved. A way that fills their heart and makes them feel loved. For example, I will use myself because that is the best testimony someone can have, right?
My whole life I basically grew up with no father figure. So for any type of healthy example to be given on how to love a man or a man to love a woman was not really exampled to me. My parents are great people so please don’t misunderstand. But, how could I possibly learn to compliment a man and know that they need affirmations just like women might if I was never shown the example?
Long story short, when I met my husband he is a man of affirmations. I had no idea how to give that to a man nor did I even know what Love languages were then. My Language is Acts of Service. So when someone does not know how to give the proper love to the other person, they tend to give the love they seek. (RE READ THAT last sentence) Which in the end is pretty disserving if the receiver is affirmations. Make sense? You will get tired of putting energy into a bucket with a hole. Trust me.
I mean it is nice for me to do things for my husband but, he would rather me compliment him on how proud I am of him. Instead of wash his car. Ha! When in my world, I want my car washed! HAHA! Who knew this stuff was real?! But it is. You should really give attention because I am telling you the reward is worth the effort. I think a great addition for ANY bookshelf. They also have a Children’s Love language book that I also Highly encourage you to take a peek at if you have children.
Anyways, I hope you were able to learn something here today or perhaps enjoy a fun little quiz and say you learned something about yourself.
Keep in mind that sharing is caring! Hugs!